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Are Your Habits Keeping You Comfortably Restrained?

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I’ve learned in my life that it’s important to be able to step outside your comfort zone and be challenged with something you’re not familiar or accustomed to. That challenge will allow you to see what you can do. ~ J. R. Martinez

For most humans who are a functioning and sometimes even non functioning parts of society, we all have parts to play that keeps the ball rolling. But what is even more common amongst all of us is a means to cope with our existence.

Comforting Habits

Even if you don’t know it all of us have some sort of addiction, hobby or means of escape from this reality. Something that triggers our imagination or senses, reading a book takes you on a journey through the author’s manifestation, the characters, the places and colours.

While some experience transcendental states while they gyrate to the beats of music they love or some have a similar experience just listening to the lyrics of their favorite songs.

There are also people who like to make a mix and put it either into a paper or into a vaporizer to calm themselves down or get creative. Some choose meditation or yoga, all these activities have now become an integral part of our existence and routine.

Try Something New

Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. ~ Brian Tracy

where the magic happens by xenizondich d57bcsh e1529506986835We do this either to escape, get our space or to get into a moment we desire. What if one day we decide to break out of this pattern of escape or being found, this space where we feel at home or comfortable. How would life change then?

The first question popping up in your head probably is, why? Why should I stop something that keeps me going?

Although it may not sound very convincing especially with the cognitive dissonance kicking in, but this habit has now become part of your comfort zone because it gives you the peace, or the happiness that you desire. It could also take you to higher realms or states of consciousness.

This is the spiral or cycle that you’re on, where you aren’t gaining the experiences to thrust you forward in your personal growth because you’re too busy preparing for your yoga class or getting wasted.

So the moment you decide to stop this routine of yours, even if it is for a month. Its kind of like hitting reset, you start off from scratch wondering what should I do to make me happy or cope up with my environment now.

If you want to grow, you need to explore other means of getting there, so ponder about what you would do if the one thing you enjoy the most was taken away from you? Not by me or somebody you know, its not something that needs to be taken away forcefully.

So before going to bed today ask yourself why do you do what you do? Is this the best version of the life you want to live, and if the answer is yes, you’re holed up in your comfort zone. If the answer is no, what part of you do you need to heal or change for you to keep growing?

The answers aren’t going to come in when you’re stagnant. Its time for you to step off the treaded path and into the wild. Good luck!

Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone | Yubing Zhang | TEDxStanford

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Rerouting Routine: from Merely Surviving to Vitally Thriving

“The habits you created to survive will no longer serve you when it’s time to thrive. Get out of survival mode. New habits, new life.” ~ Ebonee Davis

Here’s the thing: Human beings need routine. We need systems. We need discipline. The healthier the better. But we also need a way to update the way we do things so as not to get stuck in a rut. This especially applies to areas where we need to be creative, progressive and innovative.

We need a way to unmold the mold and then remold it into a more imaginative mold that is perpetually malleable rather than rigid and hardened by monotony. This is tricky, because there is the tendency to get comfortable and complacent in our habits.

Alas, even healthy habits that once got us through tough times can become a comfortable prison if we’re not careful. As James Russel Lowell said, “Time makes ancient good uncouth.”

To go from merely surviving life to vitally thriving in life, we need a way to reroute routine, to un-habit our old habits and then re-habit with updated habits. Health is a benchmark, as always. But health only gets us as far as a solid foundation that’s in cosmic alignment with Universal Law. It doesn’t get us outside the box, the comfort zone, or the mental paradigm.

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Manifesting Self Love : Loving Yourself One Day at a Time

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There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask “What if I fall?”
Oh but my darling, What if you fly? ~ Erin Hanson

As a collective, gradually, we’re sinking in with the idea of self-love. The level of awareness around self-love is on a rise, as more and more people are developing a willingness to learn about our mind’s capacity to create a constructive reality.

