When you confront a person, with what they did wrong, and they did don’t want to take responsibility for their own actions, they will manipulate you by putting the focus back on you. They will bring up something you did or need to do, using your imperfection as a way to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions. They actually like knowing your difficulties or imperfections. This gives them ammunition, and they have something to hold over your head to use against you. Put the focus back on them where it belongs.
~ Maria Consiglio
When You Confront a Person, with What They Did Wrong