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I have loved metaphors and parables, and this one has so much to share in a few lines. The last part of the quote, simply sit with them quietly and share your light. This is the act of holding space, to empty ourselves of our own character to make space for the person, without inquisitiveness or judgement.
What I realized is someone who is going through a fit of anger, doesn't really want a solution to the problem, but they're looking for a way to release.
As the saying goes of taking the horse to the water, but you can't get it to drink. You can try as much as you like to catalyse change in order to manifest different situational outcomes. But people outgrow themselves only when they start to analyse and see the patterns they follow and want to step out of this loop and evolve.
Personally I don't think holding space is easy, if you haven't learnt how to hold space for yourself it's virtually like you're pouring from an empty cup.
In one of the sharing circles we had to wait for one of the participants to join us, everyone, even the healer, asked us to be patient. We waited for a good ten minutes, my internal chatter was I would never make a bunch of people wait for me, striding on my high horse.
Today, I realize that it isn't holding space, it's basically just me without emptying myself. So when you hold space for someone it's important to not have any preconceived notions of how things should be, how you would react in a similar situation, how things can be made better are just ways of invalidating the situation or person.
Be there, be quiet <3
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