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Eye Contact as a Way to Look into One Another

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“What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.” ~ Aristotle

As obvious as it may sound, eye contact – as the primary way living beings communicate, alongside body language and the spoken word – is more important than you might think. The difference is, unlike body language and the spoken word, that eye contact can be something we forget to do.

Let’s go one step further and hold the lack of eye contact (amongst a group of city commuters for example) as one of the biggest missing links when it comes to making a heart and soul connection… this one simple change in our habits may be the key to rediscovering our dialogue with the whole, and revisiting the days of unlimited energy and positive vibes we had as children.

So let’s start at the beginning. Before I had children I completely took it for granted the importance of eye contact. But knowing what I know now, I can see how the lack of eye contact we got, as babies especially, may be accountable for a huge amount of depression, misinterpretation of the other and general disconnect in our adult lives. In short, eye contact is how we see into each other’s hearts.

Take the newly born child. Say, for example the mother experienced a particularly traumatic birth, or that she wasn’t being supported fully or was living in a threatening or stressful environment, she would most likely fall prey to Post Natal Depression and the amount of eye contact she treated her new baby to would understandably plummet.
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In sensing his mother’s distraction, the baby would crave this soul connection and find other ways of getting her attention, feeling ignored and starved of something perhaps more important than milk, it would cry more, become fussy… it could entirely effect its subsequent connection with his mother for the rest of his childhood.

When we look into a baby’s, animals or other person’s eyes, and ‘lock on’, we tap in to an inevitable and sacred connection with each other. This connection then triggers a surge of love from the heart, or perhaps we might look deep into another’s eyes and truly understand them for the first time where once we detested them and interpreted all of their actions as coming from a place of hate or jealousy.

They say the eyes are the windows to the soul, but how long has it been since you last remembered this truism and practiced such a powerful soul-to-soul connection? As is the greeting Namaste; looking into one another’s eyes in soulful eye contact we recognize and respect the light in another as it is in us. It’s an incredibly healing and enlightening thing to do.

So what happens to derail us from this practice? When our trust is broken or we are deeply hurt, avoiding one another’s gaze can be a natural but damaging habit to cling to. Looking at the space above other’s heads, at the floor, over their shoulder, even slightly to the right of their pupils or at their mouth can be handy ways to rob yourself of that heart connection.

It makes people distrust you. If they can’t see who you really are, and that you’re guarding something, they will take that as a sign you’re not to be trusted.

Perhaps you are introverted and find eye-contact draining. Or perhaps you’re ashamed of who you really are and don’t want others to see into your soul – do you feel like you’re inferior or secretly ‘bad’ from past mistakes or even past life mistakes that are still swimming around in your subconscious and lowering your self worth.

Perhaps you are resisting life and are afraid that if you make soul connections then that’ll invite a whole flood of challenges. Perhaps you are even a little on the lazy side and are allowing a partner or friend to make all your soul connections for you… but still, it comes from a place of fear.
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Projecting a false self forward only hardens our hearts. Like the baby who wants more than milk our hearts need to be fed and avoiding eye contact can be one of the most damaging and cruel ways to punish yourself.

Perhaps, even if you are unaware of it, your mother through no fault of her own didn’t feed you enough of this soul connection when you were an infant. Was she ill or unhappy or working and distracted… is it simply a habit to override?

Others may interpret this ‘selfish’ guarding of your light in any number of different ways, but however they do so you can guarantee that most will punish you for it. We are inter-dependent and eye contact is the easiest way that we ‘share’ our energy and good vibes. A person could spend their whole lifetimes making this one simple mistake in their interactions – do you want to be that person?

Getting to the root of the cause can be frightening, but it’s time to rectify it and start enjoying your life again. Walking around in a bubble does no-one any favours and especially not YOU.

Melt the ice around yourself and rise above the ego’s niggling acid drops of doubt. Let down the draw-bridge and begin to find joy again. What’s the worst that could happen?

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Conscious Parenting: Accepting Our Children As They Are

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“In seeking to restore an experience of oneness between your children and yourself, the path leads by way of the discovery of communion with your own forgotten self. This is the case because establishing a meaningful partnership with your children will inevitably cause you to attend to the development of your own authentic being.

