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The Ugly Duckling as a Metaphor for Enlightenment

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“The ugly duckling is a misunderstood universal myth. It’s not about turning into a blonde Barbie doll or becoming what you dream of being; it’s about self-revelation, becoming who you are.” ~ Baz Luhrmann

Much like Jack London’s story of White Fang, The Ugly Duckling by Hans Christian Anderson is a modern fairytale that explores the transformation of a swan mistaken for a duckling from birth to adulthood. It explores themes on misapprehensions over who we really are and what our true nature really is.

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Many interpretations may focus on the identification with a specific family or crowd and the discovery of our true people when we come of age, or even go a step further and draw parallels with the salmon swimming against the current its whole life in order to return home.

But, like White Fang, The Ugly Duckling doesn’t appear to be simply about discovering our true selves. It represents the whole misunderstanding of our full potentials and divine nature.

We believe we are mortal when in fact we are one with the Divine; expressions of pure love who have become lost on the journey and mistaken ourselves as inferior imposters, and those who don’t deserve any form of love… adoptive or otherwise.

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From birth, like the ‘duckling’, we must completely start over. Stripped of all ‘conscious’ memories of where we came from, what we are here to do and the whole meaning of creation and expansion we feel entirely alone.

And not only that, but on arrival in our new shells; the body and self we have chosen to breathe life into reveals itself to be less than perfect. In fact, we perceive it as ugly; there’s something not quite right about our presence, we don’t fit in.

We don’t follow the crowd and are not a carbon copy of all the others. Ironically we all seem to experience this, yet many fool themselves into thinking they are some sort of homogeneous number to add to the population.

So we may have been shown love and affection by one or two people like the adoptive mother duck who will stop at nothing to protect us, but the truth is that even she is living in her own karmic traps and must put herself before all others. Ultimately, we long to rejoin, or rediscover the higher love where we truly belong.
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The connection has been severed; we are cut off from all truth and are cast out into the cold river with no idea of the impermanence of our situation. We become engulfed in loneliness and put up with being shunned, repeatedly forsaking our integrity.

Our innocence has been lost; we become self aware and self conscious, and our authenticity breaks down. We follow the flock and pretend to fit in.

The Signet Denies it’s True Nature

Once the connection has been severed and the signet accepts its inferiority as truth, the denial of its true nature becomes habitual. It finds peace in its own destruction and the acceptance of the illusion it has created around it. For years it wanders, lost and engulfed in a deep suffering, consumed by its own ego and its own misery. Still it tries to fit in and becomes more desperate with each attempt.

The Transformation Begins

Despite experiencing flickers of doubt in relation to its true nature, as the signet grows becomes more and more consumed in misery. Hopelessness at the various shunned attempts to fit in and make a connection (despite a fair few adventures along the way, after all pretending to be someone you’re not can have an element of fun attached to it), the signet falls into a pit of despair and resigns itself to being numb.

It gives up and makes no more connections, instead living a life of solitude; the inferior’s fate. It hides in the reeds and resists eye contact, sneaks around and generally acts like the runt waiting to die.
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Suddenly, one day – when the last ache for life seems to have finally left its body and the last feather of fluffy grey down has fallen, the signet hears a sound. Lifting its head, it sees a beautiful creature unlike nothing it has ever seen before; long neck, white feather, the epitome of grace.

Swimming closer it not only sees the birds close up, but catches a glimpse of its own reflection, one ignored for so long it had forgotten it had one, only to discover that it looks exactly the same as those before it.

As they begin to fly into the sky, the signet – now a swan – spreads its wings and joins them, the knowledge that it was beautiful all along comes flooding back, and it is able to be at peace with itself once and for all.

The moral of this story, despite all the obvious ones, must surely be – not only to remember that we are pure love and will rejoin our higher selves one day – but to enjoy our ‘ugliness’. Spirituality helps us to be rest assured that one day our suffering may all be over and so to feel every last drop of suffering to the max. Drink up life in its imperfection, because that too is as vital as the bliss. Prayer and presence helps us to transcend the illusion of ‘time’ and connect with that impermanence.

