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A Loving Guide to Being Selfish in Relationships (Otherwise Known as How To and Not To Destroy Yourself)

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A Loving Guide to Being Selfish in Relationships (Otherwise Known as How To and Not To Destroy Yourself)

“It’s literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.” ~ Napoleon Hill

How Not to be Selfish (Or How to Destroy Yourself)

Having had some heartbreaks and having fallen prey to your conditioning that tells you to fear everyone, you distort the lies and make them your own. When others show you their weaknesses, you sweep them up, holding each one up to them in turn until the person who loves you is merely a shadow of their former self.

You are your own worst enemy in this and have got the method down to perfection.

Phase one:

You meet someone, you fall in love.

Phase Two:

having realized you really like this person and being in full knowledge of your dark corners; the skeletons in your closet and the general reasons why you don’t deserve love, you close down.

Here is where your shadow raises its hungry head – you lay at this person’s feet every sugar-wrapped falsity you’ve ever thought to conjure up about yourself. You convince them you’re an angel, only to buckle under the pressure when you can take it no more. The charade slips, and the monster comes out of its cage.

Phase Three:

Having realized you can no longer keep it up, you slowly but surely reveal to them your perceptions of the real you. You nit-pick their every fault. You make a fuss every time you go out and socialize together.

You reject every loving gesture they make in your direction and make excuses for it in your head; they didn’t really mean it, I can see the conviction waning behind their eyes, it happened this way before… now they mean it, but soon they won’t…

Phase Four:

You stop showing them how awesome they are and hide it from them, hoping others won’t see the same as you do – that they ARE amazing as you don’t want to share. You slowly suffocate them, seeing them as an object of possession, a reflection of how well you’re doing, a symbol to society that you have ‘succeeded’ and won’t be letting go of it in a hurry.

You criticize and play God with them, expertly burying your true feelings of fear, you patronize and control them, desperately scared of the day they will say enough of this shit and walk away.

zzzzsue_os_rotosPhase Five: Picking up on the fact that you are wearing them down you pick up speed, weaving your way into the pattern perfectly; you are a pro and won’t stop until you’ve destroyed every last scrap of purity about this one.

In fact you’ll make it worse than last time, because it isn’t until it gets really bad that it gets better – right?

You project every last demon in your inner being onto this person, then blame them when they reach in and show them to you. You become consumed in loathing for them (really loathing for yourself) and can no longer function, letting the flames eat away at both of you in tried and tested suffering every moment spent with them telling yourself – see, I told you it would happen like this, it always does.

How To Be Selfish (Or How Not To Destroy Yourself)

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” ~ Maya Angelou

Having had your heart broken many times before, you decide it’s time for a change. A real one. Having met someone you begin to fall in love and find yourself at the usual crossroads; the usual choices that you found yourself at before. So instead of projecting onto this person every fault and fear you have deep inside of you, you take responsibility, and don’t.

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You remind yourself, every time you are with this person that they are not going to rescue you, and you are not them. Trusting and relying on your first impressions of them, you decide in good time whether or not they are right for you, rather than taking the first offer that comes along.

As the relationship moves on you accept the rule of impermanence and stay in the moment with them; dying to the past and each time you are reminded of the last relationship… and how it might’ve gone wrong.

il_570xN.350118545You accept they are human and not perfect. You openly discuss your problems together and if there is no way of living in harmony over some things you seek it out in others without feeling threatened about this.

You lift them up; not sucking up to them but reflecting back to them everything that is beautiful about them because you love yourself enough to know that this is good for you too.

You regularly give yourself time and space, not giving up the things you love but keeping hold of them, and the friends who saw you through the heart breaks because you value who you are and if they don’t like that, then they clearly don’t reciprocate.

Above all, you grow together. You enjoy the good time as well as the bad and enjoy seeing your partner grow through your many life challenges. You live every day as if you don’t really own them, that, as death takes life it could be gone at any time.

You don’t lean on them socially; you give them space to breath and do what you want without fail, never letting yourself resent them or speak badly of yourself. You say goodbye to old patterns and lose your memory. Yet make an effort and don’t get lazy. You love fully and breath life into that stitched up heart. You let it sing.