As your growing awareness disintegrates the parent-child hierarchy, it will spontaneously equalize the playing field in your family. Moving away from egoic behavior- surrendering your opinions of how situations ‘ought’ to be, and how people ‘should’ act- will allow you to step off your pedestal of dominance.” ~ Shefali Tsabary, Phd, author “The Conscious Parent”

Often we get so stuck in our roles as “mom” or “dad”, that we forget what it truly means to be a parent. We create an image in our minds of what it means to play the roles of mother or father, and consequently we take the authenticity out of the moments we spend with our children.

We are so busy playing the part, that we forget to savor the beauty of the time we spend with them.

Since our children are younger, and know less about the world than we do, it’s easy for us to buy into the illusion that it is only us that is teaching them, rather than realizing that they are teaching us as much as we are teaching them. A hierarchy gets established.

An underlying feeling of, “I am the parent, they are MY child. I tell them what to do, how to live, how to be, and ultimately mold them into what I want them to be or what I believe will make them happiest, most successful and well-rounded” begins to be the motivating force behind our actions as a parent.

However, what many parents fail to realize, or often forget over time, is that our children are not our possessions. They are not our little living dolls to make become whatever we think they should be.

Our children are called forth from us to teach us about ourselves.And it is only in our truest and most authentic relationship with our own selves, and our own inner child, are we able to establish a conscious relationship with our children.

concparentimage1If we only focus on molding our children into what we want them to be by using forms of control, power, manipulation and discipline we run the risk of denying our children the right to be who they truly are.

The child who is denied the ability to be able to be his own self, and accept his own self for what he truly is, becomes the adult who often is disconnected from their own hearts and starts to try and live the life everyone else wants them to live. Then this child has children and you can see how the cycle begins.

It seems the biggest challenge we have as parents is defining the boundaries between being a good role model, a person who embodies all the qualities we wish for our children to emulate.

While at the same time not denying our children’s own personal spirit to the point that they abandon themselves to become the person we want them to be, or worse, they rebel against everything we say and play out the role of the “troubled child” in order to teach us the meaning of unconditional love.

In order to establish the most effective and authentic relationship with our children, one that allows us to be able to be our best self and for them to be able to be their own best and authentic selves, we must first and foremost tend to the relationship with ourselves and our own heart.

“You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

The more rooted in our own awareness we become and the more we challenge our own limited beliefs about society and life, the better our relationship with our children becomes.

Instead of operating off of the belief that our child must be this or that, or play this sport, or get these grades, or look this way in order to be “worthy” or “valuable”, we begin to accept our children exactly as they are.

Because we begin practicing unconditional love to our own hearts, we consequently create the space for our children to celebrate their own unique traits and attributes which allows them to flourish into their own best version of themselves.

Point blank, a happy and well rounded child, young adult and adult is the child who is taught to love himself.

child--parents-relationshipA child that is taught to adore and be proud of the strange little quirks that make them who they are is the recipe for the adult who is confident and independent.

The child that feels free to be himself without fear of disappointing the parent or angering them for simply being who they are becomes the adult who openly accepts not only himself and his path, but more readily accepts others for who they are.

Now of course, parenting won’t always be easy. There will be times when our children challenge us, and go against our rules, or maybe even get in trouble.

Instead of disciplining from the standpoint of control and exerting power, the conscious parent sees these behaviors as a cry for help. The troubled child isn’t getting in trouble because he is a “bad” kid, he is only showing us that there is something they are not loving about themselves.

Because the child doesn’t know how to go about getting our attention or how to love and nurture themselves, they often unconsciously act out “bad” behavior in order to bring attention to this.

Often parents will start labeling the child the “bad” one, the “troublemaker”, or the “delinquent”, but what they are not realizing is that the child will live up to our expectations of them. If our expectation bar has been set low, they will only go as far as the bar has been set.

Instead of focusing on the details of the “bad” behavior, focus on the child’s relationship with his own self, mainly the good things about the child rather than what the child has done “wrong”, we give the child the tools to be able to love his own self through adversity.

