“I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times…
In life after life, in age after age, forever.
My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs,
That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms,
In life after life, in age after age, forever.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore, Selected Poems
Soul Mate: Someone who is aligned with your soul and is sent to challenge, awaken and stir different parts of you in order for your soul to transcend to a higher level of consciousness and awareness.
Finding our soulmate is simple. We do not have to do anything but wait and receive this beautiful gift from the universe. The hard part can occur when trying to decipher whether it is the right time and person.
Of course, there is also a time and place when we meet our soulmates. You can meet your soulmate many times throughout your life but still only tap into the potential, or see these specific signs when it is the right time for both of you.
Another thing people struggle with is the idea of choosing a soulmate as a life-partner. We may meet many of our soulmates throughout our life who come to teach us worthwhile lessons; but what are the signs of a soulmate that will last?
These are the signs you may have found your soulmate ~
You are happy and peaceful
The first way to know if you’ve found your soulmate is to look at your own state of being. Though life continues to have ups and downs, you should feel that the majority of your life feels good. Sometimes people mistake intensity for soul; so they reason that if a relationship is intense and tumultuous, then it must be the real deal.
This is not always true, the most meaningful relationships are deep, but calm and happy at the same time. Being with a soulmate also gives you a feeling of peace, and the feeling that you do not have to keep searching.
Disagreements/arguments are chances to grow
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ~ Carl Jung
With a soulmate, every disagreement can turn into a potential for growth and positive change. You should feel with your soulmate that disagreements turn into a growing experience instead of a dysfunctional argument.
Explaining instead of fighting, coming together instead of putting up guards, conclusions instead of vicious cycles. Finding your soulmate is always a growing experience in itself. Coming together with another is always a chemical reaction, but with a soulmate, the reaction should be one of healthy growing.
They bring the best out of you
With a soulmate, everyday is a learning experience because you challenge each other in a way that gently pushes the other to grow toward their highest selves. With a soulmate, you should be able to look at the challenges presented from them, and see clearly that they are the right challenges for you.
For example, your soulmate will push you closer and closer to the balanced version of your personality. Every challenge should end in the thought that you’ve gained more insight and balance from the experience. In short: your soulmate pushes you to be a better person, and you do the same for them.
You support each other
They will be there holding your hand and guiding you toward whatever it is you dream of. Your soulmate will be your team mate as well, and be there to encourage you on your journey.
You feel safe and secure
“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself — to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia
With your soulmate you should feel that you are safe and secure, as if you are back home. Home isn’t a place, it’s a person. You should feel completely comfortable in the presence of your soulmate. You also feel a sense of security because there is a mutual respect for each other that prevents the dysfunction of an abusive relationship.
“I closed my mouth and spoke to you in a hundred silent ways.” ~ Rumi
Past the hustle and bustle of good conversation, activities, sex, and shared interests, there is a place where souls meet, and that is in silence.
If you can sit together in silence and feel comfortable and at peace, then you have found something very special. When two people can be quiet together and just enjoy spending these special moments together, then they have found a very profound meeting place of the souls.
You know and understand each other
Soulmates understand each other, and each other’s essence. They know the other person past the externalities, or their likes and dislikes; they understand them in a way that no other can. They feel as if they’ve known them forever, and perhaps also that they would like to know them for the rest of their forever.
And the last one would be: You just feel it. It should feel right. Listen to your heart and intuition, because they know best the ways of the soul. This is why it is called a soulmate. It is not the mate of mind or body, it comes from the soul, and flourishes there. Listen to the fluttering of your soul as it whispers it’s truths to you.
Your soulmate will feel these as well if you are truly destined to unite. If you have not yet found your soulmate, look out for these signs, because these signs will point you in the right direction.
Have you met your soulmate?