Hi ,

What is the first thing that came to mind when you read the subject "the love for imperfect things"?

Did it trigger a thought about someone else, a thing, an animal or was it about you? I'm going to put a little passage down here,

When you care for yourself first,
the world will also find you worthy of care.

In the same way that when you’re in love and
you want to spend time with only that person,
try spending time on yourself—
you deserve your care and attention.
Treat yourself to a delicious meal,
a good book, a nice walk with a lovely view.
As you would invest in the person you love,
so you should invest in yourself.

My dear friend:
Because there is some part of you
that is imperfect or broken,
it can motivate you to work hard
to overcome it, and can ultimately bring you success in life.
It can also help you relate to others
and become more compassionate.
Do not despair over what is imperfect in yourself.
Instead, look at your flaws with love.

It’s okay that you have flaws.
How could our lives be as clean and white
as a blank sheet of paper?
Life naturally takes a toll
on our bodies, our minds, and our relationships.
Rather than choosing a life in which you do nothing
for fear of making a mistake,
choose a life that improves through failure and pain.And shout out loud to your struggling self,
“I love you so much.”

This passage has been taken from the book, "Love for Imperfect Things," by Haemin Sunim. 

There's so much in this tiny book, every chapter has some insight, some wisdom, some confirmations and some mind-shifting perspectives.

But I want this email to be a reminder for every one of us that no matter what our past is, our imperfections, we're always worth of our love first. Some of us always look at what's good for others, we think to ourselves, "how can I be of help" or we feel that, worthiness comes from being appreciated.

The thing is one needs to ensure that the things you do are good for yourself first, there's nothing wrong in putting yourself first. Especially if you're someone who always ends up getting the work no one else wants to do, or ends up being used in corporate or family scenarios.

Not finding yourself worthy or looking for appreciation to feel good stems from a variety of reasons, such as childhood trauma and the kind of relationships we have had.