When the child can love and nurture themselves, and forgive themselves for making mistakes and learn from the mistakes they make, they begin to establish a trust within themselves that is invaluable.

The unconditional love we show for ourselves, spills over to our children which allows them to feel free.

“Love your children, but never hope through them.” ~ Osho

The beauty of conscious parenting is that it happens naturally as a result of getting in touch with our own awareness, and loving and healing our own inner child.

The more rooted in love and acceptance of our own selves we become, we automatically begin to heal the relationship with our children. Parenting and being a good parent isn’t about being perfect.

The most important thing we can show our children is that we are authentic. It’s not about having all the right answers, or being a “super-hero” mom or dad that does no wrong, it’s more about teaching our children that we are all, imperfectly perfect.

By looking at our children as our little spiritual gurus that have been called forth from us to teach us about life or to remind us of the magic in our own selves that we may have left in childhood, an amazing spiritual partnership gets established. They teach us and we teach them.

Conscious Parenting: Shefali Tsabary at TEDxSF (7 Billion Well)

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4 Yoga Poses to Open the Crown Chakra

  • “Wisdom begins at the end.” ~ Daniel Webster
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As Kundalini energy rises up from the lower chakras, we enter into the realm of pure consciousness. The seventh and final chakra: Sahasrara, the Crown Chakra is the center for deeper connection with ourselves and with a force of life that is greater than ourselves.

Resonating a pure light, the energy of Crown Chakra is where Ida and Pingala Nadis unite and rise through the Sushumnā Nādī.

The Sahasrara chakra is symbolized by a lotus with a thousand different colored petals, arranged in twenty layers of 50 petals. It encompasses the crown of the head, where all chakras are integrated, while it passes into infinity from the top of the head.

An active Sahasrara Chakra unifies the human mind with the higher self and takes us beyond the existence of space and time. This chakra is associated with wisdom, enlightenment and transcendence. Practicing awakening the Crown chakra will lead to dismissal of confusion, self doubt, depression, hesitation and alienation.

Here is a quick guide:
Colour: Voilet
Element: Thought/Will
Glands/Organs: Upper part of the brain: Cerebrum
Gems/Minerals affecting it: Amethyst, Diamond, Purple Fluorite, Selentine, Quartz Crystal, Sugilite, Alexandrite
Foods: Associated with fasting or violet fruits & vegetables

As we move up the ladder, the higher chakras are more affected by meditation and inner work rather than physical work. Here is a list of some yoga poses to open the crown chakra, along with an advanced pose, Sirsasana (Headstand), which is the most effective pose to stimulate the Crown Area.

Ardha Padmasana or Half Lotus Pose

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How to: Start by sitting in an easy pose (sukhasana) on the mat. For further support, beginners can sit on a cushion to stay longer in the pose. Lift the left foot and gently place it on the right thigh, while the other foot stays underneath the left thigh.

Place the hands on the knees. Stay here and mediate if you can hold for long enough or practice daily to achieve the long duration required for mediation.

Why to: Lotus pose or Padamasana is one of the most opted poses for meditation as it neutralises blood pressure, balances the body and calms the mind. Directly tapping into the higher consciousness, half lotus pose extend the same benefits as a full lotus pose and is a great practice for beginners.

Vriksasana or Tree Pose

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How to: Start with Mountain pose, keep the feet hip width apart. Extend your spine tall and fix your gaze forward at a focal point. Breathe in and lift the right leg and place the sole of your right foot on the left leg, inner thigh. The heel of the right leg should touch the perineum otherwise, can rest on the thigh, or even on the calf initially.

Lifting the torso upwards, take a deep breath & raise the arms up, joining the hands in Namaste mudra. If you can, take your gaze upwards towards the ceiling. Stay here for 5 to 7 breaths and repeat on the other side.

Why to: A restorative and a balancing pose, the position of the arms and gaze taps into the energies of the crown chakra. The position of the body, works from root to the tip of the head, by aligning the chakras in a string. Also, rejuvenating the mind, it strengths the whole body.

