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Brain Wars: Six Cognitive Biases and How to Combat Them

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“Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one’s awareness of one’s ignorance.” ~ Anthony de Mello

Nobody is immune to cognitive biases, not even trained psychologists and logicians who thoroughly understand them. We can become more aware of them, but we will never be immune to them. And that’s okay.

We don’t need to be impervious in order to be more open-minded. We just need to be more understanding, more intelligent, and more imaginative in our approach, especially toward beliefs that have not previously been questioned.

Like Robert Anton Wilson cryptically said, “I regard belief as a form of brain damage, the death of intelligence, the fracture of creativity, the atrophy of imagination.”

Indeed, we generally only need to turn the tables on belief in order to combat most cognitive biases.

But if that’s not enough for you, here are six particularly prevalent cognitive biases and how to combat them.

1) Confirmation Bias

“In my experience, everyone will say they want to discover the Truth, right up until they realize that the Truth will rob them of their deepest held ideas, beliefs, hopes, and dreams. The freedom of enlightenment means much more than the experience of love and peace. It means discovering a Truth that will turn your view of self and life upside-down.

For one who is truly ready, this will be unimaginably liberating. But for one who is still clinging in any way, this will be extremely challenging indeed. How does one know if they are ready? One is ready when they are willing to be absolutely consumed, when they are willing to be fuel for a fire without end.” ~ Adyashanti

This one is the grandfather of all cognitive biases. Confirmation bias is a particularly difficult bias to combat precisely because it is fortified by cognitive dissonance.

There is the tendency to focus on information that confirms our preconceptions and preconditioned beliefs, and, as with conservatism, there is the tendency to revise our belief insufficiently when presented with new evidence. So this bias becomes a snake that eats its own tail, and then wonders why it’s always hungry.

Confirmation bias is combated by questioning prepackaged answers and being okay with not even having an “answer” at all. Or by simply having a good sense of humor toward how our particular belief might clash with the belief of others. Or we can simply have an intelligent discussion with someone with a different worldview.

Like Vera Nazarian said, “Before it is too late, go out there and find someone who, in your opinion, believes, assumes, or considers certain things very strongly and very differently from you, and just have a basic honest conversation. It will do both of you good.”

2) Status Quo Bias

“If you end up with a boring, miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit, then you deserve it.” ~ Frank Zappa

Also known as the endowment effect, and system justification, status quo bias is the tendency to want things to stay relatively the same by defending and bolstering the status quo. Where existing cultural arrangements tend to be preferred and alternatives are disparaged.

It’s the unreasonable drive to prevent our comfort zone from stretching despite ourselves, even at the expense of self-interest. We have a strong tendency to remain at the status quo, because the disadvantages of leaving it loom larger than the advantages. The result is typically a boring and mundane lifestyle and/or a half-lived life.

Status quo bias is combated by reconditioning our preconditioning and being okay with systemic change. The fundamental understanding that nothing stays the same is important here.

A big-picture perspective will shine light on this bias, shrinking it into a manageable speedbump on the road toward personal enhancement and a broader more compassionate outlook.

3) Neglect of Probability

“I have approximate answers and possible beliefs and different degrees of certainty about different things, but I’m not absolutely sure about anything.” ~ Richard Feynman

This one is probably the most unreasonable of the cognitive biases listed. It’s the tendency to completely disregard probability when making a decision under uncertainty. It’s our inability to grasp a proper sense of peril and risk. Like the probability of being attacked by a shark while swimming in the ocean, versus the probability of getting hit by a car while walking on a sidewalk (significantly more probable).

Or the probability of being involved in a plane crash, versus the probability of getting in an automobile accident (astronomically more probable). The list goes on, and there are even some silly phobias that tend to creep in.

The best way to combat the neglect of probability is to learn about probability and how it affects us and how it effects our reality. The secret of open-mindedness is having a healthy understanding of the concept of probability. Moreover, it is the ability to take things into consideration rather than simply believe in them.

