It is very common in the beginning stages of our spiritual journey for our newly found philosophies about life to slyly intermingle with our ego. As our excitement and hunger for more spiritual understanding grows, we may begin to want to shout from the rooftops that we have finally found it!
We have finally found “the truth” and naturally we want to share this with all of our friends, family, and who ever will listen that the world is not what it seems and they must know.
It all happens innocently enough as the old “us” begins to drop away to make room for the new us that is being re-born. However, there is a certain stage that most spiritual seekers encounter in between waking up from the duality consciousness of the third dimension (where everything is either seen as “good” or “bad”, “right” or “wrong”) and fully resonating in unity consciousness (where everything is seen as perfect and just “is”) where our ego is beginning to unravel but is still lingering in some areas.
This stage of our journey can be referred to as “spiritual ego”, and it is when we find ourselves talking about our faith, philosophies and beliefs rather than embodying them. This stage is often characterized by the person who is telling us who they are, rather than showing us. The opinions and judgments about others and life are still there, however they are more spiritual in nature.
As mentioned above, this happens innocently by our ego as it becomes excited by the new knowledge and understanding it has found and wants desperately to maintain it’s status in our being, and it attempts to do so by putting on it’s spiritual mask so that it may remain relevant. However, eventually it is important for us to unravel this part of our ego as well.
At a certain point, we must stop talking about our beliefs, truth and philosophies and only begin embodying them. We must wake up from trying to convince people of anything and simply become our truth. So how do we do this? How do we firstly know if this is what we are doing (because often it is happening so innocently that we have no idea it is even happening), and if we realize we are, how do we wake up out of it?
“You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.” ~ Brene Brown
Be your authentic self
As with many things in life, and this particular issue is no different, honesty is the best policy. The type of honesty I am referring to has nothing to do with anyone else, however.
This is the honesty where we get completely real with our own self and begin a intense self-inquiry that requires us to pinpoint the motivation behind all of our behaviors, and the emotional reactions that are brought about because of our interactions with others.
Some of the questions we must ask ourselves in order to decipher whether our “truth” is making use of us vs. us making use of it are: At the point where I realize that someone else is not necessarily agreeing with what I am saying, do I find myself trying to convince them? Am I angered by the actions of others who I perceive as less “evolved” than I am? Am I angry or frustrated when I feel like I am not being understood? Am I judging someone else as “wrong” if they do not agree with my beliefs?
Asking ourselves these questions should not be as a means to judge our selves, but simply to get a more honest depiction of where we are and to form a more authentic connection with our hearts.
It is important to remember that there is no “wrong” place to be in our spiritual process, everything is happening exactly as it should but the more aware we become of why we are doing the things we do, the quicker fear based attachments and belief systems begin to unravel through our awareness of them alone.
And that is perhaps the most miraculous part of this whole process, the fact that we (our awareness) are the light that can disperse any darkness. What this means is, the part of us that fiercely needs to cling to it’s sense of self, even if that sense of self is wearing a spiritual or philosophical costume, and promote itself with it’s own “sales pitch” is based in fear. Love never needs to convince anyone of anything because it doesn’t judge anyone else as “wrong” for being exactly where they are.
And since the truth of our being is the light that can dispel this fear, all it takes is being aware that we are doing it to begin to unravel it all automatically. The minute we become simply aware of any fear based attachment, emotion or behavior without judging it as wrong, and then sending love to these parts of our selves is the minute it starts to disappear out of our energy field. Ultimately, unconditional love (and that means even loving the parts of us that are getting frustrated by not being understood by others) is the only thing that moves us through talking about what a good person we are to simply being a good person.
“When you exist as your authentic self, you live the truth of your being.” ~ Ora Nadrich
Living our truth is something that should never require effort. If we notice we are putting a lot of effort into maintaining our “image”, or to becoming more forgiving, compassionate or open-minded, we can be assured that we have missed a very important step in our journey. We don’t jump from adopting new belief systems to completely embodying them all in one day, so we must be patient with ourselves.
The more real and intimate we get with our own hearts we will begin to cultivate a more humble and honest approach to life and our spiritual journey. This more authentic approach will over time begin to make way for a simple living of our own truth to be in actuality, the only option we have. At this point we realize that trying to change others forcefully never works.
What does work is surrendering to the fact that the only person we have any power over is ourselves, and that power never comes from becoming more disciplined but rather unconditionally loving of everything about ourselves to the point that all fear-based emotions and beliefs can’t keep fighting us when we are simply loving them. As talking about our truth evolves into living our truth we find that we naturally become an inspiration for others, our light begins to awaken the light in others… and not one ounce of effort was required.