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Trickster Apocalypse: The Middle Way is Near

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Trickster Apocalypse: The Middle Way is Near

Trickster Apocalypse: The Beginning Ending Middle is Near

“We’re all fools, all the time. It’s just we’re a different kind each day. We think, I’m not a fool today. I’ve learned my lesson. I was a fool yesterday but not this morning. Then tomorrow we find out that, yes, we were a fool then too. I think the only way we can grow and get on in this world is to accept the fact we’re not perfect and live accordingly.” ~ Ray Bradbury, The Illustrated Man

Down the rabbit hole and through the wormhole. Over the tightrope and across the dreamscape. Beyond the vision of moon-eyed crows and peyote-eyed coyotes. Over cliff-crushed summits and boundary-shattered horizons. Before death, but after life.

There is the shiny apocalypse of Now. It contains all things to such an extent that it’s nothing. It holds so much nothingness that it is everything. It’s so black it’s white. It’s so white it’s black.

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It’s so much of a smeared-out yin yang that it’s gray; the kind of washed-out gray you get from mixing finitude with infinity. A Middle Gray. A Middle Way. A Golden Ratio so gold it’s Mean.

A Golden Mean blazing in the sky of all things. It’s everywhere to such an extent that it’s nowhere. It’s the frontal lobe of your heart permeating all things. It’s your brain on your sleeve perceiving all nothings. The Middle is near. The middle is here. And so the Trickster Apocalypse begins.

The beginning already began and ended. The ending already ended and began again. The Middle Way is near if you’re beginning to see how all things are connected; it’s already here if you’re on the path and you understand that the journey’s the thing.

Like Carl Jung said, “The pendulum of the mind oscillates between sense and nonsense, not between right and wrong.”

Right and wrong is secondary; healthy and unhealthy is primary; sense and nonsense is exemplary.

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What makes sense is to realign ourselves with health. And nothing is healthier than the understanding that all things are connected and that all things change. As it turns out, there’s more to being human than choice; there’s vicissitude.

Healthy, progressive evolution is a process, and process requires movement. It requires forward, uncertain momentum; not fixed and certain stagnation. Like Farrah Gray pinpointed, “Comfort is the enemy of achievement.” Indeed, it’s the struggle against discomfort and too much comfort that keeps the wheels spinning; that prevents the spearhead from getting dull and maintains its momentum.

Like Albert Einstein said, “To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

Nothing moves more smoothly through the ether of the human condition than trickster energy. It’s the epitome of “movement.” It’s the essence of balance, striking at the heart of the Middle Way. It sounds the bells of the Golden Ratio and rides its gelded waves into a sacred resonance with all things. And so there is as much to say about nonsense as there is to say about sense.

Like the un-doctor (Dr. Seuss) himself said: “Nonsense wakes up the brain cells. And it helps develop a sense of humor, which is awfully important in this day and age. Humor has a tremendous place in this sordid world. It’s more than just a matter of laughing. If you can see things out of whack, then you can see how things can be in whack.” And that’s the whole point of the Trickster Apocalypse: laughter through wisdom and the achievement of high humor.

fu bearThe Middle Way parts all waters. It gets us out of our own way. It gets us out of our own heads. It pushes us past the bulwarks of our conditioning.

It launches us through the many thresholds of the hero’s journey, revealing to us that there will always be something more to learn, there will always be mental paradigms that need shattering, comfort zones that need stretching, and boxes that need flattening, lest we become existentially stuck in mind, body, and soul.

It forces us to notice the blazing sign left behind by Carl Sagan, which simply reads: “Somewhere something incredible is waiting to be known.”

There is as much to say about being contrary as there is to say about being cooperative. As Wendell Berry says, “You’ve got to be contrary, but there’s a wealth of pleasure in contrariness.” Indeed. Forget security. Forget comfort.

Live where your fear is. Sabotage status and build character instead. Don’t be what people expect you to be. Be a force of nature first, a person second. Be infamous. Be an amoral agent. Instead of trying to possess Truth; let yourself be possessed by it.

Like Rumi said, “Don’t listen too often to the comforting part of the self that gives you what you want. Pray instead for a tough instructor. Nothing less than the radical disassembling of what we’ve wanted and gotten, and what we still wish for, allows us to discover the value of true being that lies underneath.”

ghost-year-zero by Zbigniew M Bielak Stand on the edge of the human condition. Stare into the abyss. Take the Middle Way, like the double-edged sword that it is, and plunge it into your hungry heart. Do it until it hurts like hell. Do it until you feel – not know, feel– the pulsing nothingness of infinity pressing against the finite somethingness of your soul.

