If you do not learn to meet your needs directly, you will learn to meet them neurotically. You will develop routines and relationships and rituals that are designed to help you get just enough of what you want without having to ask for it directly. But never enough to feel fulfilled. To be fulfilled, we must go straight to the source. We must extract whatever it is that is fuelling our anxieties and ego trips and neurotic compulsions and fears and we must face that. Otherwise, we can waste a whole lifetime trying to understand what the soul – at its core – already knows.
~ Heidi Priebe