“Today you are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive that is youer than you.” ~ Dr. Seuss
It doesn’t matter whether you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert, making connections with others is something that all of us require to some extent or another.
While some people may prefer having lots of different friends who vary in type all across the board, other people are content with having only a few close friends with whom they feel comfortable around. Either way, its simply a matter of personal preference in a world where we are all unique.
However, almost all people can agree on one thing, which is that some people’s energy or presence feels good to be around, and some people do not possess that attribute. Being someone who other people like to be around can enrich our lives greatly. It doesn’t matter if we are trying to attract one friend or partner or one thousand friends, coming into alignment with our “x-factor” is what will do the trick. Our x-factor is that certain je ne sais quoi that certain people have that make them highly attractive to others.
So what are some of the traits that attractive people possess that others don’t? Below are 6 traits of people who have found their “certain something.”
1) They have integrity and respect themselves
A person with integrity has a code of ethics that they live by. Whether someone is watching or not, they always stay true to this code of conduct which makes them not only extremely trustworthy friends and partners, but also respectable human beings.
In a world where so many people fall into misusing money, sex, and power in order to make themselves feel better, or to manipulate others, a person who truly respects themselves would not be willing to abuse themselves (mind, body or spirit), or anyone else in order for a superficial gain. When a person treats themselves with the utmost respect, they won’t tolerate being around anyone who doesn’t extend to them the same level of respect.
2) They happily let others have their moment in the sun
There are going to be times in life when we are up and the people in our lives aren’t doing so great, and times when they are doing awesome and we may have hit a down slope. By being the cheerleader on the side lines for our friends and family when they have good news to share, we form bonds with people that are priceless. Everyone wants people in their lives who are happy to see them happy. This one trait alone will also attract to us other people who will gladly be our cheerleaders when we have our moment in the spotlight.
3) They are humble
Humility is often misunderstood as being meek, scared or soft and nothing could be farther from the truth. True humility is a trait that only the powerful and most confident people possess. When someone truly knows their worth as a human being they are not scared of being overpowered or outshone by others, because they know that everyone is unique and special in their own way.
And, they are happy to help reveal the inner beauty and unique qualities of the people they come across. A humble person treats everyone with respect, from the trash man to CEO of their company. And it is because of this that they will always have people who are in their corner and wish them well in whatever they do.
4) They are unapologetic about who they are
Attractive people are not afraid to be themselves, because they have come to terms with who they are, they see no need to apologize for it. They are not embarrassed to be the best version of themselves. Since they have given themselves full permission to be exactly who they are, they naturally give other people in their lives the same permission.
When you find someone who allows you to be your self around them without any judgments, it feels good. In a world where so many people judge and criticize themselves and others, to be completely at peace with people as they are is something that is rare and highly attractive to others.
5) They are not afraid to be imperfect
Confident people are not the ones who think they do no wrong, but rather people who have accepted that they are prone to fallibility.
Making mistakes, or not being perfect is something every single one of us experiences in life and when we accept ourselves regardless of our imperfections, we free ourselves from being scared of the ridicule of others. Life is a learning process and we are all doing the best we can, attractive people know this and often give others the benefit of the doubt in situations.
6) They are open and honest with their true thoughts and feelings
There’s always going to be times when we don’t like the way someone else has treated us, or we feel like our family is over stepping their boundaries in our lives, and that’s ok. By being completely open and honest about our true feelings and if need be, addressing the situation with other people involved, we create a space where problems can be tended to simply and directly.
Resonating with our x-factor comes down to one trait – authenticity. We are all unique individuals who have our own way to look at life, and when we are comfortable with ourselves just as we are, we will find that we begin to attract the right people, places, and things that complement us.
In order for others to be attracted to us and to feel good in our presence we must first feel good in our own presence. The relationship we have with ourselves is the ultimate tell-tale sign of what kind of relationships we will have with others.
That’s why we often hear people say, “love yourself first.” The love we extend to our own selves will begin to reflect back to us in the set of external circumstances we attract.