Our ‘flock’ is not a specific group of people or scrap of land but the universe and creation in its entirety. Nor is the swan ‘higher’ or ‘lower’ than the ducks, but the same expression of the Divine looking back at itself. Above all else, this profound little tale seems to be telling us, that it is the path of most suffering; of ugliness, solitude and inferiority that paves the way to enlightenment. The deeper the wave, the higher the peak.

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Five Important Lessons April Fool’s Day Can Teach Us

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“April 1. This is the day upon which we are reminded of what we are on the other three hundred and sixty-four.” ~ Mark Twain

Ah, April Fool’s Day; such a breath of mischievous fresh air. Shenanigans, tomfoolery, clowning, general monkey business, it’s the day we are reminded of the paradoxical truth of the human condition: we are fallible, prone to mistakes, imperfect, barely-evolved animals with heads too full of so-called answers, and hearts full of mostly suppressed questions.

We get lost in our words. We get lost in our minds. We get lost: full stop. And one of the most powerful ways we have to get unlost, to get found again, is through practical jokes, high humor, satire and a loving mockery of the human condition.

Now enter April Fool’s Day, the day we’re all free to tap into the archetype of the Fool and let our inner fool-flag fly; the day we give ourselves free reign to run roughshod over our overly-modest and downright prudish sense of structure and orderliness.

But there is much to learn on this day. Indeed, more even than this list provides. But for the sake of brevity and time, here are five important lessons April fool’s Day can teach us.

1) The only snake oil salesman you have to fear is yourself

“A common mistake that people make when trying to design something completely foolproof is to underestimate the ingenuity of complete fools.” ~ Douglas Adams

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Ask yourself: do I want to be bamboozled less and enlightened more. If the answer is yes, then look in the mirror at the most deviously, scheming, and underhanded trickster in your life. Yes, it’s you. There’s no reason to fear being bamboozled by a snake oil salesman “out there” as long as the snake oil salesman within you has been put in its place.

Every con-man requires a victim. As long as you’re not a victim, or playing the victim, you cannot be conned. This is easier said than done, mind you. It requires questioning reality, especially yourself (the art of self-interrogation), to the nth degree. It requires being the living embodiment of taking things into consideration using the law of probability instead of blindly believing in whatever.

Most of all, it requires a humor of the most high: the kind of humor that is filled to bursting with laughter and smiles and jokes that trump any amount of anger or frowns or seriousness. It’s the kind of humor that turns the tables (“spins the tables” is probably more accurate) on Power itself, and puts it in its place. Like George Orwell ingeniously jeered, “The aim of a joke is not to degrade the human being, but to remind him that he is already degraded.”

2) A healthy sense of humor is more powerful than power itself

“The moment you say that any idea system is sacred, whether it’s a religious belief system or a secular ideology, the moment you declare a set of ideas to be immune from criticism, satire, derision, or contempt, freedom of thought becomes impossible.” ~ Salman Rushdie

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Satire has the potential to topple entire power structures. That’s why people who cling to outdated modes of power are so adamant about keeping political cartoons and the like out of circulation.

A healthy sense of humor overthrows programming; which is especially vital when the world is operating under unhealthy programming. By overthrowing our programming, we begin to live on purpose. We begin to live with purpose.

We begin to take our destiny into our own hands, to discover our own authentic power, instead of merely remaining a pawn to chance and the harsh whims of those already in power.

By becoming the upsetting factor in a system where “truth” has become parochial and uncouth, we set the groundwork for such truth to be dissolved into compost that has the vital nutrients needed to grow a new and improved order of things.

Only a disruptor of unhealthy programs has the capacity to create healthier programming, and their tool is a sacred sense of humor, which implies, more than anything else, not taking oneself too seriously. Like Max Eastman said, “It is the ability to take a joke –not make one– that proves you have a good sense of humor.”

