What Jealousy is Really Trying to Tell Us


jealousyimage1“Comparison will strip you of power of grace and influence. Each person is unique. How then can you possibly compare unique to unique? You can’t. And when you try, you annihilate your brilliance.” ~ Amy Larson

The deeper we travel inward on our personal development journey, we begin to see that no emotion or feeling happens by accident.

Every outer situation that prompts an emotion inside us is another opportunity for us to heal something. It is a sign to become conscious of something inside of us that we may have been repressing or afraid to look at. We can be assured that any emotion that we have been afraid to experience, will continue to surface until we have faced it head on.

No feeling just goes away without being healed properly through raising to a vibration where said emotion can no longer exist. For anyone who is attached to their limiting subconscious belief systems, it is no surprise that all emotions are stemming from that belief system which is out of alignment with the “truth” of who they are.

Peace, perfection and pure happiness is actually our natural state of being. So anything that makes us feel otherwise can only indicate that our ego is attached to a belief based in fear, unworthiness or doubt.


One of the most painful and frustrating emotions of all to deal with is jealousy. To feel as though you want something that you cannot have in that moment can feel completely dissatisfying and unfulfilling. But what is the root cause of jealousy?

What is the underlying belief that we are holding about life that prompts jealousy to occur? Pinpointing the root cause is what will eventually bring about lasting transformation and healing within our energy fields.

Stop comparing yourself

“If you compare yourself to others, you may become vain and bitter for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.” ~ Maxx Ehrmann

The first thing jealousy relies on in order to exist inside of our psyche is comparison. To feel jealous is to compare what you have with what someone else has.

Now of course comparison can feel great when we are the ones coming out on top but with all highs must come a low. The more we pinpoint the imperfections of others, the more painful it is when the universe throws a humbling circumstance in your direction only to allow you to see both sides of the spectrum.

It is when we are attached to being amazing at everything, that we have the hardest time dealing with seeing others jealousyimage2succeed.

Jealousy also comes from an ego that reinforces its sense of self by seeing how less it is than others.


When you feel inferior to others it can be common to experience some level of jealousy. The blessings you see others receiving remind you of your own unworthiness and undeservedness.

Comparison can only arise from an ego that does not realize it’s own uniqueness. All beings are not only completely unique and special but every journey is different. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to live life, there is only what is right and wrong for you.

When you understand that your journey is customized to the soul lessons you have chosen to partake in during this incarnation, it becomes easier to stay focused on your own  growth. The only comparison that is beneficial is between us and former selves.

jealousyimage3Listen to What Your Heart Is Really Trying to Say

The ego has often been called the inner child inside of our hearts that is begging for our attention. If each emotion is approached as such it becomes easier to heal the emotions that are arising in our awareness.

Jealousy indicates that the attention and love that our inner child is asking for is being given to someone else’s life.

If we focus all of our concern and energy on the life of another person, our inner child can begin to feel neglected. “I want what they have,” is actually our inner child saying, “I want the attention that you are constantly giving to other people’s lives.” In this respect the amount of jealousy we feel towards someone else is directly proportionate to the lack of love we have given our own hearts.jealousyimage4

If we can imagine a real child that is never given love by their parent unless it is living up to the standards of others, it is easy to see how a child would begin to resent other people the parent compares him/her to.

If a child is only validated when it has lived up to someone else’s level of “success” then the child is never celebrated for his/her own unique gifts.

This is exactly how our own inner child feels when we compare it to those whose journey’s have nothing to do with ours. By complimenting ourselves and recognizing our unique talents rather than focusing on others, we will begin to transform jealousy into confidence in our own selves.

Jealousy is a Natural Emotion that is here to Help You

By approaching each emotion as another opportunity for us to heal something inside of us we will begin moving through a transformative healing process. There is nothing “wrong” with being jealous, it is only a natural emotion that every one of us will experience at some point or another.

Instead of repressing it we begin to recognize it as a signal that we may be spending too much time focusing on the wrong person. We will begin to raise to a level of consciousness where jealousy no longer needs to exist.

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