“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.” ~ John Lennon
Doing what scares you has become one of the many truisms within the current spiritual wave (I don’t want to say community as I believe it is universal), and we often find the real meaning gets lost. We can become detached – in a negative sense – to this little nugget of wisdom and ironically the knowledge it carries completely passes us by.
But could there be two sides to fear; one that inhibits and one that expands our life? At times perhaps we confuse exhilaration for more negative experiences of fear, which then becomes a trap or an excuse not to act.
Leo Gura, blogger and life coach, says that to live a successful, actualized life we need to become a results maker; making six month/yearly plans and going from one goal achieved to another. This is an entrepreneurial success story, but it takes the ongoing examination of what is holding us back in order to go forward. Something that many of us are still struggling with, especially those who are governed by the right, intuitive hemisphere of the brain.
Teal Swan and Lee Harris talk about jumping on board the collective manifestation we are being propelled towards in the new year and accepting it, even if it scares us silly. To accept this fear we have – that we are approaching world war three – is a fear the cultural and political narrative has been speculating about, and perhaps even ‘attracting’ since the last world war ended. What we don’t want to do is become afraid of what we’re attracting, and one point Teal Swan makes is that when we’re worrying, what we’re attracting is more worrying rather than what we’re worried about.
So first we need to accept this fear and the reality of it, and then, as we do when meditating on death, the ego first of all lets go of the outrage and sadness surrounding that reality, and then it can go on to expressing its true potential.
So once we have accepted the reality we can go on to seeing with true clarity of how we fit in to it all, and what we might do to manifest the opposite; or what kind of future we would like to see. We know what we don’t want, but we must come up with and focus on alternatives if we wish for things to be different.
That is one sort of fear, and one that, life death and the acceptance of it, can be incredibly uplifting and carry a positive energy with it. ‘The darker the night, the brighter the stars’ as Dostoyevsky wrote in Crime and Punishment.
So that is the macrocosm we’re working with, but what about our own, individual microcosms? In our own, collective universes where we play God we also experience various types of fear. One of them, as Lee Harris analogizes in the video, is the sort we experience just before we get on a rollercoaster. Exhilaration.
That sensation that can often be confused with the warning sign we get when something’s wrong, is actually the exhilaration we experienced before something wonderfully eye opening occurs. This could be even a life event that we perceive to be one of the best decisions of our lives; a powerful release of creativity, or a shift in energy that allows us to open up to others and finally cement some positive boundaries around us that still let in those who we want to be around. Those who lift us up and remind us of who we really are.
So how can we better recognize these signals and become more fluent in the language of the emotion of fear? Lee Harris says that the ‘good’ fear comes as a contraction, a contraction that ultimately leads to expansion of the self. For example, the way we might feel before a party.
For the sensitive, what we often do is to isolate ourselves and withdraw in to our own bubble. This is designed to protect us, but it’s a resistance of life and a denial of what we might be doing in light of current global conditions; connecting. So, that apprehensive but exhilarating-type feeling, if we give in to our catastrophizing probably will result in what we’ll then perceive to be a bad situation or outcome, if taken on with mindful openness, could actually turn out to be a doorway to a permanent change in habits.
The ‘negative’ fear then, as outlined in Leo’s video, is flag-posted by its black and white framework and the unnatural sensations that accompany it. This unnatural sensation may be a lack of feedback from your guides, if you’re particularly intuitive, or a feeling of heartburn or indigestion.
It’s as if your own body is telling you not to go there. The key then, is in noticing the warning signs and backing out before you get too involved. The mind wants to label ‘this is never good, this is always good’; it thrives on absolutes and dualistic extremes.
So check in to how you’re feeling as you’re feeling it. Do what feels right, in that moment. Trauma detaches us from our body, so as suggested in the Teal Swan video, practice things that get you back in to your body such as Qi Gong, exercise, yoga and meditation. Not to solve the problem of fear, or resist it. But to breed a mode of awareness that then allows you to recognize when you’re operating – reacting – to a sensation of fear or positive contraction. Goose pimples = promising life changing moment approaches, don’t be afraid of it, do what scares you.