3) Freedom of expression is paramount

“I believe in absolute freedom of expression. Everyone has a right to offend and be offended.” ~ Taslima Nasrin

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To be creative, truly and uniquely creative, one must be willing to be a stark-raving fool; to sit upon a precarious throne made of toothpicks spitting out equal-parts shit and acumen within a house of cards on top of a jackass walking through an indifferent desert carrying (what we hope are) compassionate desserts.

Disposition is immensely important upon such precarious waters as these. April fool’s Day, probably more than any other day, exemplifies the precariousness of the human condition. And, best of all, it gives us an excuse to have fun with it and to express ourselves.

It forces us into understanding, and hopefully accepting, that creative human expression is very important to our health, not only as individuals, but as a species. So we should feel free to creatively express ourselves no matter what day it is. If we can get away with it on April Fool’s Day then there is no reason whatsoever why we cannot get away with it on the other 364 days in the year.

4) Comfort zones must be stretched in order for genuine compassion to manifest

“It is better to be a human being dissatisfied than a pig satisfied; better to be Socrates dissatisfied than a fool satisfied. And if the fool, or the pig, are of a different opinion, it is because they only know their side of the question. The other party to the comparison (Socrates) knows both sides.” ~ John Stuart Mill

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The ability to stretch comfort zones is extremely important, especially living in a world where the comfort zones of others is practically nil. Lest everyone remain a pig, stuck in their overindulgence and excess, or a fool, stuck in their ignorance and cognitive dissonance, we must be able, not only, to stretch our own comfort zones, but have the audacity and courage to attempt to stretch the comfort zones of others.

If we can do this, even with minimal success, then we will have achieved at least a modicum of prestige and heroism in a world too-full of notoriety and victimization.

We will have become the modern-day version of Socrates daring others (pigs, fools, victims, and even other wise men) to shatter their mental paradigms, flatten the boxes they desperately try to think outside of, and stretch comfort zones to the point where one goes from being a victim of the world to becoming the world. And we so desperately need more independent people who have interdependently become the world.

5) Playfulness is a powerful key to unlocking the mysteries of the universe

“Tease God. Do not fear God. A fool’s love is what God loves best. It represents the ready and available heart of a child at play.” ~ Bradford Keeney

Robust spirituality is the transformation of anxiety into humor. When we have the capacity to tease God, we all at once subdue our inner snake oil salesman, turn the tables on power through high humor, make creative human expression paramount, and stretch comfort zones to the point where we subsume the world.

When we fear God, we are doing the precise opposite of this. Let’s not fear God, or any power for that matter. Let’s instead have the heart of a child at play. Indeed, the cosmos itself is just one giant sandbox where the eternal cosmic child of our heart should be free to play.

Isaac Newton said it best: “To myself I am only a child playing on the beach, while vast oceans of truth lie undiscovered before me.” We tease God by building sand castles with passion in our hearts, and then toppling them with laughter in our souls. We tease her by teasing each other. We tease each other through our art, through our personified playfulness.

Like Bradford Keeney said, “Words are only useful in teasing one another. In teasing we are less likely to get stuck in any particular belief, attitude, or form of knowing.” Lest we get stuck in any particular belief, attitude, or form of knowing, we must make playfulness primary to seriousness.

Only then, when our self-seriousness has been subdued by our light-heartedness, by self-actualization, will it be revealed that we were holding the key to unlocking the mysteries of the universe all along, and that it was always hidden in plain sight within the heart of our inner-child.

Like Heraclitus said, “Man is most nearly himself when he achieves the seriousness of a child at play.”

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6 Guided Meditation Videos to Heal Your Soul

“Meditation can help us embrace our worries, our fear, our anger; and that is very healing. We let our own natural capacity of healing do the work.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

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We all know the myriad benefits of meditation on the mind, body and soul. Research has shown that meditation not only changes the structure of the brain, but also helps fight diseases.

I thought of listing six guided meditation videos that will take you into a deep meditative, relaxing state. Leave all your worries behind, find a comfortable place, and go on a journey to the inner landscapes of your mind. This is just a short list to get you started; find those that resonate with you.