However, a lot of us, find ourselves drained after dedicating days, months, years to the principles of law of attraction and self-love as we find ourselves in a reality that is the bang opposite to the one we wanted. We do lose a bit of trust in all the teachings of the self-help community when we find our own imagination painstakingly failing.

The rule goes that if anything wrong has happened in the external world, then, we must look into our internal world. After all, the outer reality is a blatant reflection of our inner reality. This is every bit true, but, our understanding of reality, be it inner or outer isn’t as clear as water.

Moreover, our understanding of reality shifts on a daily basis. Adding to which, each one of us is looking at an entirely different reality. As you don’t know what you don’t know, it becomes so very essential to understand what self-love means to you despite the meanderings of the subconscious mind.

Moreover, as the subconscious mind is a powerful aspect of you, how can you fall in love with your subconscious mind? One exciting approach to our subconscious mind is considering it as a journey but not a destination.

Each day when you wake up, up until the point you go to sleep, and beyond sleep, your subconscious mind is continuously showing you signals that would take you one step closer to understanding yourself deeply. The key is to pay attention and cultivate a mindset that is always willing to collaborate with the heart to know oneself.

We all desire expansion but expansion can’t happen if you don’t know yourself or the core of your being. So, instead, the law of attraction doing its job of bringing all the lessons that you must learn to find your core being, why don’t you take the plunge and find it out for yourself.

The subconscious mind doesn’t give you all the information you need at once but in bits and pieces. It is manifesting its own realities because it too wants closure. It wants you to stop treating it like a storage box so that it gets a chance to reveal its true power to you.

Here is a problem: most of us are forcing ourselves to feel love, peace, and gratitude for the universe as well as ourselves. If there is even a single cell in your body that doesn’t feel thankful, then, you are not entirely thankful.

You are repeating the same mistake that has been the foundation of your entire life: tricking your mind into believing something that is untrue and in the process, asking your subconscious mind to increase its garbage holding capacity and manifest confusion. But you can never ever trick your heart.

The universe listens to your heart all the time even if you don’t. If a heart is carrying a pain or a shock, then, it is communicating that pain to the universe. You have cultivated resilience and discipline but if that is on the shaky foundations of a deeply entrenched sense of doubt, then your very resilience is draining you of hope and courage.

Messages like ‘Let’s have a Fresh Start’ or ‘Forget the Past, Move On’ is doing unimaginable amounts of damage to our society and this begins very early. If we get hurt as a child, our parents do everything in their capacity to distract us so that we stop crying.

We learn distraction at a very early age, only to find out later in our lives that our entire time on this planet has been an outcome of running away from pain.

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Self-Love doesn’t demand you to please yourself or the universe. Self-Love wants you to be brutally honest with yourself and the world around you at any cost. You will always have to look out for the root. And your heart will always take you there if you allow it to.

Here are a few ways through which you can allow your heart to find its core essence and needs:

Using Your Gift of Awareness

Most of us don’t realize that our awareness is our superpower. Within us, exists, the capacity to unravel deepest secrets of the universe. Currently, humanity is facing a spiritual blindness, due to which, we’ve all lost the pathway to the greatest source of knowledge: ourselves.

This spiritual blindness has been caused by our fear of death. So, ask yourself: what do you fear losing so bad and what will happen if you lose it? How is this fear shaping your day and night? What emotions do you feel because of this fear? And most importantly, how captivated are you by these emotions?

Demystify the Material World

As humans, self-indulgence is our vice and virtue at the same time. Our minds are so imaginative that it constantly tricks itself into the action and reward cycle. There is nothing wrong with money and beautiful objects. After all, all these objects are extensions of human creativity.

But when does this love for creativity end and the addiction for escapism takes over? Be careful of escapism. Escapism is not your friend. This process is so subtle that you don’t even realize and days, months, years are over, and you are left with a void in your soul, even without knowing it.

Revolt from the Heart

When you find your core truth, it becomes impossible to not express it. Such is the beauty of the universe that mirrors your heart to you if you consciously ask for it. Find your singing truth.