Savasana or Corpse Pose

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How to: Lie gently on your back, lift your pelvis and slide your tailbone away to comfortably spread your lower back. Keep just a light, natural arch to your lower back. Rest your pelvis on the ground. Place both the feet and the arms 3 to 4 feet apart with palms facing the ceiling. Support the back of the head and neck on a folded blanket, if you like.

Now close your eyes and take a slow deep breath. As you exhale, let your body relax and sink into the floor. Maintain stillness as you relax and quiet the mind. Loosen your whole body completely, like its sinking in the floor. Stay here for as long as you like.

Why to: This pose gets its name from the posture of a dead body. It requires the stillness of a corpse, which makes it a challenging one. It helps in the repair of tissues and cells and in releasing stress. Savasana helps to calm and balance the crown chakra.

Salamba Sirsasana or Supported Headstand

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How to: An advance pose, Supported Headstand can be performed by following a series of preparatory postures. An expert’s guiding presence is recommended initially.

Come in Dolphin pose and place the head in between your elbows, like your hands are cupping the tip of the head. Inhale and reach up through the balls of your feet until your body form a V, thereby raising the hips to the ceiling. The majority of the weight would have shifted to your forearms and shoulders by now. Start by lifting one leg, feet pointing upwards.

Keep the abdomen tight. Stay here for a couple of breaths and try the other leg. Keep practicing this position for a couple of days till you get a hang of the weight on the shoulders and head.

Use the abdominal muscles to raise both feet up together and draw the thighs in the abdomen. The torso should remain perpendicular to the floor. Exhale and lift the legs gently towards the ceiling.

Keep the weight evenly balanced on the two forearms. The whole procedure can be first practiced against the wall, in order to avoid any injury and gradually once you build strength you can move away from the wall.

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Why to: This pose inverts the flow of the blood completely towards the head, giving rest to all the organs in the body. In Headstand, the crown of your head is on the floor, which means it is grounded and connected to the earth. An effective and a sure shot way to create awareness and balance in the crown area, this pose will restore the flow of energy in your body.

Nadi Shodhan Pranayama or Alternate Nostril Breathing

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How to: Connected to the two hemispheres of the brain, our nostrils are gateways to reservoir of charged energies. This breathing practice or Pranayama balances and activates the Ida and Pingala Nadis. Sit in an easy pose and start by forming a Nasika Mudra, i.e. First two fingers folded and last two fingers and thumb stretched out.

Place the thumb on the right nostril, and inhale from the left nostril, hold your breath for 2-3 seconds. Now close the left nostril with the last two fingers and exhale from the right nostril. Again, inhale from the right, close the right nostril with the thumb and then exhale from the left. Repeat the procedure for 5 to 7 times on each side.

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Why to: Nadi Shodhana pranayama helps to bring the mind back to the present moment and is an excellent breathing technique to calm and center the mind. It regulates the breath, increases the psychic abilities of the practitioner, and also balances both the hemispheres of the brain.

Other advance poses that activates and stimulate the crown chakra are Wheel Pose or Chakra Asana, Hand Stand, Crane Pose or Bakasana, Lotus Pose or Padamasana; King Pigeon Pose.

Seed Mantra Meditation

How to: OM is the seed or the beej mantra of the Crown Chakra. Sit comfortably in an easy pose, preferably away from any support. Start by taking deep breaths and bring all the attention to the mid of the fontanelle area of the head. Chant ‘OM’ loudly, and feel the chakra opening and the energy flowing in a horizontal direction, merging with infinity.

Then Chant ‘OM’ again loudly, with the energy vibrating vertically from head to toe and into the earth. Repeat the verbal chant two times more. Now, repeat the set of alternate chant of OM (horizontal movement) and OM (Vertical movement) mentally three times. Continue the chant first out loud, then mentally as long as you wish.

Why to: The seed invocation is a form of a charged mantra. The sound when chanted resonates and reaches directly to the centre of the crown chakra and immediately activates it. The beej meditation will increase the circumference of the chakra and balance it.