Then laugh, and laugh hard, at the terribly beautiful cosmic joke of it all; at the wonderfully bleak infinite jest of being a finite being bashing its finitude against an infinite reality. Laugh until it hurts. Then keep laughing until it feels good. That’s the trickster’s secret: laugh at the cosmic joke lest you remain the butt-end of it.

This is how love begins. True love. Not the typical, fear-filled, codependent, invulnerable, conditional, ownership-based love. But the atypical, fearless, interdependent, vulnerable, unconditional, relationship-based love. The kind of love that is filled to bursting with high courage, and even higher humor.

The kind of love that embraces fallibility, insecurity, and imperfection, and then dares to square the circle of the finite human condition with the infinite cosmic condition. The kind of all-powerful love that only the trickster energy of the Middle Way can unleash, flayed bare in the blood and bone shop of the world, our hearts broken open in the Desert of the Real, our compass leaking out its magnetism. It’s okay. Let them break. Let them leak. A heart that is broken open, and remains broken open, is a heart alert to its calling.

Likewise, a soul that is sharpened, and remains sharpened, is a soul capable of a humor of the most high.

Like Sir Francis Bacon once said, “Imagination was given to man to compensate him for what he is not; a sense of humor to console him for what he is.”

Sharpen it on the flint-stone of your pain, on the sandstone of your fear, on the philosopher’s stone of your existential angst. Hone it until it is sharp enough to cut God, whatsoever or whomsoever that god may be: deity, queen, government, money, any and all perceived authorities.

The trickster apocalypse is the guillotine of God. It’s the art of chopping off godheads and then planting seeds filled with curled up question-marks inside the fertile neck stumps. It’s the epitome of contrarianism, an assault of radical thinking against the unthinking majority.

The trickster apocalypse is the Middle Way personified. It’s the Golden Mean incarnate. It’s the Golden Ratio self-actualized. It’s you fine-tuning your mind and calibrating your soul so as to dance harmoniously with cosmic frequencies, and then calling it “play.”

Sacred play. The sacred art of a sacred dance played out between nature and the human soul on the Dance Floor of Time. The ability to make revolutionary art in order to propel history forward.

The ability to confront the world as it is, and then dream radically about how it could be different.

Like the activist poet Lawrence Ferlinghetti said, “If you would be a poet, create works capable of answering the challenges of apocalyptic times.”

Indeed, Art itself (the trickster’s medium, if ever there was one) may not be able to change the world, but it can inspire those who will.

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5 Paths To Take When Life Has Become Stagnant

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5 Paths To Take When Life Has Become Stagnant

“Do not let your bread of life grow moldy or your living water become stagnant, else weevils and bugs will infest your spiritual food, leaving no nourishment whatsoever” ~ Becka Goings

More often than not, when life becomes stagnant we don’t even realize it has happened. One day we just wake up and – Bam!

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We understand we’re in a rut and usually have no idea how we got there. A retracing of steps and some honest soul work is usually on the cards – exactly how did I get to this point?

Invariably the answer is close to the surface and can be easily remedied. But beware. An un-examined stagnation period can turn into a life badly lived, and if we aren’t careful it isn’t long before our main regret is not that we didn’t keep our noses down and our mind on the goal but that we didn’t stop to take a look around.

Life is messy. It’s not always linear. In fact there’s a lot of too-ing and fro-ing; one step back and two steps forward. Sometimes all we need to do is stop and readjust. We need to keep our dialogue with the universe open and flowing. Else our stream might dry up.

Here are 5 Paths to take when life has become stagnant:

Visit a New Place

When our days are planned and everything’s ticking along nicely, creativity and our grip on reality can slip out of our grasp very quickly. Have you ever noticed that the creative mind feels wide awake when at the beginning of projects?

The moment we lift off and wobble at the peak; behind us uncertainty and hope, before us hard work and a whirlwind of activity so fervent that often we forget to enjoy ourselves? Even when at the height of a good patch, often we need a moment of reflection.

