“The doors to the world of the wild Self are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old, old story, that is a door. If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door. If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.” ~ Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype
The instinctual, or wild woman, lives inside each of us. She is not as some would think, a vicious or animalistic character. She is strong though, and can growl when she needs to; strong in her beliefs, and protective of her young.
She is the voice inside each of us that has the ability to follow a path, when all around shake their heads, because she knows it is true.
She is the voice that guides us away from danger, and helps us heal our wounds. She let’s life in, and out, at the right time; guiding the natural cycles of life. She is the higher knowing, and wise instinctual nature in each of us.
Most women in today’s society are not connected to their instinctual self, and this leads to many women feeling depressed, listless, and uninspired; easily controlled by society or their male counterparts.
These women need to connect to the freedom of their wild woman, in order to live as their full and natural self. If you are lucky enough to catch a glimpse of the wild woman, grab on, and run with her.
Here’s how you can unleash the instinctual wild woman within ~
Listen to the instinctual woman inside of you. Does she feel trapped? Unhappy? Delighted by beauty? Aching to run and dance? Listen out for the voice inside of you that is saying, “This might not be a good idea,” or “I might want to try this for a change.” Even if you do not like what she says, chances are she may say some frightening things.
A trapped instinctual woman may be nagging at the back of your head saying, “The way I’ve been living cannot continue.” And this is a terrifying thought. But just listen without reaction; give her a chance to speak out. Perhaps to write down these thoughts may make it easier to hear her out.
The next step is feeding the instinctual woman. This woman is fed by being listened to. When she says, “Go this way,” and you do as she suggests, this gives her strength to speak up the next time you need her help.
Shutting her down weakens her, and pushes her back into the dark crevices of your mind, so listen to her voice and follow her impulses.
Stay away from false images
The instinctual woman is not as you see the women in magazines and industry products. The instinctual woman is strong, natural, and pure. So try to stay away from investing too much in the false images of women.
Another way to connect to the instinctual nature of the woman is to lessen the amount of false images in the way we hold ourselves.
Try to wear less make up for a day, or even none. Notice the natural beauty in your face, your eyes, and expressions. Wear colours that you connect to, instead of the colours that are being handed to you by what’s in style at the moment.
You can also try holding yourself as you’d imagine your instinctual woman would. When you feel an urge to cower, stand strong as if the instinctual woman were holding your body up for you.
Another reason why we become separated from our natural self is because we do not appreciate the natural as we used to. The instinctual woman is deeply connected to nature, and suffers greatly when she cannot connect to the sacredness of the world.
Honouring the natural cycles are another way to honour the sacred woman. Taking the time to meditate on the many natural cycles, especially the unique cycle of women, brings the instinctual closer.
Find wild women role models
Look outside in the world for wild women who emulate the free instinctual woman. Learn from them, or just take courage from their freedom. In a world with so many false role models we must look up to those people who emulate the values we are working towards.
Join wild woman rituals and activities
Search for the rituals or activities that speak to your wild woman. A lot of women are naturally artistic, and feel the need to create.
Other women need to move their bodies to dance, sing, or run. Follow the voice of your wild woman, and meet like-minded people. Follow whatever that will make you and your wild woman feel most alive.
The “wild woman” is not separate from us. She is us, and dwells inside of us; whether quietly or fiercely. She is the guide to becoming our whole and instinctual selves, so listen to her, and ask for the help to find her.
We were all born to become our fullest selves, and a woman has a very unique self to reach; a fierce, strong, wise, life-giving energy.