Here are 6 guided meditation videos to heal your soul

1) 8 Hour Deep Sleep Music: Delta Waves, Sleep Meditation

This would be a great video to start with. If you are struggling to get sleep, listen to the tunes in this video. I found it extremely relaxing and calming.

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2) Blissful Deep Relaxation

So often, we struggle to start meditating; either procrastinating or figuring out the right or the wrong way of meditation. I am sure you are not the only one to feel this way.

There is no right or wrong way of meditation; whatever works for you is the right way.

The key is the willingness and effort to find quiet time, and disconnecting from modern day distractions. But there are some common ways to get started, as mentioned in this article – A Layman’s Guide to Mindful Meditation

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3) Tibetan Healing Sounds – Singing Bowl Meditation

The vibratory sound of musical instruments evoke deep sense of relaxation. Like the Tibetan Singing Bowls – used for centuries for healing and meditation purposes. The sound of singing bowls facilitates opening of inner doorways, and restores the normal frequencies of diseased and out-of-harmony parts of the body, mind and soul.

9 HOURS Tibetan Healing Sounds - Singing Bowls - Natural sounds Gold for Meditation & Relaxation

4) Jon Kabat Zinn Body Scan Meditation

The next video is guided meditation from Jon Kabat-Zinn, who has played a huge role in the scientific exploration of the benefits of mindfulness in daily life. This one focuses on entering deeper states of physical and mental relaxation.

Don’t try hard to relax, become aware in each passing moment and accepting what is happening in your inner self. Take a long, slow deep breath in, hold it for a few seconds, and breathe out slowly. As you navigate deeper through your mind, feel the sensations in different parts of your body, give it healing if need be.

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5) Meditation Music: Amazing Brain Sound, Dopamine Booster

Positive tune to alter your mood and boost the release of dopamine in the brain. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that helps control the brain’s pleasure centers, makes you feel good and boost self confidence.

Beta Endorphins, Serotonin & Dopamine Boosters with Isochronic Tones

6) Extremely Powerful Third Eye Opening Binaural Beat Meditation

This meditation video uses very specific binaural beat frequencies that opens your Third Eye.

Binaural beats is a series of tones and sounds that physically affect our brain wave states. The binaural beats used in this video start out at a low frequency usually associated with meditation, astral projection and accelerated learning. The frequencies increase gradually to those associated with Third Eye opening, love, beauty, sensuality and harmony. (It is recommended to use headphones)

Third Eye Opening Binaural Beat Meditation Video & Manifestation Movie

“Meditation is really very simple. We complicate it. We weave a web of ideas round it, what it is and what it is not. But it is none of these things. Because it is so very simple it escapes us, because our minds are so complicated, so time-worn and time-based. And this mind dictates the activity of the heart, and then the trouble begins. But meditation comes naturally, with extraordinary ease, when you walk on the sand or look out of your window or see those marvelous hills burnt by last summer’s sun.” ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

Hope this short selection of guided meditation videos has inspired you to get started or helped you on your journey. Remember there are many ways up the mountain, the path you choose for yourself is the one that resonates with your heart. Find what works for you, and ignore the rest.

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Four Yoga Postures to Open Your Third Eye Chakra

“In the land of the blind the third eyed man is king.” ~ Dean Cavanagh

The sixth chakra, or third eye chakra, is the seat of consciousness and is also our “sixth” sense, often referred to as the psychic chakra. Controlling the mental activities of the lower brain (cerebellum) and the nervous system, the sixth chakra is also known as Ajna Chakra, meaning ‘to perceive’ in Sanskrit.

So, while your eyes see the material world, Ajna chakra helps you look into deeper realms: intuition, clairvoyance, imagination, creativity and visualization.

The two energy channels – Ida and Pingala – merge with the central channel Sushumna, signifying the end of duality.

A balanced Ajna chakra is the reason why sages and saints enjoy increased wisdom, clairvoyant abilities, precognition, and perception beyond duality.

The Ajna chakra is symbolized by a violet lotus with two petals. A powerful and balanced third eye chakra provides a strong psychic ability, spiritual awareness and the desire to excel further towards the cosmic union. A person with a strong Ajna Chakra has greater intuition, a strong sense of identity, and the ability to self-reflect.