What makes you incredibly happy? We all want to expand but how do you want to expand? There are many paths to expansion and we all have to find our own paths. For some of us, learning the art of forgiveness will cause expansion, while for some, learning the ways to love will cause expansion.

The best way to know how your soul wants to expand is to observe repeating patterns in your life. Over the course of your life, what all situations did you end up in and in all those situations, what would your higher self like to do the most? In this answer, lies the wisdom to your expansion.

Once you are aligned with the core sounds of your heart, manifestation and synchronicity won’t be something that would cause you frustration but would put you in ultimate harmony with the universe. Here, you will experience a sense of love and gratitude that would be so different from the fleeting hedonism of the modern-day lifestyle.

Here, you will find unconditional love for yourself.

“The future enters into us, in order to transform itself in us, long before it happens.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

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5 Essentials Every Parent Should Know about Parenting

“Our highest endeavor must be to develop free human beings who are able of themselves to impart purpose and direction to their lives. The need for imagination, a sense of truth, and a feeling of responsibility—these three forces are the very nerve of education.” ~ Rudolf Steiner

Over the last few years I have grown tremendously as a parent and it literally brings tears to my eyes as I type this out. It honestly isn’t easy to realize what kind of parent you are until your environment changes. What I mean by this is, parenting is generally cyclic in nature, we just do what our parents did and the circle goes on and on.

It may be a little too late to realize that something went wrong when you are unable to handle your rebellious teenager. After becoming a Waldorf parent you realize quite a few things, the parent itself requires to make tremendous sacrifices as well as work on their inner self, habits etc. But the fruits of your efforts shall reap, well grounded, well aware, holistic adults.

Here are 6 essentials that will greatly assist you on your parenting journey and build stronger adults…

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” ~ Frederick Douglass

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The Art of Reconditioning: From Codependence to Interdependence

“The price of self-destiny is never cheap, and in certain situations it is unthinkable. But to achieve the impossible, it is precisely the unthinkable that must be thought.” ~ Tom Robbins

Here’s the thing: We were all born into a conditioned state in which we didn’t have a say. We didn’t get to choose what sex we are. We didn’t get to choose what country we were born into.

We didn’t get to choose what level of affluence we grew up in. We didn’t get to choose the type of cultural conditioning and statist indoctrination we received.

Conditions abound: physical, psychological, cultural. Some of these conditions will have greatly affected the way we see the world and some of these will have had minimal effect on our perception. But the question is this: what will you do with what’s been done to you? Will you merely allow yourself to become a puppet to circumstance or will you rise up and cut the strings?

Leigh WhurrMost of us were born into a broken culture. That’s the condition we were forced to grow up in. If you’re reading this, then it’s proof that you have at least survived it so far.

As Hemingway reminds us, “The world breaks everyone.” But the question is: what will you do with your brokenness? Now that you’ve survived being broken, what steps will you take to transform that vital information into further resilience and robustness?

The Conditional (knowing the rules):

“There is a voice that doesn’t use words. Listen.” ~ Rumi

Ironically, the secret to discovering that which is unconditional and indestructible within you, is an intimate understanding of the conditional. This requires a barebones intimacy with Universal Law. Indeed. In order to stand, you must have something to stand on. In order to fly, you must have something to fly through.

The condition of the universe is dictated by Universal Law. An intimacy with Universal Law is a deep understanding of what is healthy and what is not. Health is foundational. It’s that which speaks a “language older than words.” It’s the core of Universal Law. Neither the unconditional nor the re-conditional can be self-actualized without basic health as its groundwork.

Walking off cliffs, petting scorpions, and spooning black mambas, are not sound survival strategies. The basics of health are primary survival strategies. One must breathe, one must hydrate, one must find healthy nourishment, or all further bets toward self-improvement are off.

Taken as such, health is objectively valid regardless of subjective opinion. One cannot survive without oxygen. One cannot survive without water. One cannot survive without healthy food. This is regardless of opinion, because if one’s opinion is that one does not need these to survive, then one’s opinion would be invalid according to Universal Law.

