“Youth can not know how age thinks and feels. But old men are guilty if they forget what it was to be young.” ~ J.K. Rowling.
If some unsightly but intrinsic force has been holding you back from succeeding in an area of your life, then it may be to do with family karma. When abundance isn’t flowing to you it is an indication that there’s an area of your inner world that needs nurturing. While we know financial abundance isn’t everything, abundance in its full glory is something we’d all like to draw lovingly into our lives.
Abundance in your life signifies that there are no blockages in your energy; when your inner world is brimming, literally overflowing with love for yourself and the forgiveness of others, then your outer world will begin to reflect that. This is not an excuse to begin beating yourself up about your failings, but a tool; a knowledge that if you wish to, you can gear to build up a life that you want through your daily practice of inner work and guidance systems.
Be Honest With Yourself.
The first step is to objectively survey your surroundings and ask yourself if you like what you see. If you’re new to meditation or have a hunch you may not have been doing it correctly then after those first deep breaths of letting go you need to do a check over of your body and let that be your first guide.
Use gratitude to give yourself a pat on the back for what you have manifested. Integrate a gratitude ritual into your day or add that element to your inner work; are you doing a lot of visualization or presence and not finishing it by marking out your intentions with prayer? This is an essential part of a spiritual practice; that we conclude it old school style by counting our blessings and sending love to those we feel might need it.
When breathing Prana into the channels and chakras of your body notice any blocks or areas of discomfort. Go into the discomfort and explore it, experiment. A spiritual practice should be playful and if you’re sitting there forcing breath down your throat then that might be the first clue to an imbalance. The more you open and let go, the more feedback and release of emotions you’ll get. Even if you spend a whole session exploring one chakra, then you have made progress.
Begin To Untie The Knots.
These ‘knots’ might be very old and extremely tangled, but it is possible. In using tools such as active imagination and some light research into the body:
We can combine with our inner guidance to direct the healing process. For example; say you have a painful right shoulder even when you meditate and you allow yourself to go in to that shoulder breathing Prana in to that area. You are already aware that the shoulders are where you carry your responsibility and you feel that this relates to someone you have conflict with in your life; say your father.
You come to the conclusion that you are struggling because both the fear of your father’s high expectations of you, but also the desire to meet them. You know from your outer world that your career is not exactly how you want it to be. Your exploration into your right shoulder might trigger a deep release of sadness from some other area of your body.
You might then conclude this exploration with an intention to forgive your father and detach from the expectations he’s imposing on you, and a prayer of thanks to show gratitude for all the positive things he did teach you.
Another example: Perhaps you find it difficult to breathe into the sacral and solar plexus chakras at all during meditation. Your solar plexus chakra is the centre for a lot of karmic ties; your inner child; your centre of joy and general energy levels.
Through visualizing your breath/Prana pooling in your root chakra and rising like the tide to these two centres you might explore how reduced your output of energy also is. Once you have cleansed these centres, their energy might begin to spread their wings so to speak and cleanse the aura around them.
‘Looking through’ these centres also might achieve surprising results. A lot of people who have had some initial awakening have a habit of being deeply connected to their root or upper chakras (third eye, crown) whilst completely forgetting the intermediaries in between. This can leave you feeling detached from your surroundings and unable to connect with others.
This connects to deeply rooted karma of being essential to the wider community but also afraid of them and your true purpose. In your potential as a leader you might’ve wandered away from the most important point of connection and gotten too lofty ideas about your place in the world.
Breathing out through the sacral, solar plexus, heart and throat chakras reach out to friends and allow day to day moments of connection which will address that balance and keep your energy and joy replenished.
Having Taken Action On a Personal Level, Consider The Bigger Picture.
Now you’ve discovered where you carry your family karma, consider the bigger picture. The processes I’ve suggested, if followed correctly and with honest integrity will lead you to emotionally outgrowing any family members who might’ve hurt you growing up. With ascension; as the veils of separation thin and our innate connectivity becomes apparent we are able to see ourselves in the other with so much more clarity than ever before.
Our approach to fears others project onto us becomes lucid and we are able to drop them voluntarily, but also lovingly, without the need to see them as personal in the first place. This understanding can set us free in that we may see the wounded inner child in our siblings, parents and other relatives and give it the nurture our own inner child desires. And wow – when that burden has been lifted you’ll soar!
If you find the past difficult to heal, and you’ve done all the forgiveness work you think you can, then it’s time to rewrite the past. Realize that you have a choice about the role you’re playing and how invested you are in the narrative of your life up to this point.
Scrutinize your thoughts and, using a practical approach, one by one, rewrite them. Send the universe the message that you’re ready to disengage with any karmic bonds and step out of the cycle. What is the opposite of your experience?
Imagine it; experience the energy located within it every day and eventually as with any manifestation things will begin to shift. Once you’re ready to take this to a higher level, whole lifetimes and painful memories will be altered.
Reality really is mutable in this way, and it can and has been done, helping your whole family; your ancestors even. Your family was not chosen to appease you, but challenge and direct you inside yourself. Your soul family is something quite different; always there for you they are the rare but ever present people who feel like home to us, in whatever form they might take.
But don’t think about the goal; just take it one step at a time. Are you ready to absolve your family karma? You are the one to do it, you chose this! Be an example, step up and lead. You’re ready.