How many would agree that we all need healing? I’m not talking about physical healing, but on a psychological, emotional and spiritual level.
Healing ourselves from past traumas, abusive relationships, a difficult childhood, karma or even our own mind! Healing happens on several levels, sometimes our emotions/feelings have been suppressed for so many years that we don’t even realise we’re sick or wounded.
We either deny it and go about our daily routine as if everything is okay or we are totally unaware about it until you reach a point that it ends up manifesting in other ways, mostly affecting our physical form that ends up shatters an individual completely and this is when we realize that we need healing.
Healing takes place when you allow it to happen and when your mind, thoughts and emotions are in alignment with your whole being. You can only allow it to happen when you have gained awareness about the issues or blockages that need clearing and it is brought to the surface.
Here are five hidden signs you may need healing ~
1) You only focus on the negative
“The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful” ~ Tenzin Gyatso
Thinking negative has become a habit for any kind of situation. Its like your mind has been tuned to only think of the worst possible outcome instead of looking at the positive side of things. Being positive all the time is not possible (let’s be realistic, unless you are a child), but pessimism has become part of your thought process.
Circumstances and life experiences have made you the person you are, but at the same time you are depriving yourself from living life. Sh*t happens to everyone all the time, in some cases it can be worse, but a tinge of positivity can lighten things up and bring you peace of mind even if it’s short lived.
When you recognise this you can begin to step forward on your self healing journey.
2) You tend to overthink
As Osho said, “The Mind: a beautiful servant, a dangerous master.”
When you lose control over your mind and allow it to rule your life, you are in trouble. It not only drains your energy completely but is also a waste of time because nothing positive comes out of it.
I have been a culprit of going overboard with my thinking several times in my life and trust me it has taken me to some of the darkest corners of my mind and swallowed me whole with redundant thoughts. It’s like a vicious trap and if you get caught in it, it can consume you, but if you manage to break free, you reach a safe spot.
That’s the reason why ancient texts refer to it as the ‘monkey mind‘ jumping from one branch to another tirelessly. Only when we decide to take control of it and tame our mind, it becomes our follower.
3) You are caught in the information trap
Gaining knowledge can be an empowering experience. Wisdom is when you know how and when to use that information.
If your thirst for knowledge is an attempt to fill a void within or to cover up a repressed feeling, then it’s only reduced to a combination of words.
We have met people in our lives who can strike a conversation on almost anything under the sun, but are those real conversations? The ones that have the capacity to touch your soul or make a difference in your life. Don’t talk for the sake of it, talk what you really mean. That’s being wise…
Wisdom is not characterized by having a bigger brain, but a bigger heart. Wisdom is shining light in the darkness. It is not something that can be obtained from a book but learnt through experiences, being intuitive and recognition of your inner voice.
The words of Rudolf Steiner comes to mind ~
In speaking, only what has sense or significance should come from the lips of those striving for higher development. Speaking for the sake of speaking is bad in the sense that general kinds of conversations where all subjects are jumbled together should be avoided. One shall, by no means, cut oneself off from one’s fellow companions, one should develop one’s conversation, step by step into something of significance.
One speaks and responds thoughtfully. Never speaking without a reason, rather loving to remain silent. One must try to utter neither too many words nor too few.
4) You fear losing control or letting go
Everyone has fears – some are terrified of heights, others are of darkness, failure, change, truth, and most of all, losing control.
Its an unending desire for certainty and to control every outcome in our lives. We plan so far ahead so our days can be comfortable, we are scared of losing control because we don’t want to be thrown out of our comfort zone, into the unknown which can’t be controlled.
Only when we step out of our comfort zone can we experience adventure, get the opportunity to view life from a different lens, grow as a person and more importantly develop courage to look within; that’s when the magic happens.
Drop the safety net, cut off the cords that keep us tied to our old behavioral patterns, get out of your own way and live life. We can’t control the outcome or the future but we certainly can control our mind and create a new beginning today.
5) You suffer from cognitive dissonance
“Sometimes people don’t want to hear the truth because they don’t want their illusions destroyed.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
When we hold on to our beliefs like our life depends on it, when we are so rigid in our thinking and opinion that the moment somebody challenges it with a contradictory belief we feel uncomfortable, this is when we experience cognitive dissonance.
Following this, we may either choose to alter our limited belief system or just dismiss it and reinforce our original beliefs. Based on how you respond to it, cognitive dissonance can have a huge impact on our lives.
In order to question our beliefs we must be willing to turn our attention inwards and once that happens we are able to look at every judgment, criticism, belief and idea with a fresh perspective.
Self healing is possible, there’s over 50 years of evidence showing that the body can heal itself from all sorts of diseases including life-threatening ones. All you need is a catalyst to enable the healing, check the previous link out for more details. We can hardly fathom the power of our minds and the abilities.
Learn to let go and the rest will fall into place. “Sometimes you need to just step back breathe and take some time to heal yourself.”