Belief can be blinding, and so it has a high potential to lead to close-mindedness. Take it all into consideration, but then use probability to assess validity. Be less certain with your answers and more sincere with your questions. Above all, laugh at yourself.

Cultivate a good sense of humor. Realize how silly some of your beliefs are and then let yourself off the hook with a good laugh. A healthy sense of humor, more than anything else, can put life in perspective.

4) Curse of Knowledge Bias

“You are only a disciple because your eyes are closed. The day you open them you will see there is nothing you can learn from me or anyone. What then is a Master for? To make you see the uselessness of having one.” ~ Anthony De Mello

This cognitive bias affects teachers, writers, and experts of all kinds. It’s the tendency for better-informed people to find it difficult to think about problems from the perspective of lesser-informed people.

It’s an assumption-clarity problem. Experts assume layman will understand what is being explained, but due to their intimacy with their particular craft or knowledge base, it is difficult for them to bridge the gap between the layman’s lack of knowledge and their clarity.

As hard as we might try to take the point of view of the layman, we cannot completely separate ourselves from the knowledge we have of our particular craft, and therefore we will assume a layman will attribute more value to our explanation than is actually true.

The best way to combat this cognitive bias is to remember that we are all teachers and we are all students. Life is what we teach and life is what we learn. The KISS principle “keep it simple stupid” or “keep it short and simple” can also be useful in this case.

Most explanations work best if they are kept simple rather than made complicated. Concision is wisdom. Take Occam’s Razor to your explanations and remember the wise words of Leonardo da Vinci, “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

5) Ostrich effect

“Thought can organize the world so well that you are no longer able to see it.” ~ Anthony de Mello

This is a big one, especially in a fundamentally unhealthy, unsustainable culture like the one we’re living in. The Ostrich effect is the tendency to ignore an obvious (negative) situation. The concept comes from the common myth that ostriches bury their heads in the sand to avoid danger.

It’s similar to the metaphorical idiom “the elephant in the room” where an obvious truth is denied or deliberately ignored because to do otherwise would bring up something embarrassing or socially taboo. The ostrich effect just takes this concept straight to the willful ignorance stage.

Combating this cognitive bias can be as simple as taking to heart the wise words of Martin Luther King Jr., “History will have to record that the greatest tragedy in this period of social transition was not the strident clamor of the bad people, but the appalling silence of the good people.”

Or even more succinct, these words by Albert Einstein, “The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything.”

Powerful indeed. It appears that combating the ostrich effect is as simple (difficult) as digging down deep for the courage that lies within us all, and then using it by not remaining silent in the face of evil while holding accountable those who do it.

6) The Dunning-Kruger Effect

“We’re all fools, all the time. It’s just we’re a different kind each day. We think, I’m not a fool today. I’ve learned my lesson. I was a fool yesterday but not this morning. Then tomorrow we find out that, yes, we were a fool today too. I think the only way we can grow and get on in this world is to accept the fact we’re not perfect and live accordingly.” ~ Ray Bradbury

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The Dunning-Kruger effect is the tendency for unskilled individuals to overestimate their ability and the tendency for experts to underestimate their ability. Dunning and Kruger hypothesize that this effect is a consequence of an internal illusion (or illusory superiority) in the unskilled, and an external misperception in the skilled.

In their own words, “The miscalibration of the incompetent stems from an error about the self, whereas the miscalibration of the highly competent stems from an error about others.” Ignorance spins around in the same tiny comfortable circle of minute knowledge.

Intelligence is expansive and subsumes ignorance while making us more aware of our own ignorance. The more we learn, the more we realize how much we still have to learn. Like Shakespeare expressed in As You Like It, “The fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.”

Anybody who has watched the movie Idiocracy will understand this cognitive bias. It’s a movie about a futuristic dystopian world where anti-intellectualism has run rampant and intellectualism has become obsolete. Some might argue that we’re already in such a state.

