“I like solitude. It is when you truly hear and speak your natural, unadulterated mind, and out comes your most stupid self as well as your most intelligent self. It is when you realize who you are and the extents of the good and the evils which you are capable of.” ~ Criss Jami, Killosophy
A person recently pointed out to me an aspect of my personality which they had noticed as being particularly significant, and it got me thinking. In fact, THIS was the personality trait that they were talking about; the tendency to over think. They’re right, of course, but it struck me as interesting that they saw this as a personality trait. Don’t we all over think? Or is thinking part of our personalities?
In my opinion, the answer is no. In fact, I don’t believe we even have personalities at all. Only an emotional compass with which to measure how aligned we are with our true selves. You could say that when we are aligned with pure positive energy which is Source itself, there are some idiosyncrasies.
The desire to bring humour to a situation, for example, or the degree with which we are able to understand another person’s perspective.
Like children, I suppose we do have particular personality traits, usually noticed by our caregivers rather than ourselves. But even then, it’s the caregiver’s choice whether to reflect these traits back to us, and when they do (and only then) do we begin to build this ‘personality’ in our conscious minds. So it could be illusory after all.
Here are 5 ways to better resonate with who you are:
Do what FEELS good
If our thoughts are distractions from the truth, or tunnel-like wormholes where we can become conceptually stuck for hours on end, then our emotions are our way out of that. As our only reliable guidance system, emotions tell us when something is off, and when it is ON.
If you only do one thing, then do what feels good. You will also find that on the labyrinth to authenticity, when you peer over the hedge of what scares you, you will often find what feels right and good crouching between the prickles.
Strike up regular communication with your higher aspect
Past the brambles of low self worth and the thorny memories you would rather forget, your higher self is waiting serenely there eager to advise you. Like a voice of calm at the eye of the storm, your higher self is the loving, God-like aspect of your true self.
It has a private view of the macrocosmic vista of your life and the less enjoyable bits’ place in the broader scheme of things. Make ‘I trust myself’ your daily mantra and talk to it whenever you feel lost. Having this regular contact will lessen the gap between your current self and your true, beautiful gooey one, and bridge the gap between you and the divine.
The more we do what feels good, the more we tend to notice what feels bad. Not only that, but also how easy it is to confuse the two.
Anything that constricts the throat or gives you heart burn usually indicates desperation and the desire to be accepted. Which, of course isn’t necessary because you’re already perfect. Notice what activities you engage in that your emotional guidance system screams NO! to, even though you don’t always listen.
It may seem dull, but in noticing the habits that don’t make you feel good (usually those with hedonistic overtones) the easier they will fall away to reveal your true self. This also applies to giving up words and frames of mind that don’t feel good.
Speak your truth
As the first agreement in Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, ‘Be impeccable with your word’ is easily the hardest. By using your emotions as a guide; a mirror with which to use as a sounding board, you will better recognize when you are doing yourself a disservice by not speaking your truth.
As children many of us learnt that the adults around us didn’t want us to speak our truth as it was inconvenient to them. But we can unlearn that now by allowing ourselves to receive compliments and gifts from others without apology or guilt, and by speaking up when an injustice is happening right before our eyes.
Many of us are probably here to do just that, and by recognizing that we don’t need to hide this gift any longer, we will align right smack bang in the centre of our truth every time we do it. It’s amazing the lengths we go to not to speak our truths; even down to subconscious gestures such as wrapping our throat chakras in layers of scarves or avoiding conflict altogether, but it really is our door to freedom.
Set an intention to align with the higher love
This can be something you do within seconds of waking up, which is why most people meditate first thing in the morning; that is before the mental soup begins being stirred up, usually with more ingredients of distraction added to the mix.
By recognizing our intentions; both when we speak to others and when we decide how we’re going to approach our day, we can decide to rise above the crap and cut through the BS and just live our truth. The moment you start making decisions like that, the whole world responds.
You literally brighten other people’s day just by setting your example and Source energy is nothing more than pure positive love. Wrap your arms around it, dig it out and align yourself through the art of intention.
So there we have it. It’s certainly true that action is more important than thought. So when it comes to my own particularly irritating ‘personality trait’ – to over think – I’ll try to take my own advice and take positive action to align with the higher love. It really is quite a journey. Perhaps the most important one of all.