Removing the obstructions in the flow of energy, this pure form of meditation will integrate the whole body in one loop. The Shiva (Masculine) and Shakti (Feminine) energy, finds equilibrium here and meets the divine light.

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Five Ways to Practice Ruthless Mindfulness

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Reader beware! My softness has teeth. My vulnerability does not come without a tempest’s thunder. Real probability of spiritual trepidation and soul-wrenching transformation, from which there will be no turning back. Proceed with caution…

Despite what you might think, fierceness, fearlessness and ruthlessness are all possible without resorting to violence.

The world doesn’t need more trigger-happy militarized crackpots with nationalism and patriotism scrambling their brains into exploitable soup.

It needs compassionate, but fierce, Eco-conscious spirit warriors with the courage to challenge the powers-that-be, while also bringing tonality to an otherwise atonal world using progressively sustainable solutions that reveal how a healthier world is possible.

Like Kathryn Schulz said, “Ignorance isn’t necessarily a vacuum waiting to be filled; just as often, it is a wall, actively maintained.”

We need more people with both the courage to disclose the vacuum and the audacity to topple the walls, lest we become prisoners to the powers that be. The ability to practice ruthless mindfulness is a critical key in this pursuit.

Carlos Castaneda’s Don Juan was known as “The Shaman of Ruthlessness.” And it is in a similar connotation that I use the term “ruthless:” based in hard love and proactive courage, with the focus on being pitiless and fierce with one’s power.

Here are five ways to do precisely that.

1) Slay the Dragon of Ignorance

“A hero is not a champion of things become, but of things becoming; the dragon to be slain by him is precisely the monster of the status quo.” ~ Joseph Campbell

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Ignorance gleaned by the mystification of those in power is one of the most ruthless forms of oppression, enclosing upon one more narrowly than any prison: a prison of the psyche.

Perhaps the only way to bust out of this prison is to become an autodidact, a self-educated person, an autonomous student of life. This may require unlearning what we have previously learned.

It may require tearing apart the box of our indoctrination and then daring to think outside of it. Indeed, the past must die in the present so that the future may live.

Like Jose Ortega y Gasset said, “The man who discovers a new truth has previously had to smash to atoms almost everything he had learned, and arrives at the new truth with hands bloodstained from the slaughter of a thousand platitudes.” This is no easy task.

It takes Trickster courage followed by Promethean audacity; all while maintaining a balance between Herculean strength and Dionysian vulnerability.

The Dragon of Ignorance is a behemoth of myopic blind-faith wallowing in the parochial muck and mire of religious crutches and political props, buttressed by a pseudo-power that feeds the dragon’s tail to itself. It is the epitome of close-mindedness, living within an insular rut to which it maddeningly declares as “all things” and refuses to question.

It can be slain by mindfulness meditation based in self-interrogation (ruthless questioning) and autodidact resourcefulness while focusing upon the throat and third eye chakras. With enough practice this will create within us at least a common courage with which to leverage our mindfulness into the world.

The demon, the phantom, the monster, and even the hydra to follow, all pale in comparison to the power of the dragon. It is because of the Dragon of Ignorance that, in hindsight, the first step of the hero’s journey is almost always the most difficult one.

2) Crucify the Demon of Fear

“The influence of a vital person vitalizes.” ~ Joseph Campbell

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As I wrote in Five Unconventional Ways to Trigger the Heart Chakra: Fearlessness is about transforming fear from an unskillful worry into a skillful courage. The transformation phase of this process is the crucifixion of the Demon of Fear.

We crucify fear precisely because we need our fear to be resurrected in the form of Cosmic Courage. We grab the demon by the throat, nail it to the cross, and force it to die for our sins, so that we can be reborn into a human being capable of uncommon (skillful) courage: an exceptional courage that goes beyond typical courage. Indeed, it’s only after crucifying the Demon of Fear that the true courage of the hero, the Cosmic Hero, is unleashed.

Christ-like daring, Buddha-like bravery, Gandhi-like audacity, MLK Junior-like resolution, the Cosmic Hero is the resurrected Demon of Fear, the transformed shadow, the darkness becoming the dawn, rising up from his fear like a phoenix rising out of its own ashes.