Isaac Asimov said it best, “Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that ‘my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.’”

Combating this bias can be as easy (difficult) as not taking ourselves too seriously while at the same time being sincere with our knowledge and open to criticism. Self-interrogation, healthy skepticism, and questioning to the nth degree are key.

Acknowledging that there is always more to be learned can go a long way. Question what you think you know, but also don’t be afraid to share what you think you know.

Just remember the wise words of Richard Feynman, “People search for certainty. But there is no certainty. People are terrified—how can you live and not know? It is not odd at all. You only think you know, as a matter of fact.

And most of your actions are based on incomplete knowledge and you really don’t know what it is all about, or what the purpose of the world is, or know a great deal of other things. It is possible to live and not know.”

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Ancient Civilizations: The Theories of Atlantis and Lemuria

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The continent of Lemuria, though largely discounted by the theory of plate tectonics and the existence of other sunken continents still visible on the silty bottom of many oceans, lives on in people’s dreams.

The Native American Indians have been said to be descendants of the Lemurians, as are certain tribes in Turkey, the Aboriginals and the population of Madagascar.

Believed to be located in either the Indian or Pacific oceans, according to Helena Petrovna Blavatsky the Lemurians are the third root race making them very ancient indeed, proceeded only by the ‘Ethereals’ and Hyperboreans, each laying claim to no living descendents today.

Interestingly according to Madame Blavatsky, the fifth root race – the Aryans who do have descendants alive today is now one million years old.MU 20

Lemuria according to traditional theosophy began over 34 ½ million years ago, and they were dark skinned and a loving, simple race who co-existed peacefully with the animals around them.

When their continent slowly began to sink as a result of so many volcanic eruptions across the continent, the Lemurians dispersed; colonizing the neighbouring East Indies, Southern India and Africa.

The evidence, despite the lack of proof on the floors of both the Indian and Pacific oceans, centralizes around the zoologist Philip Lutley Sclater and his findings after amassing the fauna of Madagascar, finding the similarities puzzling in that they belonged not only to Africa but to India as well.

Sclater surmised that there must have been a land bridge, a lost land named Lemuria after the Lemurs endemic to Madagascar.

There are many other theories surrounding Lemuria including that they later became the Aryan race in India and invented Sanskrit, and that the Maoris of New Zealand arrived from a sinking island as well as the legends of Easter Island and the continent of ‘Hiva’ that sank between the waves and many people perished.

Lemuria or Mu is also said to be the home of dragons, and the time when we truly began to move away from our more animalistic and began to evolve much faster.

Some theories (mostly eccentric ones belonging to Madame Blavatsky) also assert that Lemurians were giants who laid eggs before evolving to give birth to live young as mammals do.

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Lemuria is often talked about nostalgically; could this have been the human races’ lost Eden? The garden that sunk beneath the waves and the last sight we had of our primitive but loving natures?

Did Lemuria sink because of our wicked sins as Blavatsky put forward, or was it a rung on the inevitable spiral in history, a civilization that was wiped out as so many have been since in order to keep trying until we get things right?

Atlantis

life-atlantis“Technology is a gift of God. After the gift of life it is perhaps the greatest of God’s gifts. It is the mother of civilizations, of arts and of sciences”. ~ Freeman Dyson

The fourth race; before the Aryans but after the Lemurians were said to be the Atlanteans, rising and giving birth to the Toltec and Mongolians races and spreading out into Africa, the Americas and all of the Europe that we know today.

The Atlanteans in comparison to the Lemurians were much more advanced and God-like; beautifully intelligent and ambitious.

They worshiped the sun and advanced their technologies rapidly, much as we are doing today… there is even some links between the Atlanteans and extra terrestrials, some theorizing that this race arrived from the skies in the first place.

Atlantis in mainstream history originated in our ancient minds in Greece (‘Island of Atlas’ in ancient Greek) and was written about in Allegory by Plato as a superior civilization that had transcended his ideal of a state and had launched an attack on Athens.