Make it a habit to visit a new place once a week. It doesn’t take too long and stop making excuses – no you don’t need a car. Just pick a direction and walk. Even walking through a different part of town or traveling through a well-trodden route in a new way; for example by bicycle when you are used to walking or going by taxi can help us see the world with new eyes and inspire us to do a double take at life.

The places you may end up also provide potential muse and amusement; some places like a treat in a forest bath or a quiet beach can literally recharge your batteries, slough away any stagnant bits of energy and infuse you with a brainwave or two.

Change in Routine

I know what it’s like when you have every hour planned perfectly and someone might suffer a small injury if they do anything to jeopardize that plan, but sometimes it’s no bad thing. Take signs where things go wrong – you spill your drink all over your work or keep tripping up as signs that you’re on autopilot and that’s not necessarily leading you down the right path.

Often this is the best red flag – something goes terribly wrong when we’re on our way down, one path that seems like an awful inconvenience at the time but is actually either redirecting you towards something better or telling you to sit up and take notice because you’re rapidly moving away from what you should be focusing on.

Being ill is always a sign of this – slow down, take care of yourself, reflect. Stop and readjust your priorities. Like going somewhere new, changing our routine slightly can again give us that chance to wake up and reinstall our awareness.

Do Some Soul Searching (Talking to Yourself)

5 Paths To Take When Life Has Become Stagnant

Stagnation doesn’t just come when we’re super busy and forget what our real goals are, it also happens when we go so slowly we almost grind to a halt. Getting stuck in the same patterns, the same mistakes and the same road blocks means we are doing something that fundamentally goes against our truth. Do some soul searching by talking to yourself about this. Sounds strange?

Simply ask yourself questions and the subconscious mind will answer them for you if you give it a chance. The answers might surprise you. Example: ‘How do I feel about going to this yoga class? I feel nervous. Why is that? Everyone will look at me. Why would they look at you? Because I’ll be doing it wrong. Why do you think that? Because I’m bad at sports…’

OK not a great example but you get the gist. Sometimes we need to sit down and do some journaling or serious talking with ourselves to uproot those unconscious beliefs that are holding us back. Why are you stopping yourself from moving on? The answer lies within you.

Set Yourself Challenges.

If you still feel like you aren’t going anywhere and are resisting something, try setting yourself little challenges over the span of first a week, then a fortnight, then a month. Not spending money for a week and trying to attend all the free things you can find in your area, making a resolution to talk to someone new every day, saying something positive and doing a ‘good deed’ at least once a day are small scale challenges.

Joining new groups, booking yourself into a half marathon or biking challenge three months later and then training for them are long term ones.

They don’t even have to be so obviously goal-oriented and actually, sometimes you need to start small and work your way up, then when you look back on your year you’ll realize how far you’ve come. Painting, writing or exercising for half an hour a day are great examples of how you end up producing or building up to something bigger.

Those half hours eventually create a whole exhibition of paintings, a novel or the will to completely change your lifestyle. Just like meditation practice you must build it up, and goals usually put us off because they seem like such a leap of faith. Slowly slowly build it up. Then you are no longer stagnant.

Make Heart and Soul Connections

“When you are transitioning to a new season of life, the people and situations that no longer fit you fall away.” ~ Mandy Hale

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Often the biggest challenge of all is when we become stagnant with others. Becoming robotic in exchanges and relationships may not effect everyone, but is surely the worst kind of stagnation of all.

If you’re depressed or simply numb, be patient with yourself. Just accept that that’s the way you are now but keep surrounding yourself with people.

Ignore any confused looks or alarm at your rudeness. Some people have been hurt so many times they’ve shut off, and if you’re one of them, the only way to avoid being dangerously isolated and stagnant in the heart is by wading through your fears and lovingly surrounding yourself regardless.

If people cross the road to avoid you find a sense of humour about that fact. Being rock bottom is great because it’s hilariously tragic but things can only get better. The real dangers of stagnation are when we take them too seriously. Enjoy those periods in life with the lightest touch; they will pass.

Make that shift, commit yourself to a gradual change and then DO IT. Like the wheelbarrow that takes a few pushes to get going it will only be hard at first. Surround yourself with a clock of protection and push yourself through the crowd; get the waters flowing and let the flood gates of your new beginning open.

