5 Ways to Make Failure Your Ally


During my childhood days I was always told that if you don’t perform well in school exams then you will never succeed in life.

Be it in school or at home, failure was always looked down upon as some stigma that would haunt you for the rest of your life. Words of encouragement were rare, and at a ripe age it makes a lot of difference in determining the course of your life.

School is a common ground that breeds competition and favoritism – teacher’s pets were always the one who outperformed the rest.

This leaves an indelible mark on the mind of a child who starts to feel incompetent and fears failure. Failure is viewed as an obstacle rather than a stepping stone to becoming better.

Here are 5 things that failure can teach us –

1) Failure is our Biggest Teacher

“Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.” ~ Confucius


Failure shows us our strengths and weaknesses. It brings into spotlight the areas we need to work on – whether its in your career, professional life, studies, sports of any kind – failure is our biggest teacher. If you don’t change your perception of it, you will always struggle to rise up when the chips are down. Its the driving force behind success. Some of the great names have failed too.

2) Failure gives us time to Rethink

“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” ~ Denis Waitley

It gives you the opportunity to reevaluate the situation and turn things around. You can focus on your weaknesses and understand where you are going wrong, how you can improvise and relearn.

Many times during our journey with Fractal enlightenment when we have hit rock bottom (like a drop in revenue or traffic to the site) we have had to gather ourselves and put our minds and heart to it, and find newer ways to come out of the slump.

When you really put your heart to something you want to achieve, more often than not, you see a positive outcome.

3) You meet your Authentic Self

Making mistakes is part of the learning process, pointing out the inherent nature of human fallibility. People who think are perfect are afraid of facing their insecurities. Failure strips you naked, shedding all the inessential and bringing you closer to your real self.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ~ Maya Angelou


4) Stretches your Comfort Zone

It kicks you out of your comfort zone, compels you to shake things up and to stop being complacent. When things come easy, or you achieve your goal without any obstacles, ugh..stop…doesn’t sound right, failure is part of the journey! It compels you to innovate, to think outside the box, to twist and turn your creative hat until you gain clarity in the situation. failure-success

5) Tests your Limits

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

There have been moments in life where I’ve just wanted to give up, I’ve felt unworthy and discouraged to keep going on. In retrospect, these moments are a test of your will; the will to keep moving forward despite the odds. As difficult as it sounds, its the willingness to change, to rise up and shine, to turn woe-is-me attitude into ‘I can do it’. You only need a ray of light to come out of darkness. Even if you feel there is no end in sight, learn to accept, ride the wave until you reach the shore.

“Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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