Athens, unlike any other nation, succeeded in fighting off the state and it wasn’t long before Atlantis fell out of favour with the Gods and sunk to the bottom of the Atlantic ocean.

Atlantis has also been linked to belonging to Poseidon, God of the sea and the Ancient Egyptians who apparently wrote about it in hieroglyphs.

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Perhaps the association with Atlantis’ apocalyptic demise can be attributed to the continent’s association with Mayanism and the imaginations of European explorers and writers such as Sir Thomas Moore which led to the publication of such books as ‘Utopia’.

However, it is believed that the reasons that point the finger to Atlantis being a fiction are largely due to the racism surrounding these foreigners’ assumptions of the Indigenous people; that they can’t have built such magnificent structures with such a rich cultural background; no, another race must have been involved, and there the stories begin to blur.

Edgar Cayce, having tapped into the ‘Akashic Records’ when under trance channeled that many of the souls lost in Atlantis were returning and their collective consciousness was stirring through many youngsters reaching adolescence on the west coast of North America during the 60s.

Again as in the case of Lemuria, many say that the continent of Atlantis is an impossibility due to the lack of evidence on the ocean floor, but others state that, even within the geology of plate tectonics it is possible that a continent could get lost as they shift and reshift.
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According to Madame Blavatsky the fall of Atlantis occurred because the Atlanteans were playing God; their technologies surpassing their soul connection, they were breeding human-animal chimeras to use as sex slaves and messing around with genetic modification and cloning… the latter sounding alarmingly similar to what is going on today.

Having been telepathically warned that the continent would sink, many of the inhabitants of Atlantis fled, setting sail on ships before the final submergence in 9,564 BC from a violent series of earthquakes.

Was Atlantis simply a figment of Plato’s imagination, spurred by nationalistic pride when writing about his beloved Athens, or are there fragments of truth in these ancient myths, passed down and swirled about in the sands of time… Are we heading for the same fate?

Or will we merely continue on, ever-evolving and seeking out new answers yet always returning once more to search the bottom of the murky ocean floors.

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How to Start Eating Mindfully

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“Whenever we eat or drink, we can engage all our senses in the eating and drinking experience. Eating and drinking like this, we not only feed our bodies and safeguard our physical health but also nurture our feelings, our mind, and our consciousness.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Imagine this: you are about to eat your favorite dish – pasta in spinach sauce for me – and you take the first bite. Now try doing this – after the first bite, place the fork back down and begin to savor the different flavors in the pasta.

Chew slowly, don’t talk and tune in to the flavor of the spinach, for example, the aroma of the different herbs present in your pasta. Repeat this for the course of the meal and you will experience a deeper connection with your body and the food you eat.

This practice is known as ‘Mindful Eating,’ a concept with its roots in Buddhist teachings, helps us become conscious of what you consume and when to consume and not just eating mindlessly to beat stress.

Steven Roberts in his book, ‘Eating Your Meditation – A Guide to Metamorphic Nutrition’ mentioned the profound act of eating mindfully, leads to maximum assimilation, cellular regeneration and environmental synchronicity.

Studies have found that mindful eating can help you to reduce overeating and binge eating, lose weight and reduce your body mass index (BMI), cope with chronic eating problems such as anorexia and bulimia, and reduce anxious thoughts about food and your body and improve the symptoms of Type 2 diabetes.!

What is mindful eating?

Mindful eating is like meditating during a full course meal. Sounds bizarre? Well, it is simple and can be learnt almost immediately and the benefits unfold in no time. Like when you meditate, you sit in a quiet space, focus on your breath and clear your mind of negative thoughts, similarly, eating meditation requires you to do the same.
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You become aware of the food you eat, the sensations in your body while chewing and your relationship to the food you eat. Eating is generally associated with sensory pleasures and rapid consumption.

But imagine tasting every flavor present in the food consumed, you will feel a sense of calmness and content within you.