Once you’ve adapted to the conditional (Universal Law) in a healthy way, you can begin to explore the unconditional in adventurous ways (independent) so as to become re-conditional in creative ways (interdependent).

The Unconditional (breaking the rules):

“Learn the rules like a pro, so you can break them like an artist.” ~ Pablo Picasso

Now that you have a deep understanding of what’s negotiable and what’s not, of what’s in your control and what’s not, you can begin the risky prospect of testing unconditional waters.

Where the conditional waters (like health and gravity) are fixed and not up for debate, the unconditional waters are open and free.

Though there are consequences to everything, most of life is unconditional. You are free to move to a new place. You are free to have multiple lovers. You are free to jump out of airplanes or live on a deserted island. You are free to quit your job and become a circus clown.

The unconditional abounds. As long as the conditional is taken into account, the unconditional is limitless. As long as health is your bedrock, you are free to rock and roll.

You are free to make life a job or a game. You are free to take things too seriously or react to things authentically. You are free to wallow in misery or transform pain into wisdom. You are free to breathe oxygen or cut yourself off. You are free to jump off a cliff or build a bridge. You are free to create and destroy any number of gods. You are free to unconditionally love despite the conditional love of others.

Just remember: the conditional is always there. It doesn’t just go away because you are free. The conditional is not a matter of convenience. It’s a hard truth, a tough instructor. Universal Law is always in the background dictating Truth despite our opinions and in spite of our freedom.

The unconditional waters are yours to play with. Splash around. Make a mess. But there will always be consequences to your freedom. There will always be an upshot to your volition. Some of them will be direct and some of them will be indirect.

But it’s your responsibility alone to own up to them and to self-correct, or your condition will always be one of ill-health no matter how good you get at surfing the waves of the unconditional.

re conditionalThe Re-conditional (creating new rules):

“’Reality’ is just a word and you shouldn’t use it without quotation marks around it anyway.” ~ Joseph Campbell

Between the conditional and the unconditional there is a third thing: the re-conditional. The re-conditional is a creative state of renovation. It’s a state where we overhaul perception and refurbish worldviews. It’s a creative balancing act between that which we can control and that which we cannot. It’s taking limitless advantage of that which limits us.

As Campbell said, “Reality” is just a word. But it’s also just a concept. Both the word and the concept are rooted in our limited and fallible human psychology. The re-conditional strategy is to take the condition of “Reality” as we know it, root out that which is unconditional as we know it, and then re-imagine new ways to update our understanding. This can be applied to all aspects of “Reality.”

We can use the re-conditioning strategy to update almost any precondition. From statist indoctrination to worldly cosmopolitanism. From fear-based perspective to courage-based perspective.

From irrational belief to rational thought. From an unhealthy stagnant lifestyle to a healthy progressive lifestyle. From a fixed and rigid psychology, based on outdated ideals, to an open and flexible psychology, based on updated ideas. From codependence to interdependence.

Reconditioning prior conditioning is a creative approach to proactively adapting and overcoming in the moment. It’s strategic adaptation and improvisation. It’s using the imagination to balance that which cannot be changed (conditional Cosmic Law) with that which can be changed (the unconditional) and then creating new rules from the updated perspective.

These new rules have the power to update our understanding of “Reality,” thus ushering in a healthy and progressive evolution.

Ultimately, the conditional is nonnegotiable, but our reaction to the conditional must always be challenged (reconditioned) lest we fall into the kind of rigid and dogmatic thinking that leads to intellectual and spiritual stagnation and unhealthy devolution.

We must consistently and persistently test our interpretation of the conditional by utilizing our freedom within the unconditional to leverage our imagination with the re-conditional.

With enough practice and discipline the world opens-up, the cosmos expands, the comfort zone stretches beyond what we imagined possible, and an authentic engagement with “Reality” is initiated. A provident interdependence liberates us, despite the ignorant codependence that once contained us.

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