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The Mystery of the Crop Circles: An Age Old Debate

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The Mystery of the Crop Circles: An Age Old Debate

It’s no wonder that crop circles have been a talking point for years. Remarkably however, little do the cynics know these strange formations best enjoyed from the skies may have been a talking point not for decades… but for centuries.

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The whole subject of crop circles was filed under solved when duo Doug Bower and Dave Chorley revealed that it was they, and not extra-terrestrials who had been setting out at night since 1978 to craft such bafflingly cryptic symbols in and around the rolling hills of Wiltshire County, England.

It is also surprisingly not a talking point among cynics that this duo have laid claim to hundreds of crop circles; both impressive and next to impossible to create by human hand, let alone in one night and with only the use of barrels and hand scythes.

Historians have revealed that not only were crop circles documented in 1945 – 33 years befor
e these hoaxers claim to have began work… or begun crawling, but also as far back as 1880, where one was written about in a science journal. And, even earlier than that, it’s believed that the first mention of a crop circle was in a 1678 news pamphlet “Strange News Out of Hartfordshire”, which has now become more commonly known as “The Mowing Devil”.

So what are we to believe? Are these fantastically crafted and prolific (at an average of 50 every year) circles designed and perfectly executed by two drunk moonrakers, or are they to be credited to someone… or something else entirely?

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Cynics have answered many questions adequately; the more complex circles were created with lasers, the circles are made simply in the same way a compass works, bending back the crop in one direction forming a neat and pleasing effect when viewed from above. There was also an account of a crop formation being created over three nights to prove that they were man-made, but for many questions are left over the more sophisticated designs.

crop circles No tracks through the crop leading up to the circles, perfect circles and sweep of the crop, evidence that the crop was cut down by a short, sharp blast from above… the list is endless in support of the ‘something else’ creating these natural masterpieces. But if the explanation does go further than a man-made one, then why are they being created?

Some theories including many new age writers on the subject indicate that the symbols themselves transmit a huge amount of information into the onlooker, whether they are there in the flesh or simply viewing the symbol in a photograph. Others say that to stand in a crop circle is to receive a huge amount of information and many have reported dramatic physical changes:

“That burst of energy – before it disperses – affects our cameras, affects our compasses, makes people dizzy, makes dogs sick – a lot of people have had that.” ~ Francine Blake, Coordinator of The Wiltshire Crop Circle Study Group.

With no real study been made, the list of possibilities for the ‘something’ includes animals, the paranormal, adverse weather conditions and some inexplicable natural phenomenon. The most widely disputed but favourite explanation of course belongs to the idea they were created by extra-terrestrials as some sort of sign that we are not alone.

4a-earth-chakra-mapEnthusiasts of that theory like to see it as a sign we are being watched over and helped as the planet reaches dangerous levels of pollution and examples of human destruction.

Unlike ancient geoglyphs such as the Nazca Lines in Peru, crop circles are an ongoing phenomenon in that they are continuously and increasingly appearing with the average rising by the end of each harvest. And why do they occur in such a specific place as the ancient town of Wessex, so close to the famous stone circle of Stonehenge?

Again the cynics point the finger at the willingness to believe in such phenomena. For example crop circles don’t occur in the Middle East where no-one would be interested in them or debate their origin.

Another theory is that they relate to ley lines – the earth’s chakras, interestingly enough relating to the heart chakra which runs across South West England; in Glastonbury (ancient Avalon where the stories of King Arthur and the Holy Grail originate), Avebury where another stone circle resides, and none other than Stonehenge.

Stonehenge_sunThe link to Stonehenge as far as extra terrestrials go is that the land in a centre of information; a unique point where connections have been made for millennia, and Stonehenge the chosen monument to honour that.

Some even believe that the stones where moved from their origin in Wales to the site using communal psycho kinesis, which continues the speculation over what the stones are all about – sound illusion, ancient calendar or mass graveyard?

Whatever the theories and personal beliefs on the origin of the stones and the crop formations that litter the hills, you have to admit it’s an exciting mystery. One of which, may even be solved one day, once and for all.

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Five Quotes by Shin’ichi Suzuki to Change a Generation

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Five Quotes by Shin’ichi Suzuki to Change a Generation

Strangely I had been compelled to write an article about the Japanese Theatre practitioner Tadashi Suzuki. Yet when I searched for his quotes online I accidentally came across another Suzuki entirely and (without noticing) began eagerly reading the kind of quotes that send a tingle up your spine. It was only when I was half way through a huge long list of them, that I realized my mistake. However, Shin’ichi’s quotes resonated with me on such a level that I decided to focus on him instead, even though I knew nothing about him until tonight.