So, say for instance, eating while you are angry or tensed, would be like fueling those emotions to aggravate them further. In mindful meditation you empower the thoughts of peace, tranquility, patience and harmony with the self.

How to Eat Mindfully?

Here are few tips to help you eat with a focused mind:

1) Dedicate time to eat

Usually the act of eating is accompanied by other tasks like watching television, talking to friends, reading a book, etc. But just like meditation, mindful eating would require you to create space for the act of eating; dropping all the other things to just eat is what we are talking about.

A silent place or a place where you will not be disturbed, is preferable. If there are external sounds, it is okay, stay calm and focused.

2) Witness

Often we miss the real essence of eating and slip into the semi conscious world of eating, where the act is to fill up the stomach, but this does not solve the purpose. In this step we will stop and witness our food, looking and admiring the pattern of the food that is put in front of us – the smell, the color, the look, the shape included.

It is important to acknowledge what you are going to consume.

3) Express Gratitude

The act of saying few words of gratitude before eating your meals has a positive effect, on our bodies and also the food we eat. Thanking all the people responsible for bringing it to your table – from the farmers, bakers to the truck drivers, the sellers, etc. and people who cooked it, take a moment to consider and thank them all.
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4) Feel

Now as you start to eat, notice how you feel as you are looking at the food, how does the food smell, what are the reactions of the senses – are you feeling happy, excited, hungry, anxious, unpleasant. Tapping into all of your senses is a great way to be fully present while eating.

5) Taste

Finally, as you take the food in your mouth, allow yourself to be fully present in the experience of eating. Notice the flavors and textures as you chew, enjoy each bite, chewing the food fully – this is also a healthier way of eating.

6) Notice your emotions

Notice your emotions further, are you feeling the urge to eat more and move to desert? Or are you feeling unhappy with what you are eating? It will be simple and easy to notice the way the body accepts the food with pleasure or displeasure.

Notice how the breath appears, as it gives some indication of how comfortable or uncomfortable the process of eating is for you. After a couple of bites, if you notice your thoughts drifting away to other things, gently bring it back to the food, smells, flavors and sensations.

Initially, you can start by practicing the same process with some fruits and as you get better, you can switch to mindfully eating your meals.

Benefits of Eating Mindfully

Eating meditation is simple to do and does not require much effort on your part. Here are some benefits you will begin to notice with mindful eating, even if you practice it for just 5 to 10 minutes a day.

  • Food is definitely going to taste better as you experience many flavors present in every morsel, which you missed otherwise.
  • Enhances weight loss, as you start to feel full, earlier than you used to. This is because your body will indicate when it has eaten enough. Ideally, after the first burp during eating, you should stop eating.
  • A sense of patience and calmness will spread over you, igniting the feeling of contentment and ease.
  • It will be a break from your hectic routine.
  • Gradually you will be directed to eat healthier and lighter food.
  • Develop a deeper connection with the body as you become more attuned towards your desires and needs.

Slow down, be present and eat mindfully! It’s not just what you eat, but how you eat that matters.

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Non-Duality and Presence: Guidelines for Increasing Awareness

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“The gap is your connection to the field of pure potentiality. It is that state of pure awareness, that silent space between thoughts, that inner stillness that connects you to (your) true power.” ~ Deepak Chopra

Give Up. Let Go. Repent. Stop fighting. Just Be.

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There are many teachings; religious or otherwise that we may have some connection with in our lives for the simple reason that – at some time or another – we have had a charged experience in relation to that set of teachings. In relation to them, we have had an ‘aha!’ moment where our perception finally melted and we experienced true being.

Sogyal Rinpoche calls it the true nature of mind, Eckhart Tolle the ‘Now’. In a new teaching (to me anyway) the notion of non-duality can help us, in a few simple steps, to remember that perfection is an illusion, and that we are simply ‘reality’ experiencing or exploring itself.

