“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” ~ Maya Angelou
No matter how many brilliant ideas and plans we have in our minds, there comes a time where we feel stuck. Staying stagnant in our dreams and goals can feel suffocating.
As humans we want nothing more than to move forward, evolve, and actualize ourselves. As enlightened beings, it can feel even more urgent, but it can be hard to take all the whirling thoughts and dreams and bring them into fruition.
If you are feeling stuck or stagnant, here are a few ways to get things moving.
1) “What would you do if you could go undetected, and free from judgment?”
Asking this question, and perhaps writing your response on this subject is an amazing way to look at your dreams and goals. You will suddenly realize that you know what you want to do, and why you haven’t done it yet. When I wrote on this subject, I realized I had been underachieving from the fear of judgment, both from myself and others.
I was then able to set realistic goals to start me on a path of doing the things I cared about, and working according to my capabilities, instead of selling myself short. Most people will find that the things they wished they were doing seem like wishful thinking, but you can start small.
Sometimes our dreams can be attained through baby steps. Pick up a “wishful thinking” hobby and notice how simple it can be to just do it. When people are asked what they most regret in life, it is never the things they did, but the things they wish they had done.
2) Affirm your dreams and capabilities
“If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you will see obstacles.” ~ Wayne Dyer
I am a big believer in positive affirmations. We create our own reality and therefore the things we tell ourselves have a direct influence over our actions. Write down a few affirmations to hang on your wall or desk to get the ball rolling. Some examples are below.
“I am capable of reaching my goals and dreams.”
“I know what I want and how to make it a reality.”
“I am able to succeed in anything I put my mind to.”
“I respect my dreams and work to make them reality.”
“No dream is too big for me to achieve.”
3) Make a schedule of your day
Do you know how much time you spend on the computer? Procrastinating tasks? Watching television or spacing out? How much of your day is spent working towards your goals, and how much is merely spent?
Pick a day and write a list throughout the day of how much time you spent on each task. Such as:
2:00-3:00 = Food shopping.
3:00-4:00 = Watch a show.
4:00-5:00 = Writing.
5:00-5:30 = Exercise.
The point is not to look at your list and weed out the unproductive things, but to start doing more of the things that you like, or find important. Slowly you will get used to doing the important things, and naturally weeding out the rest in the process.
This also gives you a new awareness of how you spend your time and makes you feel calmer by noticing how much free time you have in the day to work toward your goals.
4) Surround yourself with good role-models
“Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.” ~ George Sheehan
In order to be successful and allow yourself to dream big, it is always helpful to be around people who are achieving their personal aspirations. Having a person close to you who is making their dreams a reality gives you a strong boost of faith and belief.
To see someone else working hard and achieving tells us that it is indeed possible. This also gives us the opportunity to gain advice and wisdom from those who walk before us. A simple “How did you manage this?” or “How can I do such and such..?” can go a long way in helping you down your path. This leads us to…
5) Don’t be afraid to ask questions
In order to succeed in fulfilling your dreams and goals you will have to come outside of your comfort zone and ask lots of questions. We are all naturally curious creatures, some more than others, but fear holds us back from asking and finding out more. Act as a child would, and ask about anything that interests you. Nurture your instinctual curiosity.
You can also ask questions in order to learn hands on, such as: “How can I help?” If you are working toward a goal that seems unattainable, go to an expert and ask how you can be of service, free of charge, just a curious bystander that wants to help. This will bring you right to the source of your goals.
No matter what your goal is, we all have something in common; to have our dreams and goals fulfilled. Whether you’re working towards a job, a way of life, fulfillment in a hobby or relationship, or a goal to better the world; it all starts with the simple thought of “I can do it,” and then gets pushed into action.
Make a small change today, whether it’s in attitude or putting down the first building block of an idea. New opportunities are available every day.