Like Lao Tzu said, “If you realize that all things change, there is nothing you will try to hold on to. If you are not afraid of dying, there is nothing you cannot achieve.”

The Cosmic Hero is fearless and can achieve anything precisely because he/she embraces impermanence and has no fear of death. Ruthless Mindfulness is the sharper side of the double edged sword that Jesus referred to when he said: “I came not to bring peace, but to bring a sword.”

With this “sword” the Cosmic Hero shaves the superfluous from the world in order to moderate it out of unhealthy immoderation. With this “sword” the Cosmic Hero decollates the individual human ego in order to plant the Seed of Consciousness that can potentially grow into the Mind (no-mind) of interdependent thought (thoughtlessness).

This demon can be crucified through mindfulness meditation based in archetypal imaginative visualization while focusing on the root and crown chakras. This is an arduously Nietzschean task, requiring the individual to have the capacity to perpetually self-overcome. But, like Spinoza ingeniously opined, “All things excellent are as difficult as they are rare.”

3) Exorcize the Phantom of Apathy

“You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in.” ~ Eliezer Yudkowsky

I cannot stress enough how empowering it is to be able to recondition your own preconditioning, especially in a world that is predominantly conditioned by unhealthy and unsustainable programming.

The Phantom of Apathy is a lazy, indifferent monster wallowing in its own ennui, concerned only with maintaining and clinging to its creature comforts and pseudo-happiness which is founded upon base, mostly unearned, pleasures that keep one entrenched and attached to a hyperreal world.

This phantom haunts anyone born into a culture that conditions its people in unhealthy, codependent/Narcissistic, and unsustainable ways of being in an otherwise healthy, interdependent cosmos. In short: the majority of us are haunted by this particularly sneaky and enculturated ghost.

And that’s where it’s our turn to step up as healthy, mature, and responsible adults and take it upon ourselves to recondition the precondition, to transform ourselves from victims into warriors.

Like Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

By exorcizing the Phantom of Apathy we go from being victims of the world to being the world. We become beings capable of empathy, compassion, and love. We become liberated, independent agents of an interdependent whole. In short: we become holistic.

Like Vedanta said, “Undifferentiated consciousness, when differentiated, becomes the world.”

But as long as the Phantom of Apathy continues to haunt us, we will remain victims to apathy. This phantom can be exorcized through mindfulness meditation based in healthy detachment and taking responsibility for our actions (mind, body, and soul), while focusing on the navel and third eye chakras.

Change is never easy. Changing ourselves into healthy, responsible, independent agents who represent an interdependent whole is even more difficult. But doing so can be as simple (difficult) as understanding what Meister Eckhart taught: “He who would be serene and pure needs but one thing: detachment.”

4) Count Coup on the Monster of Authority

“If I am unable to make the gods above relent, I shall move hell.” ~ Virgil

If ever there was a thing that ought to have coup counted upon it, it is authority. As it stands, we are in conflict with a malignant and cancerous regime: plutocracy.

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Now, more than ever, we need mindfulness to break through the antiquated ideals and parochial stopgaps of this train wreck we call “our leadership.”

The current system doesn’t want us capable of critical thought. It wants us passive, ignorant, and fearful. It wants us to remain haunted by the Phantom of Apathy.

It wants us to remain crippled by the Demon of Fear. It wants to keep us dumbed down by the Dragon of Ignorance.

It wants us servile so that we will remain cogs in its unhealthy, dog-eat-dog clockwork so that it can capitalize on our power. We counteract this by being aggressive, knowledgeable, and courageous with our mindfulness thinking. We counteract this by turning the tables on power and counting coup on authority.

Caught-up, as we are, in this buckling socio-political gambit, it is difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But it is there, blinking like a fiery beacon. Sometimes it takes seeing the forest for the trees, before we can see the light.

Sometimes it takes sneaking up on authority (or so-called authority) and giving it a good smack, a wakeup call, the kind of wakeup call that causes everyone’s souls to warble in their sheathes, and their hearts to buckle and bend against the uncertain and precarious reality that is the Great Mystery of the cosmos.