As Eckhart Tolle says in his short autobiography in the Power of Now, the first trickles or gaps in his perception, were when he thought a thought along the lines of, ‘I just can’t live with myself any longer.’

The idea that there is a separate ‘I’ to ‘my-self’ brings about the realization that we live within this world of separation, and that actually, we are not separate from our experience at all.

This is why meditation or being in the moment is the only way to practice this universal and persistently present truth; now, and only now, I am watching a bee hover over some flowers while I hear the children playing in the park and have the scent of lavender in my nostrils.

The sensation of sadness is rising in me (for some conscious or unconscious reason in association to that experience), and I will enjoy it. Not suppress it with distraction, or food, or reason with myself (telling oneself that you feel sad because…. Something to do with your history that tantamount to theories you have come up with about yourself… basically, the ego.) But enjoy it. Let it peak and pass over me.

As with Buddhism, grasping or becoming attached to any desire, projected goal or vision of yourself, suppressing these emotions distract us from the now and divert the point of being.

For existence to experience and explore itself, it needs to not struggle against that experience, but let it flow through it. Accepting this moment for what it is usually brings with it a sense of pure joy, or at least an enjoyment of whatever pleasant (or unpleasant!) sensation you are experiencing.

Acceptance of the present moment both compliments the law of attraction, for it means that to not have goals we may feel lost and floating, and unable to ‘achieve’ the life we are trying to ‘achieve’.

However, whilst being in this state of presence, all sorts of positive and effortless luck and good fortune will be attracted to us. We become like children; innocently exploring our reality yet still being drawn to those lessons and specific experiences we are wanting to experience in this lifetime.

Not only that, but another paradoxical realization being present brings about is that, though we let go of the memories that attach our egos so rootedly to the past therefore dissolving time and bringing truth to Einstein’s theory of bending time.

We also may ‘access the Akashic records’, if such a thing exists, and are able to draw from all of our past lives, and those present, past and future ones of everyone in existence in order to add to our experience of the now.

If time is an illusion, and the void really exists, we have only to come into the moment in order to realize the ‘pure potentiality’ (a Deepak Chopra phrase I do believe) of that void. ‘No’-thingness is exactly the same as ‘some’-thing, and yet, to desire ‘some’-thing we need to first accept ‘no’-thing.

In this way then, truisms that depend on the simplified and limited uses of language like ‘we are One’, actually become true! Just think, (excuse the cliché) if everything is existence experiencing and exploring itself, then we are everything in existence.

This video with James Eaton includes everything covered in the article and offers a good quick exercise which enables us to experience this truth. If we close our eyes and explore, first what is inside our head, behind our eyes, in our chests, then down to our left foot – then we can experiment to see where we end and everything else begins.

The more we explore and experiment, we may discover that we never really end, or at least go on for a few feet more than we imagined we did. Rather than becoming the watcher, and trying to be ‘higher’ or more than our own experience, in non-duality we are our experience, just experiencing it with awareness.

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The more we can practice this realization, we might also transcend this idea (that proliferates itself in the spiritual community as well as supposedly lower states of consciousness such as earthly politics and gossip columns), that as different expressions of the same existence wanting to experience itself, we are neither higher or lower than anything else.
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Transcending this hard-to-shift idea that we are evolving or moving up in a linear fashion towards enlightenment, and that therefore some are closer to it than others, can be dissolved and rewritten that we are circling inwards until we will be left with nothingness.

Perhaps we are ‘dissolving’ as we speak. Even the image of the spiral can give a sense of spiritual superiority, (meaning we have, if only for a millisecond, come out of our presence and into a state of grasping), and give us the illusion that we are trying to move towards something external to ourselves.

Be in a non-dualistic state. Use all of your knowledge of being in the now to truly practice it. Dissolve comparison and uncover that state of joy already radiating from within. Release those buried emotions and nurture yourself. Plunge into awareness and see this as the beginning to it all.

