“Worthiness has no prerequisites.” ~ Brene Brown
There is something very important that so many of us have forgotten. Something that is our birthright, that is ours for the taking and will ultimately completely transform our lives for the better if we could just remember this one thing.
This thing was given to us the moment we took our first breath in this world, that we inherited the minute we were born. The gift I am speaking of is worthiness. We came into this world completely perfect, but what many do not realize is, our perfection never stopped.
As the years passed, we began to compare our selves, our lives to the material items we possessed and we deemed ourselves ‘not good enough’, or ‘not rich enough’, ‘not attractive enough,’ etc. We drifted further and further away from this worthiness.
We began to believe “them”, the people who insulted us, called us names or mistreated us, or the pictures in the magazines and the celebrities we saw on TV, all subconsciously telling us over and over, “you must be like me in order to be worthy and valued.”
But alas, here I am, writing this article to remind you. Yes, you, the one who feels like a failure, the one who thinks they are worthless unless they make more money, lose weight, get married, have a child, whatever. I’m here to remind you of what is and always has been yours, waiting for you to unwrap this present so that you may come into alignment with what the universe has known about you all along, you are worthy and priceless.
How to Believe it
“I believe that owning our worthiness is the act of acknowledging that we are sacred. Perhaps embracing vulnerability and overcoming numbing is ultimately about care and feeding of our spirits.” ~ Brene Brown
Now it’s no secret that saying that we are something is a completely different story than actually believing it. To believe something will take more time and nurturing within our being.
To truly believe one is worthy of love, abundance, happiness and joy doesn’t generally happen overnight. It’s going to take some time to unravel years and years of self-judgments, criticisms made by others, belief systems that took us away from it, and in some more severe cases emotional or mental abuse that may have occurred.
The good news, however, is that deep within all of our hearts is a part of us that knows this worthiness is ours. Even if that part of us is blanketed by years of emotional trauma, dysfunctional relationships, or substance abuse, it’s still there and just hearing the words, “I am worthy,” makes it’s ears perk up in attention.
The most effective tools we can use in this process are patience, compassion, and kindness. We must speak to ourselves from a place of deep understanding and compassion and stop beating ourselves up for ‘not getting it right,’ be patient with ourselves during the process and show our own hearts empathy and love.
We must rebuild and heal the relationship we have with whatever part of us that still doesn’t feel good enough. And the first step is only to accept this part of ourselves, as is. Don’t try to change it. Simply be ok with anger, or insecurity, or fear. Let it be exactly as it is, recognizing it as just as valuable part of the universe as happiness or joy.
And even if there’s a part of you that doesn’t know how to or is scared to accept unworthiness as is, then let the part of you that doesn’t know how to accept something they don’t like be ok to just be. Soon with no judgments against them, no criticisms against your most honest and vulnerable admissions to yourself, they will begin to heal.
Not because you forced them to, but because they were so unconditionally loved and accepted that they soon had no place to fester, and could only be absorbed back into the light of your being. The more we align with this perspective of being the unconditional love that accepts all our painful emotions as they are, without judgment, the more we align with our divinity, which ultimately awakens the belief of worthiness as a natural by-product.
Anything we see as sacred (and in this case ourselves) will begin to subconsciously take on the attributes of just that. To see something as sacred is to see it as special, divine, unique, completely and utterly worthy of love and adoration.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson
To align with the belief that we are worthy will have lasting positive effects on our lives. Not only will we feel better, more confident, happier and less afraid to follow our passions, but we will also begin to attract more blessings that affirm our belief.
To feel valuable as a person is to expect the best. We expect people to treat us respectfully, we treat ourselves respectfully and we stop settling for people, places and things that are not in our highest interest because we expect to be fulfilled.
Often beings who do not feel worthy will stay stuck in situations well past their expiration because they align with situations that re-enforce their subconscious belief about themselves. Is it any wonder that those with low self-worth and insecurities are also the ones who seem to put up with situation in which they are treated as such?
As we align with our true nature, we align with our highest qualities. Soon the worthiness we begin to feel, that is coming from a genuine and authentic place within, begins to transform our lives into a living message of what it means to align with the light within.
As our light grows and we become unashamed and proud to shine brighter than ever before, we give others the permission to do the same.
Sun coming through the clouds