Counting coup is a gesture of supreme bravery in the face of seemingly overwhelming odds, a courageous act that topples high horses, melts down pedestals, and humbles entrenched power.

We can count coup on the Monster of Authority through mindfulness meditation on the heart and third eye chakra (to address self-authority), through acts of civil disobedience and proactive peaceful resistance, and by creating politically moving artwork that humbles the powers that be.

The future can either be wide-open and healthy, or closed-off and unhealthy. If we remain on our current unsustainable path it will surely be the latter, but we can still decide to change course and create a new path toward sustainability. It’s in our hands. Let’s have the courage it will take to tear down the old and build up the new.

5) Thwart the Hydra of Power

“In an atonal world one must oppose it in such a way that one compels it to tonalize itself.” ~ Slavoj Zizek

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In Greek mythology, the Hydra was a monstrous serpent-like creature that possessed many heads. Likewise, the entrenched power of modern-day hierarchical government structures possesses many heads.

Both of these “Hydras” are tricky behemoths of seemingly absolute power whose powers seem to corrupt absolutely. As the myth goes, “Cut off one head, two more shall take its place.”

So we need to use a different kind of strategy in thwarting such a foe as this. We need a tool to leverage healthy power against corrupt power. Indeed, we need to discover a way to get power over power. Heracles tricked Hydra by cauterizing the open neck stumps with a firebrand. So what we need is a Heraclesian Firebrand.

Here’s the thing: the battle here is against an abstraction, not people. This type of battle requires a different tactic. The answer is not to win, or to give up, or to get revenge, but to create something new –in this case, new ways of communicating and ruthlessly questioning our perceptions and misconceptions regarding our place as a species on this planet. This is our firebrand: ruthless human creativity and ingenuity.

This is precisely what’s needed to cauterize the wound leftover from the severed heads of the Governmental Hydra. In other words: we need enough creativity, openness, and courage to grapple with our differences while also planting seeds of healthy sustainability in the open neck stumps of the Governmental Hydra.

Otherwise, we will remain victims/slaves/prisoners to the plethora of unhealthy and unsustainable heads of the all-too-powerful Hydra and its corrupt overreach.

We can thwart the Hydra of Power through mindfulness meditation based upon aggressive but loving creativity and righteous but sacred anger, while focusing on the heart and crown chakras. But we must remain circumspect, never resting on our laurels, lest they too become inner hydras of power with the potential to corrupt us.

Like Karl Popper said, “Every solution to a problem creates new unsolved problems.”

So it behooves us to remain forever vigilant against power, especially power that claims to be absolute.

Indeed, life itself can be its own Hydra, which ought to compel us toward more and more refined and elegant questions rather than relying too much on uncompromising answers. Like Paulo Coelho said, “A wise person is full of questions. A dull person is full of answers.”

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Do We Always Need to Know Why Things Happen?

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“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too was a gift.” ~ Mary Oliver

What if you knew, like really really knew, that nothing ever has or ever will go wrong in your life? While most people can look back at any past tragedy or catastrophe that has happened to them and find some silver lining that eventually showed itself through the clouds, it doesn’t stop our mind’s incessant need to judge situations in our present moment as “good” or “bad”, “right” or “wrong.”

If something goes the way we wanted, or the way we had planned it to go, we label it as “right”, and when something doesn’t go the way we had planned it, we label it “wrong.”

However, if we transcend the judgments of the mind, and start operating from the perspective that nothing, in fact, EVER goes wrong, but is only showing up in our lives to further our evolution of consciousness and to help us grow, we come to a place where we can gain insight from ALL of our experiences.

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It is when we gain insight from our experiences that we are able to flow with the natural changes and progressions of our lives more easily and readily.

Challenges and problems are no longer looked at as something to defend ourselves against or to resist, but rather something that we start to welcome with open arms because we realize it has only shown up in our experience to help make us a better person.

As soon as the lessons are learned and the experiences are accepted and surrendered to, we not only grow to higher levels of maturity and consciousness, but we also find that those types of “lessons” no longer pop up into our lives.

