“You must change in order to find your truest self. And keep changing. The false idol is any form that hangs around too long and gets fossilized. It’s worth considering that if your ideas of God don’t change, then your ideas are dead. God is not dead. He simply went elsewhere because you were too boring.” ~ Bradford Keeney
Do you want to remain stuck? Do you wish to spiritually stagnate? Do you fancy being boring? Then all you have to do is reject change, become fossilized in your beliefs, remain imprisoned by your worldview, and embrace your cognitive dissonance like a good little comfort-zone dependent co-dependent. Not enough for you?
Okay then, here are four more ways to remain stuck in a false destiny.
1. Fear everything
“The great enemy of truth is very often not the lie –deliberate, contrived and dishonest- but the myth –persistent, persuasive and unrealistic. Too often we hold fast to the clichés of our forebears. We subject all facts to a prefabricated set of interpretations. We enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.” ~ JFK
The world can be a scary place, especially within a culture that preys upon the paranoid insecurity of its own people. We’re preconditioned to fear each other. In some cases perhaps we should.
But we’ll never know how to distinguish between preconditioned fear and real fear until we courageously question all so-called authorities. You want to make sure you get stuck in a false destiny?
Then by all means fear everything. Fear the government. Fear the law. Fear the dreaded “other.” Fear the state. Fear your neighbors. Fear being vulnerable. Build a hardened shell of invulnerability. Become a tank. Block all things. Sidestep any and all knowledge that doesn’t keep you safe and secure.
Don’t question anything. But, if you want to discover an authentic destiny, then you’ll have to get uncomfortable. You’ll have to dismantle the tank. You’ll have to get vulnerable, really vulnerable. You’ll have to become courageous.
You’ll have to get in the face of authority. You’ll have to absorb new knowledge and reject that which insults your soul. Every single day you are at a crossroads. Every single day you are faced with a choice. One path is hardened invulnerability, the other is absolute vulnerability. The choice is yours.
Like Derrick Jensen said, “No redemption can be found in the avoidance of difficult issues. Redemption comes only after we have moved through the horrors of our present situation to the better world that lies beyond it. By confronting the problem as courageously as we can and at the same time presenting alternatives, our barriers to clarity, including our false hopes, may crumble to reveal previously unseen possibilities.”
2. Wait around for something to happen
“Not to dream boldly may turn out to be irresponsible.” ~ George Leonard
Do you want to ensure you get stuck in a false destiny? Wait until you retire to travel. Wait until you are rich to do anything. Wait around for a miracle. Wait for something, anything. Whatever you do, don’t do anything authentic. Don’t do anything genuine. Stick to the mundane. Stick to the ordinary routine. Stick to the daily grind.
Hey, maybe you’ll win the lottery! You’re just one person anyway. What can one person do? You might as well just sit this one out. Twiddle your thumbs until kingdom come. Stay locked up safe in your domestication. Burn the days away working nine-to-five for corporations that might as well be plantations and you their slave. Or, you can slit the yoke.
You can liberate yourself. You can grab your destiny by the throat and start laying down some tracks. Rail by rail, tie by tie, your groundwork can slowly become a railroad. With enough time you can begin the difficult work of designing your own Train of Destiny. But you’ll have to do the scary work of figuring out what works for you and what doesn’t, which means getting derailed more than once, a thousand times if you’re lucky.
Like Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
3. Wait around for someone else to do something
“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” ~ Oscar Wilde
Imagine if Martin Luther King had decided to wait around for somebody else to “have a dream.” Imagine if Gandhi had decided to sit out the Salt March, thinking to himself, “Surely somebody else will do it.” No, Gandhi, nobody else would have done it.
The Crashing Airplane analogy comes into play here. In order to be there for others who are less capable, you need to secure the oxygen mask on yourself first. If our unhealthy, unsustainable culture is indeed a “crashing plane” then we need more people who are capable of putting the mask on themselves first so that they can be there for people who are less capable. You must be healthy of mind, body and soul if you are going to be the type of person who can help others become healthy in mind, body and soul.
That’s why you put the mask on first. It takes a person willing to redefine courage itself to right this type of crashing plane. But if you want to remain stuck in a false destiny then by all means wait for someone else to be the hero. The problem is that this “hero” may never show up.
Joel Salatin put it poignantly: “What do you mean, “What can I do?”
You can participate. You can connect. You can get actively involved. You can turn off the TV… Just like today — whatever today looks like — is the manifestation of billions of individual decisions accumulated over time, tomorrow will be too. We must stop this incessant victimhood mentality.
Somebody else will not fix things. Somebody else will not make me healthy. Somebody else will not make me happy. These things are my responsibility. Not the neighbor’s, not the government’s, not the church or the civic club. Mine!”
4: Curse the darkness
“If people base their identity on identifying with authority, freedom causes anxiety. They must then conceal the victim in themselves by resorting to violence against others.” ~ Arno Gruen
This is probably the easiest way to remain caught in a false destiny. Taking the pitiful woe-is-me approach to stagnation only requires a boo-hoo, whiny sob-story of shoulda-woulda-coulda, while curling up into a cry-baby ball in the corner and railing at the universe for not fulfilling your every wish and desire.
Do you want to remain stuck? Curse the darkness. Do you want to keep from actually doing anything? Complain about everything. Do you want to stay safe and secure in your victimhood? Don’t do anything courageous. Do you want to keep your beliefs and your worldview secure?
Don’t think outside the box. Don’t stretch your comfort zone. Don’t question anything. Do you want to remain codependent? Don’t be proactive about anything and simply wait for a “savior.” Do you want to keep the current paradigm of human governance intact?
Stay cooped up in an unhealthy, unsustainable, overindulgent, superficial, materialistic lifestyle of one-upmanship that keeps you chasing your own tail while a few people at the top of the giant Ponzi Scheme reap all the benefits and leave the planet bleeding and dying at their feet.
It’s so easy it’s stupid. Just stay comfortable. Stay secure. Stay safe. Stay stupid. Surely someone else who is smarter and more capable will come along and “right the ship.” In the meantime you have celebrity gossip, armchair quarterbacking, and bipartisan claptrap to keep you distracted. So it goes, and c’est la vie!