Shin’ichi Suzuki was a Japanese violinist who became famous after World War II when he used his inspired Suzuki Method to bring music to children using the same principles that causes them – with their minds like sponges – to pick up second, third and forth languages.

Recognizing that music is simply another language, he modeled his Method and named it ‘Talent Education’, striving to teach with love and kindness, and with the upmost respect for the children he worked with.

25hotta-articleLargeHe was unique because he deeply loved children and longed to make an impact on a generation after the atrocities that war had imprinted on him, seeking to raise that generation with ‘noble hearts’, perhaps believing that individuals who appreciate and understand music would never partake in such bloody and base things as wars.

The thing I most admire in him is that he desired to raise this generation as equals in the direction of peace rather than what so often happens in the arts when talent is concerned, when people hunger after and exploit musical prodigies, getting swept up in the hysteria of it all and revering the musician as if they were a God. Instead, he was humble. He treasured each child individually and his method was most definitely anti-competition. Here are his quotes:

1) A New World Begins with a Young Child

We all have the potential, but this quote really drives home for me the fact that we so often forget to remember people’s innocence. Some of us are so busy churning along and focusing on the future that we forget that the most precious moment are those with children, and the enormous effect we have on those children around us can change everything. We must honour children; give them the space and the courage to play and find their own feet. Not break their spirits and greedily keep their talents all for ourselves.

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2) You’ll Make Mistakes But Trust Yourself and Think Of You

We are so hard on ourselves. We will make mistakes, it’s inevitable. This sentiment must have been particularly impacting Post War when music and the teaching of it was (and still is really) a highly elite and strict practice.

The amount of stress and pressure put on children anyway, without an extra pressure like a potential such as musical talent, is horrifying when you think about it.

Perhaps it drives us to do wonderful things, but like the case of Australian David Helfgott can also lead to things like mental illness. We all make mistakes. Let’s love that about ourselves rather than punish ourselves for it.

3) Man Is The Son of his Environment

When you’re comparing yourself to everyone else and wondering why you don’t have this confidence or that will or are unable to move forward in various areas of your life remember – you and everyone else are a product (horrible word, OK son or daughter) of your environment. Not everyone had a loving and nurturing childhood with solid, understanding and forgiving parents, and that’s OK.

It doesn’t mean anyone is better than anyone else, or more deserving or even luckier. It just means we have different lessons. Unfortunately the child always understands it was their fault and that because they had less than someone else in that department it makes them guilty. It doesn’t. We are all love.

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In terms of music this echoes Shin’ichi’s ethos that within a loving and nurturing environment (as opposed to a traditionally strict and harsh one) children creatively flourish and blossom.

4) Beautiful Tone, Beautiful Heart

The musical reference here is obvious. But it applies to everyone else as well. If we speak of and about pure and loving things, then it reflects our pure and loving heart.

If we are impeccable with our words then we are impeccable with our hearts. If we are authentic and true to ourselves then this comes across in our action, speech and energy. Just our presence will be enough to wrap others in love. From the inside out, not looking out, but acting from within. This is true nurture and it’s essential for anyone who wants to play life with art; with the care of a beautiful melody.

5) Children Learn to Smile From Their ParentssuzukiShinichi

It’s almost as if we learn to be carbon copies of our parents only to override this along with our conditioning and ideas of happiness.

Breaking the parental mode is the one of the hardest tasks we will ever come up against and Suzuki recognized this. He saw that whilst many parents were educating their children in such a way to enhance or make easier their lives, what they were really doing was damaging it.

Wasn’t this supposedly part of the reason Hitler became so dangerous? Because his father rejected his creativity? Well, it’s one theory anyway.

We learn to smile, learn to walk, learn our stance and way of communicating from our parents. If a generation takes upon itself all the bad habits, the selfishness, the ego-centered mode of functioning then we will forever pass it on to our children; and for generations to come.

Children learn to smile from their parents means we have in our hands the potential to change a whole generation by overriding those bad habits and deciding to do some things differently. To learn to smile and mean it, or at least find it in ourselves to discover the moment we stopped remembering how.

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