4 Ways to Put Yourself in the Power Position of Your Life

“The secret of the universe really is minding your own business. What we mean by that is-don’t get so involved in the desires or beliefs of others that you cause confusion or chatter in your own vibration and compromise your own alignment.” ~ Abraham-Hicks

We are living in the age of information. If you have access to the internet, pretty much any question, concern, worry or ailment one has, can be typed into a search engine resulting in hundreds or even thousands of answers… within a matter of seconds.

While this is truly amazing and has evolved us in many ways, there are actually some drawbacks to being able to access so much information in an instant. It has caused many of us to stop getting the answer for certain questions from the only person who actually CAN give us the right answer ~ our own selves!

Undoubtedly, there are many topics that we may have zero knowledge about and would require to ask others for their help or advice, but it’s surprising how many people will also ask the world wide web questions about things that no stranger should have the ability to answer for our own selves!

For example, one may ask how they should feel about something, how they can “get” what they want out of life or a person, how they can make so and so like them, hire them, etc.

While it’s comforting to read stories of people who are in similar situation to ours and to see how they dealt with it, or to draw conclusions about how things will go for us based on the similar situation others have encountered.

Eventually one must realize that no one can definitively tell us how to feel about something, no stranger can tell us the motives of the people in our lives, there is no rule book that says, “just because this person felt this way about this situation, and dealt with it in this manner, then you should too.”

It’s in the times of confusion and adversity, where we are given an opportunity to cultivate a relationship with the wisdom within us that aligns us with our “power position.” Our higher self and intuition (at the moment we are meant to know it) is our link to “God” or the universe; it is us at our truest level.

This realization got me thinking about how so many of us were raised to pray and ask to be blessed with something and how this perspective is one among others that leaves us feeling small and unworthy. It basically reaffirms that we are a powerless beggar with our hands out hoping this God above us decides to shine his wand over our head and bless our lives with that which we plead for.

However, times have changed. The way in which those awakening to the truth of who they are view God or the Universe is most assuredly much different than it was 10, 20, or 30 years ago.

So is it possible that if we shift our relationship to this higher power, to a perspective in which we stop playing small in comparison to it, but instead see that we have much more creative control than we previously knew, that we could actually change the paradigm on our life’s experience?

Below are 4 perspectives of a person who is still playing small, and the way to turn the tables on it so that we may reclaim what is inherently ours ~ authentic power!

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Do any of these “playing small” perspectives feel true for you?

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking that they don’t have any.” ~ Alice Walker

You think the universe is blessing or punishing you

It’s completely understandable, especially for anyone who grew up in an environment where organized religion was preached to them, that many people feel as though the universe is this huge superpower that is deciding to give them things or not give them things.

The fact that sometimes something we really want doesn’t happen and sometimes it does, has many people thinking they have no control of how things go, but rather are hoping the big powerful universe decides to bless them. However, this is not the case, and operating from this mindset will affirm our lack and scarcity.

The truth is, everything that happens is there to help us. No matter how it feels in the moment, and no matter if that is what we expected or wanted to happen or not.

The moment we approach everything, especially painful situations from a place of allowance and an open ear, ready to receive the pearl of wisdom or healing that lies within the painful situation, is the moment we affirm, “I got this.

Nothing can happen that isn’t here to help me heal or transform something that is ready to be healed or transformed. Ok, universe, I am ready to face and feel these emotions and expect to receive the wisdom I will need moving forward.”

You still believe you will need to “settle.”

It’s amazing how many have no idea that they are still subconsciously holding on to a shred of doubt that says, “I can’t really ask the universe to give me all of this and expect for it to happen, maybe I’ll just ask for some of it. Besides, I feel greedy & guilty to ask for and expect to be given so much.”

While it may be true that an exact replica of what we envisioned in our minds we wanted will not be the exact thing we experience (truly what we are wanting is the feeling that whatever we “want” the universe can give us now, if we allow ourselves to feel the fact that it is already within us), what isn’t true is that we don’t have the “right” to want what we want.

We are the universe, which means our most inspired desires are just the universe telling us what it wants to experience as the character it is playing as us!

By understanding this, we realize any feeling of guilt or the need to manage down our expectations & negotiate with the universe, is not necessary. From our highest and most powerful perspective, the soul perspective, we feel completely comfortable and worthy to expect miraculous outcomes and the feelings that go along with them.

You believe in ideas of “fair” and “unfair,” and feel the universe is obligated to operate under these parameters

From the ego’s perspective life can become extremely frustrating when we see someone who we feel does not deserve something get it, or if we see that someone who has “wronged” us is receiving something we wanted.

Because the ego often has very strong opinions on what is fair and what isn’t – and how a fair or unfair situation might look, it can experience nothing short of devastation and even anger towards the universe until it feels the score has been settled.

What the ego doesn’t realize is that it keeps itself in the role of the victim when it buys into these definitions, and if it allowed itself to receive the most empowering wisdom from the universe, it would actually find that the universe is too perfect to be fair.

The things that are happening to us are for a very specific purpose, even if from the ego’s understanding they feel “unfair.” This purpose is to help us heal something, transform limiting beliefs and fears into courage and gratitude.

When one begins to realize the most painful, difficult and humbling experiences (from the ego’s perspective) are actually the most transformative and helpful opportunities for growth, they align with a more empowered stance on life.

You do not understand the power of being “surrendered”

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Ironically, the more surrendered we are to a higher intelligence working itself in and through our life’s experiences, the more powerful we will feel.

The idea of surrender is one that is often scoffed at by the ego, and one that society in general misrepresents as “apathy,” or “laziness.”

We are hounded everywhere by ideas that hard work and more effort will get us what we want. In surrender, we find that working against the natural flow of life often works against us, emotionally, physically and mentally.

We all know someone who has used the idea of hard work to the point where they are so stressed and overwhelmed by life that physically they begin to experience negative side effects on their body and mental state. It’s no surprise that from this place, no one can feel powerful or confident.

However, if we learn to recognize that a higher intelligence will give us clues into what is right for us at what time by communicating with is through inspiration, and sometimes the most inspired thing we can do for ourselves is rest and relax, we learn the powerful art of balance.

We tune into the natural ebb and flow of life, and harmonize with the idea that we don’t have to always be working or always be relaxing, but rather life will move us through each stage effortlessly if we just surrender to it.

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Galactic queen/mirror art- made by: Nikki Sapp
Butterfly quote pic made by: Nikki Sapp
Vince Lombardi quote pic made by: Nikki Sapp

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