When this chakra is clear we gain the ability to see ourselves and others as spiritually interconnected beings.

Yogi Bhajan said, “Going through life without intuition is like driving a car which has no side mirror and no rearview mirror. All you can see is just straight ahead.”

Here is a quick guide to the Third eye chakra:
Colour: Indigo
Element: Light
Glands/Organs: Pituitary gland, pineal gland, left eye, nose and ears
Gems/Minerals affecting it: Lapis lazuli, Azurite, Sodalite, Quartz crystal, Sapphire
Foods: Blue or Purple Fruits and Vegetables

Located at the center of the eyebrows, the Third Eye Chakra is stimulated with inversions, semi inversions, forward bends, or specific meditation that are directed towards it. Wearing indigo color clothes and stones, consuming indigo color fruits, and using indigo color decor can be beneficial as well.

Here are 4 Yoga Postures to Open Your Third Eye Chakra, which will activate, balance, and harmonize the Ajna chakra.

Uttanasana or Standing Forward Bend

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How to: Stand in Mountain pose (Tadasana), inhale and raise your arms upwards. As you exhale, bent forward from the hips, bring hands to the sides and palms facing the floor. Keep lowering the torso and back flat, to gain extra length in the spine. Aim to touch the forehead on the shins, it is okay if in the beginning you are unable to reach there, but the intention should be clear from the outset.

Bending forward, grasp the back of the ankles and interlace your fingers for stability. Try to straighten the knee as much as possible. The head would rest on the knee or shin. Take a deep breath and slowly come back up.

Why to: Again, the tapping of the third eye, awakens the energy stored in the vortex and cleanses it. The pose further accentuates the feeling of relaxation, works deeply on the hamstring and works on the spine as well. The flow of blood is directed towards third eye chakra in this pose.

Janu Sirsasana or Head-to-Knee Pose

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How to: Be seated in Dandasana (Staff pose), now separate the legs wide. Bend the right knee, draw the feet towards the groin, and place the right heel to the perineum. Rest your right foot sole lightly against your inner left thigh.

Inhale and raise your hands to gain length in the spine. Exhale forward towards the left foot, to place the forehead on the shin. The foot is flexed, pointing towards the ceiling, and the left thigh muscle is contracted while you are going down. If you can reach the foot, grab it/ interlock the fingers behind the foot/ just hold the shin initially. Without hunching the back, stay here for 5 to 7 breaths and release gently.

Why to: The Ajna chakra is highly stimulated by the forward bending movement and tapping of the eyebrow centre. This pose offers the same benefit of increasing flow of the blood to the face, relaxing and activating the third eye. Other advantages are stretching the spine, hamstring, stimulating the digestion and cutting the flab on the waist.

Makarasana or Dolphin pose

Makarasana or Dolphin pose


How to: Start with downward-facing dog pose. Now, rest the elbow and the whole forearm area down on the floor. The elbow should be in line with the shoulders. Feet should be about hip-width apart. Firm your shoulder blades into the ribs and lift the shoulders away from the ears to free your neck. Press the pelvis down so that you can fix the heels on the floor. Keep your gaze either at your feet or between your arms. Spend 5 to 7 breaths here, bringing your attention to the third eye chakra.

Why to: This is a restorative pose. Dolphin pose creates a sense of balance, as it partially reverses the flow of the blood, thereby increasing circulation to the face and brain and stretching the hamstrings, back, shoulders, and arms. It relieves headaches, eyesight, and hearing issues. It is also a great stress-busting pose.

Balasana or Child’s pose

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How to: Be seated in Vajrasana or Thunderbolt pose, or simply kneel. Bring the hips to touch the heels in Vajrasana, inhale, and lift your arms straight up. Gaining length from the raised arms, exhale, and with a straight back, go down. The hips must be pressed on the heels at all times. The palm and forehead rest on the floor. Stay here for 5 to 7 breaths and release. Let the gentle pressure on the third eye sink you deeper into a meditative state. This pose can be practiced in the middle of a session and at the end, to relax and catch your breath.