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Genius and Grit: Five Reasons why Perseverance Trumps Talent

“Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” ~ Jon Acuff

Genius is more about grit than giftedness, more about courage than capacity. Grit sands, sharpens and polishes the gift into the gifted. Courage stretches the dimensions of our capacity into a comfort zone with the potential to subsume the cosmos. Having grit grinds us into something hard-fought for, something earned on an existential level.

gritTalent is merely handed to us by fate, but true genius is wrestled out of the arms of the gods and torn from the teeth of demons. And that takes grit. That takes tenacity. That takes a resolve that dissolves boundaries into horizons. In the spirit of true grit, here are five reasons why perseverance trumps talent.

1) Talent can be nurtured despite nature

“I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.” ~ Leonardo da Vinci

Life is an experiment, and we are all alchemists. Like Christopher Poindexter said, “We are all scientists, trying to make sense of the stars inside us.” The problem is that most of us are not aware of it. We’re desperately trying to make sense of a hyperreal reality while ignoring the underlying roots of a very real reality.

Our alchemy is too much on the surface. Too distracted by false fire and flashy things that are either going too fast for us to catch up, or too loud for us to hear anything. As T.S. Eliot surmised, we are “Distracted from distraction by distraction.”

We too often tell ourselves “What can I do? I don’t have enough talent. I need some training, some education first.” But then we never get around to training or education, forgetting that the best training and education we could ever get is going down inside the roots of things.

It’s getting down deep, below the hyperreal world, below the disconnected reality of the surface and into the interconnected reality of the inner workings of things. And this takes courage. This takes perseverance. This takes grit.

The beauty of life being an experiment is that we can, at any moment, decide to rewrite our story. As the sacred scientists of our own lives, we are free to rewire our hard wiring. We are free to recondition our current condition despite our preconditioning.

When we allow perseverance to trump talent, we’re declaring to the universe, “With enough courage, and grit, I will nurture myself into a talented individual, despite the fact that I was not provided with natural talent.”

2) We don’t have to wait for permission

“Attitude is the difference between ordeal and adventure.” ~ Karl Frei

grit2When we persevere despite talent, life is allowed to be an adventure. Attitude is the thing. Our disposition is paramount. When we allow others to define us –whether cultural, familial, or individual– we are limited to their definitions, and our life becomes an adventure-less grind within the parameters of those definitions.

But when we dare to define ourselves, we break the spell they have over us, and our life becomes adventurous. We shatter the chains. We flatten the box “they” want us to keep thinking inside. We transform their preconditioned boundaries into our own unconditional horizons.

When we persevere despite talent, we are asserting that we don’t need permission to define our own lives. We don’t need permission to become the best version of ourselves possible. We don’t need permission to question authority, to self-educate, and to learn from our own mistakes. This is our life. This is our adventure. And nobody is going to stop us from living it except ourselves.

We get out of our own way by forcing our ego to rise above the superego in order to get back to the roots of the instinctual id. Then we cycle back through again. Our lives become boring and void of adventure as soon as we allow our ego to rot away and grow stagnant within the confines of the superego.

Our lives become adventurous and exciting again when we use our ego to transcend the superego and then use it as a tool to navigate the id. As long as we can maintain the process of this sacred individuation, this self-actualization and self-overcoming, while never reducing ourselves to asking for permission, then our genius will not be denied its fullest potential.

3) Making our own path is so much fun

“If the path before you is clear, you’re probably on someone else’s.” ~ Joseph Campbell

When we allow ourselves to persevere, we liberate our inner genius. And when our inner genius is liberated, we are free to be as creative as we can be. Through such creativity the clearing of unique paths becomes manifest.

We dare ourselves to go “off road.” We clear brambles, boulders, and all forms of obstacles, and with enough perseverance, with enough grit, our own path begins to reveal itself.

Like the Zen Proverb says, “The obstacle is the path.” The “road most traveled” eventually becomes the road we sometimes travel, because we are too busy clearing paths of our own. We are too busy having fun, playing in the wild places, making the unfamiliar familiar, to the point that our comfort zones begin to subsume all paths.