So how do we go about finding clarity and understanding in the face of adversity? How do we take ourselves out of the perceived negativity of our present moment circumstances to a place where we can start finding the deeper meaning behind our experiences?

“And when I looked back at my life, when I looked back at it all, I clearly saw how bad times really meant everything. And how every moment that led me to happiness revolved around some kind of terrible darkness. Sometimes the darkness was a beautiful thing and sometimes it took me to a place where I had no idea where it would all go, but I knew it was all meant to be okay.” ~ R.M. Drake

flying_in_the_face_of_adversity_by_dzaet-d4oe80qUnderstanding Why Things Happen

When a sudden change occurs the first question we often ask ourselves is, “why?” It seems the more we resonate with the belief that everything happens for a reason, the more insatiable the mind becomes in wanting to know the deeper reason behind all situations.

It seems we can blame anything from clearing karma from a past life to subconscious programming for bringing into our life things that we feel we do not want. However, as most of us know, the “why” something happens rarely reveals itself at the time of the occurrence. More often than not the “why” something has happened becomes besides the point.

It is just something that our ego mind can fixate on to take our attention off aligning ourselves with the solutions and moving forward. Eventually as time passes we most likely will see why things happened the way they did, but in order to gain true insight about our lives, we must come to terms with the fact that we rarely have complete control over our life’s circumstances.

And on top of that, why would you want to? What would our life be if we just knew every single thing that was going to happen, there were no challenges to face or adversities to overcome?

In theory it sounds great, but when we think of things that way, we see that knowing everything that is going to happen takes the fun out of life. Who wants to go to a movie where they already know the outcome?

What joy can we get from a book where we see exactly how the character will solve every problem before we even start reading? There comes a point in all of our lives that we will inevitably hit a wall.

Something major happens and we search and search for the hidden meaning and the deeper understanding but we just can’t quite come up with a definite answer. At this point, there is only one thing left to do.

Embrace Uncertainty

Accept that you are confused. Accept the uncertainty, embrace the mystery, and love the part of you that doesn’t understand.

If we come to a place where we find peace in not knowing why something has happened, yet we know that it inevitably is making us stronger, happier, clearer or raising us to new levels of understanding, we are able to navigate through situations with a much happier outlook.

We aren’t always meant to know exactly why something happens in our lives, and that’s okay.

If we switch our perspective from only searching for the hidden meaning behind something to instead just loving the person who is going through an unplanned change, we begin to align ourselves with our higher wisdom.

The wisdom that comes from the part of us that knows that not only does everything happen for a reason, but that everything happens to bring ourselves back to ourselves.clarityimage3

The more we love ourselves through these unexpected circumstances the more we start to live a life full of faith rather than thinking that we somehow need to exert complete control over everything and know exactly who, what, when, why and how for all of life’s situations.

“Adversity introduces a man to himself.” ~ Albert Einstein

Sometimes the deepest insight one can have is coming to terms with the fact that it’s okay to not know why something is happening. At the moment where we accept the fact that we are confused and don’t understand, two amazing things happen. First, we relinquish the need for complete control over to the higher intelligence of the universe.

This becomes a huge weight lifted off of our shoulders and allows us to trust that things are working out exactly as they are supposed to. The second thing that happens is we then allow ourselves to simply love the part of us that doesn’t know.

The minute we love this part of ourselves we shift into a level of understanding that says it’s okay to not understand. Soon our life begins to unfold in magical ways.

We start to see ourselves and our life’s circumstances from the vantage point of a higher level of wisdom. One that doesn’t need to know exactly why something is happening at the time that it happens, all it knows is that when something does happen that we didn’t plan for, the only assignment is to love the one going through the change.

From this vantage point, we find that circumstances not only begin to work themselves out on their own, but that we were only being led to bigger and better things.

If we remember just one little thing, that everything we are going through is preparing us for what we have asked for, we trust that the movie of life we are playing a part in will most certainly bring us to circumstances that may be surprising, but in actuality is shaping us into better and better versions of our former selves.

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