Why to: The movement of touching the forehead on the floor is the key. When we touch the eyebrow centre on the floor, we ground all negativity from this chakra and tap into the positivity. This semi-inverted pose increases the flow of the blood in the brain, and restores balance in the sixth chakra.

Trataka or Candle Gazing

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How to: Trataka is a method of meditation that involves concentrating on a single point, such as a candle flame. Be seated in a low-lit room and place a candle in front of you.

The flame should be at the level of the eyes so that it can be seen straight without being uncomfortable. Ensure there are no distractions in terms of external noises. Now take a deep breath and bring your awareness to the flame of the candle. Keep gazing at it.

If thoughts arise, do not fight them just simply let them be. Gradually they will disappear. Your eyes will water from time to time, blink and even close. When they close, concentrate on the after image, and hold it for as long as possible. Open your eyes and follow the process again. Continue as long as you can and gradually increase the time.

Why to: Trataka helps to improve the function of the eyes, increases awareness, focus and concentration. It activates the third eye chakra, develop psychic abilities and stimulates the pineal gland.

For those who wish to go deeper into yoga poses to energize the third eye chakra and are advanced-level practitioners, these poses and meditation practices can be helpful: Pincha Mayurasana or Elbow Stand, Hand stand, Garudasana or Eagle pose, Ek Pada Galvasana or Flying pigeon, and Yoga Nidra, etc.

Seed Mantra Meditation

How to: AUM is the seed or the beej mantra of the Third Eye Chakra. Sit comfortably in an easy pose, preferably away from any support. Start by taking deep breaths and bring all the attention to the eyebrow centre. Chant ‘AUM’ loudly, and feel the chakra opening and the energy flowing in a horizontal direction, merging with infinity.

Then Chant ‘OM’ loudly, with the energy vibrating vertically from head to toe and into the earth. Repeat the verbal chant two more times. Now, repeat the set of alternate chant of AUM and OM mentally three times. Continue to chant first verbally then mentally as long as you wish.

Why to: The seed invocation is a form of a charged mantra. The sound, when chanted, resonates and reaches directly to the center of the third eye chakra and immediately activates it. The beej meditation will increase the circumference of the chakra and balance it. The Third Eye chakra is a gateway to higher realization. When it is tapped into, fear, anxiety, stress, and lack of focus disappear.

The practitioner starts receiving the future signals and is able to listen to other’s thought and intentions beforehand. A powerful chakra those who realise its true potential are the ones most peaceful, devoted, and away from all dualities.
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Five Best Ways to be an Empath

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“For there is nothing heavier than compassion. Not even one’s own pain weighs so heavy as the pain one feels with someone, for someone, a pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.” ~ Milan Kundera

Having perhaps experienced the worst ways to ‘have’ empathy, you are slowly but surely building a better relationship with yourself and finding more positive ways to be and deal with the daily challenges of being an empath.

You may have just had glimpses of these, or they may already be a solid part of your interactions. Either way, here are some signs that you are already being or are moving into the best ways to be an empath :

Set Boundaries

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Having recognized that we are all a part of a collective consciousness, setting healthy boundaries is an essential. If you already do this, then you’ll know that centering yourself and not succumbing to the projections that others project onto you is a daily battle, but one you can become well versed in given a little time and good intention.

Setting boundaries is a tricky one as, having put up layers of armor for years to protect yourself, the understanding that you need to do precisely the opposite can take a while to get your head around.

Letting down the barriers in order to avoid attracting negativity through your own fear of it can take some guts, but opening the flood gates may not be as terrible as you might think.

Being authentic and the soft and loving person you really are actually attracts those positive vibes you are seeking, and while it may take a few days or weeks to get going – like a wheelbarrow that is stiff at first then picks up speed after those one or two difficult turns of the wheel, the positivity will come flowing in if you are consistently let the boundaries down.