If, as Brian Sutton-Smith said, “The opposite of play isn’t work; it’s depression” then it behooves us to become playful workers and working players –similar to what James P. Carse referred to as an Infinite Player.

Let’s make “work hard, play harder” our modus operandi as opposed to just “work hard for work’s sake.” Nine-to-five daily grinds be damned! When we can bring sacred play to our work and sacred work to our play, then all paths open up; as the Walls of Self-seriousness and the Veils of Ignominy are lifted, all paths become interdependently interconnected, and our perseverance becomes the talent of our genius.

4) Quantity begets quality

“Our role in existence must be played in uncertainty of its meaning… as an adventure of decision on the edge of freedom and necessity.” ~ Eric Voegelin

grit5Quantity should be primary and quality secondary. It seems like the opposite should be the case, but it’s not. The richness of our lives shrink or expand in proportion to our ability to make quantity primary and quality secondary. This is because if we focus too much on having talent, then our creativity is stifled by thoughts of perfection.

If we can focus more on perseverance, grit, and courage, then we can learn and grow from our mistakes; instead of dwelling on potential mistakes, and then never even getting around to making the vital mistakes we need to make in order to grow.

This way we learn more about life and about craft, and we worry less about being perfect. In short, we slowly, systematically, and courageously become a genius, despite “talent” and in spite of perfection.

Quality will eventually come from quantity. It matters not if we ever become the likes of a Shakespeare or an Einstein or a Picasso. What matters is becoming the best possible version of ourselves.

Just “showing up” every day and playing through the work and working through the play will sharpen our character, hone our spirit, and make us more adaptable to change. And it is precisely from this adaptability where our quality and talent become manifest.

But we must constantly remind ourselves to let go of the ideal of perfection. Let go of the idea of being more talented. Let go of the idea of creating art with higher quality. We must free ourselves to make mistakes, so that we may learn from them.

We must free ourselves to fall flat on our face, so that we may learn how to get back up again and again. And this takes quantity. This takes practice. This takes perseverance, courage and grit. We must bravely and patiently persevere. Quality will come.

5) Carving our own niche carves us

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.” ~ Samuel Beckett

When we finally realize that we are nothing more than a story we’ve been telling ourselves, then we see why it behooves us to improve upon our story and make it as interesting as possible. This is the epitome of grit and genius, and why perseverance is key.

There’s nothing wrong with allowing others to guide our story, but it must be our own writing, otherwise we are merely a character in someone else’s story rather than the hero of our own.

Being the hero of our own story is carving our own niche. It’s repetitively and self-competitively persevering through the creation of our own path through the “uncertain wood” of the cultural milieu.

It’s practicing every day. It’s failing every day. Then practicing even more, so we can fail even better. Like Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Make your niche your habit. Then practice, fail, and repeat. Only do it better.

If, as Kurt Vonnegut said, “We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be,” then it behooves us to pretend to be amazing at what we love to do, while, at the same time, letting go of the idea of being amazing – a kind of mindful no-mind, or attached detachment to becoming better.

We free up a space where we allow ourselves to “pretend” to be amazing, a sacred place where we are free to be as imperfectly perfect or as perfectly imperfect as we need to be in order to get things done. It’s a space that allows us to get out of our own way so that our inner genius can emerge.

We forge ourselves in the furnace of life until our perseverance sharpens us into a genius, while also letting go of the result of our sharpening by simply allowing the process of our own personal genius to unfold.

But this takes courage despite comfort. It takes grit despite a guarantee. It takes perseverance despite reassurance. It takes letting go in spite of hanging on. It takes setting fire to our comfort zone and hoping against hope that a Phoenix will emerge from the ashes, while being prepared for the worst and able to adapt and overcome if not.

Like Brené Brown said, “You can have courage or you can have comfort, but you can’t have both.”

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