Here’s a secret: Life is not happening TO us, life is happening THROUGH us. We don’t HAVE to be a victim of circumstances, unless of course we choose to be. Our perspective about life is shaping our outer reality. When people start to take life too seriously or start to become paralyzed by events that are happening to them, they forget how powerful they really are. We have the power to change our perspective at any point in time and therefore change how life appears. We actually have the power to set our own rules to our own particular game of life and change how our life looks.
Here’s how it works: Our beliefs about life shape our outer reality and set the rules of the game. The Universe (or God whichever you choose to call it) is our co-creator in our game. It is constantly trying to prove its existence to us by giving us outward affirmation of our beliefs about it. If we believe life is hard, we are unlucky or nothing good ever happens to us, then the universe says, “Great! You believe life is hard and you are unlucky? I will give you circumstances that prove to you how powerful you and I are. I will give you circumstances that make your life hard and show how unlucky you are.”
However, if we believe life is amazing and things always work out for us and that there is a positive in every seemingly negative circumstance, the universe proves this to us as well. It is always matching us, and showing us what powerful co-creators we can be, by giving us exactly what we truly believe and what we expect. In theory it sounds very easy, but a problem comes when we have underlying or unconscious belief systems that we may not even be aware are there.
It is very common for most people to be holding on to some limiting beliefs about life that they have no idea they even have, which is consequently making their life game harder than it needs to be. If you are not pleased by the way your particular game of life is going, here are some of the more common unconscious beliefs that many people have that they may not have addressed, and some daily mantras and affirmations to do in order to re-program our thoughts and consequently change the rules of our game:
1. Do I feel deserving?
This is a big one. If we don’t truly, TRULY believe we deserve to be successful, or fall in love or being living the life of our dreams, the universe cannot manifest it for us. We must believe we deserve the best in order to receive the best. When you meditate picture in your mind being the person who has all the things you could ever want, maybe it’s your dream job, your dream spouse or living in your dream home. Does it feel comfortable or does it feel completely unbelievable or even uncomfortable to picture yourself so happy? If it’s the latter it may mean you don’t truly feel deserving. Make your daily mantra, “I deserve (insert whatever you want, whether it be love, success, abundance etc…).
2. Do I TRULY think things are working out for the best? Or is there still a part of me that worries that my whole life is falling apart before my eyes?
Sometimes things happen to us that are unplanned. Either we can be convinced that it’s the worst thing ever, in which case we sit in resistance and end up blocking the sunshine behind the “cloud”, or we can always believe it’s for the best… EVEN if it’s not what we had planned. If you are believing in your fear instead of trusting the universe’s timing you may miss out on all the good things that are coming to you because of the situation at hand. Make your daily mantra, “All is well. Everything is always working out in my favor.”
3. Do I believe it will be hard to make my dreams come true? Or do I believe amazing opportunities will come to me?
You make the rules! So why not picture opportunities and magical events and miraculous circumstances coming TO you? Believe in magic and the universe will start to put you in the right places at the right time. When you start noticing tiny miracles, and synchronicities happening to you, show your gratitude that the universe is giving you the proof that your beliefs are in fact starting to manifest, but pay attention. Some synchronicities will be big and some will be smaller. Make your daily mantra, “Amazing things happen to me. I manifest miracles.”
4. Do I place blame on others or do I understand that everything that happens to me, I have consciously or unconsciously invited into my life experience for a reason?
So many of us get stuck in the blame game. Anytime we feel sadness, anger, frustration etc… we point the finger outside of ourselves and blame another for making us feel a certain way. But no one can MAKE us feel any way. Our feelings are responses generated by us based on what we believe and expect other people to act like. We can use our feelings constructively by asking ourselves “What does my reaction to them teach me about myself?” Or, “Where am I attached to my sense of self in this situation that is making me feel offended or upset?”
When we look at everything in the terms that we invited it into our experience, we feel empowered and waste less time focused outside and instead deal with our internal selves, which will make us not only love ourselves unconditionally but we stop believing we are victims of other people’s behavior. Make your daily mantra, “I love myself no matter what. I love myself unconditionally”
5. Can I find the fun or silliness in almost any situation?
Many people these days get stressed about the tiniest things. They get worked up in their head about things that they have to do months from now, or whether or not people are mad at them, or did they say the wrong thing in their business meeting. People can literally worry themselves sick about things they have no control over in the present moment.
When we believe that nothing is ever as serious as people seem to make it out to be, we actually see that 99% of “problems” work themselves out whether or not we worried about them or not. As the Dalai Lama says “If it can be solved, there is no need to worry, and if it can’t be solved, worry is of no use.” Make your daily mantra, “Life is an amazing experience, only good things come to me.”
Life can be a fun game or it can be all doom and gloom. The amazing thing is we have the absolute power to set our player mode on “easy”, “moderately hard”, or “difficult” and we can choose to change our settings at any time. As for me, I will choose “easy, fun, and exciting” as the settings on my game of life. What do you choose?