Having said that, the moment someone does try to take advantage, or convince you to go against your own truth, simply viewing them do this without victimization can be incredibly freeing.

Taking yourself (or your ego) out of the picture and witnessing them play out their old mechanical patterns of ego protection will help you A: Not take it personally, and B: reflect it back to them.

We are One

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” ~ Wendy Mass.

In lowering yourself from your lofty heights – your fortress protected with heavy plated walls – you’ll find that people are still people and not much unlike yourself. Lowering your armor is like freeing yourself from the grip of the ego and simply imagining all the things going through people’s heads and marveling at all the human activity going on around you at this very minute can work wonders on your rusty strings of compassion and humility.

mirrorDoing exactly that whilst having a conversation or while they are projecting those (very personal) fears of theirs onto you will immediately reflect back to them what they are doing. Stripping away deceit to the truth is ultimately more effective that what your ego has been trying to do in hiding behind more layers of deceit.

Getting your own back has never felt so good and been so spiritually wholesome – you are helping them see their own deceit (this can be painful and they are likely to resist but at least you’ve done the right thing), whilst sending them the inevitable love that will be flowing from your heart chakra in the recognition that – We are all one.

Be the Best Version of Yourself

Being the best version of yourself can also be a wonderful way to combat the dregs of pity being an empath can find you entwined in.

Transcending the details and avoiding dealing problems with analysis of the mind takes one simple leap: I have been made this way for a reason, I am good, I deserve love… whatever the mantra that works for you, find one and tell it to yourself every time you begin to feel swallowed up by those pity pangs.

Being the best version of yourself attracts the law of attraction… People will immediately respond, not in a battle of one-upmanship, but in an honest look at where they could do better.

Empaths often fall into the trap of being the scapegoat – the one everyone compares themselves to as ‘at least I’m not in as much of a ditch as so and so’. They secretly know how wonderful you are, and how wonderful they could be – their game of comparison is only a way to avoid their own marvelous-ness and shine a light on the distractions of the ego, on I’m better than you.

Being the best version of yourself immediately paves the way for others. Don’t be afraid to be that person.

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Not succumbing… every time not succumbing means being present and not falling into your own traps of analysis and mind preaching. Not getting hung up on why people try to drag you down can be such a challenge for the empath because we do feel everything and it’s not something that turns off after the first triumph.

The bizarre thing is that, in sensing and experiencing another’s jealousy, irritation and even hate, in our desire to protect them we take on these emotions ourselves and then believe we are the jealous irritants who feel dislike for our fellow creatures.

Locating which emotions are yours and which ones came from someone else can be a long and sticky process, but we must remember that we did it out of love and not feel resentment – who wouldn’t chose to get rid of these feelings if someone was offering their empathy services free of charge?! After all, being an empath can be a little like having a ‘kick me’ sign stuck to our backs.

In witnessing others offloading and sending out an energy sign that says – they are not my emotions, they’re YOURS is much more likely to draw that person’s attention to their own feelings and begin to deal with them in a more honest way.

Own your Own

Having recognized our own emotions on a daily basis, we can begin to recognize other’s emotions and reflect them back to them rather than absorb. Being honest about our own emotions; how we’re feeling from moment to moment should be at the top of this list. But, often the empath – having experienced and taken on other’s emotions for so long often has no idea what they’re feeling and which ones belong to them.Paint with all the colours of the wind

Often we have to go the long way around and reflect before we own our own. In picking apart which ones are yours and which ones are mine – basically through identifying the moments you feel uncomfortable or put upon in social interactions, can you begin to find your own emotions. I feel sad, I feel scared, I feel jealous… it’s OK. Once we own our own emotions we can take responsibility for them and redirect other’s to their own front door.

People may not like this new you – the one who doesn’t picks up their emotional garbage and give them an ego bath, but having gotten a grip of these more positive ways to be an empath can begin to transform (your own) and other’s darkness into pure light.

Though others may find you a threat to their fragile egos… only you are responsible for the path you tread and no-one is going to thank you for tiring yourself out by carrying them. You have chosen a higher path. Don’t be afraid to walk it.

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