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The Art of Self-Interrogation: Questioning to the Nth Degree

“To be ignorant of one’s ignorance is the malady of the ignorant.” ~ Amos Bronson Alcott

If history has proven anything, it reveals that human beings are usually wrong about their beliefs. A lot of people have believed a lot of things that turned out to be wrong. Before Copernicus, the world believed that the heavens revolved around the earth.

Mere centuries before that, people believed that the earth was flat. Before Einstein’s theory of relativity, people believed that time was linear, and some still do! Belief, it turns out, is an extremely fragile thing. The “truth” is a slippery fish, and quite often a red herring. One needs a particularly unique type of net in order to “catch” such an elusive fish as Truth.

Although we are highly adept at creating worldviews we are incredibly less adept at realizing that we have made them. And we are even less adept at realizing that we’re clinging to them.

Like Noam Chomsky said, “The general population doesn’t even know what’s happening, and it doesn’t even know that it doesn’t know.”

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Cognitive Dissonance

The Art of Self-Interrogation

Beliefs don’t change facts, but facts should change beliefs. The problem is that our conclusions about our beliefs are almost always exculpatory, even in the face of historic fallibility. The funny thing is: we know we are a fallible species. We know we are prone to make mistakes. It’s just excruciatingly difficult to admit to it, especially to each other.

What we need then is a ruthless but effective method of questioning our perception of reality. A type of questioning that breaks everything down to its nuts & bolts and then breaks apart the nuts & bolts.

A type of questioning that digs down into the guts of the world and then dissects the womb. A type of questioning that gets to the crux of the issue and then dismantles the roots. This type of questioning is what is called self-interrogation. It’s “self” interrogation because no matter what we are questioning, we are the one doing the questioning. We are the walking paradox, vainly attempting to solve all paradox.

Here’s the thing: most of what we think is true is actually confabulation, fabricated memory believed to be true. Confabulations are not true, but the brain doesn’t know that. All it knows is the cultural narrative. This narrative bias, supported by the conjunction fallacy, leads to confabulation.

But without this tendency it would be very difficult to be human. We evolved, as an insecure species in a confusing world, to incorporate this ability in order to survive.

Like David McRaney quips, “The brain turns chaos into order so that you don’t bump into walls and pet scorpions, but at the first sign of trouble, the first inkling of befuddlement, your neurons start cranking out false clarity.”

This false clarity is what keeps the narrative going. Confabulations arise, denial mechanisms rear their head (cognitive dissonance), and false rationalizations fill the void, but not because we’re vile liars. On the contrary, it’s because we are sincere story tellers caught-up in the throes of our delicious cognitive narratives.

And what is the greatest confabulation of all? –Our sense of self. It’s just a story, like all the other stories that we tell ourselves: a jumble of assumptions that come together to distinguish this from that, you from otheran internal locus of control created by our narrative bias.

Like George Miller wrote, “You don’t experience thinking; you experience the result of thinking.”

But cognitive dissonance will almost always prevail, unless we have the perspicuity and inner-courage to question our beliefs to the nth degree. Self-interrogation is an effective method toward this end because it requires a “letting go” of cherished beliefs and the need to control reality, and instead ushers in an embracing of self-as-world and world-as-self which liberates us from the need for control.

We become truly free to embrace the Great Mystery. Mystery is a place where spirituality and science meet. Dogma is a place where they part.

Like psychologist Jonathan Haidt says, “Our minds unite us into teams, divide us against other teams, and blind us to the truth.”

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One way through this screw-tape of cognition is to rebel against the urge to pigeonhole ourselves into any particular persona or group. The art of self-interrogation is just such a rebellion, helping to reorient ourselves with the diversity of the cosmos by leveraging holistic thinking against biased thinking.

Dogmatism wanes, extremism is dampened, and our comfort zones are stretched to encourage others to do the same, until we are all embracing inside one giant comfort zone that includes, rather than excludes, “the other.”

Those who truly seek peace, who seek truth, do not separate themselves through belief, nationalism, or tradition. They do not belong to any religion, political party, or partial system; they are concerned only with the absolute understanding of the human condition.

One way to transform black and white thinking into holistic thinking is to take things into consideration rather than believe in them. The art of self-interrogation is an example of this. If we can gain the ability to ruthlessly question ourselves, our worldviews, and our place in the greater cosmos, we are more likely to open up to others and to accept that we are a tiny part of a huge interconnected whole.

An interconnected whole that, it goes without saying, should also be questioned to the nth degree. In the end, our questioning is an opening, an opportunity, a sacred breech, a revelation of the ever deepening mystery of this magnanimous cosmos we call home.

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Conjunction fallacy

Narrative Bias

Love is All You Need

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This fire that we call loving is too strong for human minds. But just right for human souls ~ Aberjhani.

Love. Unconditional love. Romantic love. Materialistic love. One can examine the nature of love but one cannot measure it. You cannot have a comprehensive examination of love.

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Love is everywhere

We have had philosophers, writers and poets attempting to describe their understanding of the emotion from the experiences they have had. Art, novels, music, movies and culture in different countries in different centuries have been enthused and enriched by love.

And they still continue to be. It will always be a guiding force for humanity. We have read sagas of Romeo and Juliet by Shakespeare and watched movies like Casablanca. In India we have had poets like Mirza Ghalib whose poetry on the emotion is as astounding as anything can ever be.

Rumi said love has no nature. You can feel love for the passenger sitting next to you in the bus, for your children, girlfriend, husband, parents, pet and all the gorgeous and heart-warming things under the sun. Love is the ultimate source of Joy.

If we flip the pages of history, we had Platonism theory of love that described love as a pure and non-sexual feeling for friends and family, also known as platonic love. It is the desire to love fellow human beings, understand them and help them nurture and grow.
Rumi quote on love
Socrates, who believed himself to be the unsurpassed master of love, in Plato’s “Symposium”, divided love into two categories – Eros (earthly love) and Divine Eros (divine love). Eros is the material attraction towards a beautiful body for physical pleasure and reproduction.

Divine Eros, on the contrary, is human soul gradually transcending to unconditional deific love. There is a difference between attraction of two human bodies and the affinity of two human souls.

Love is the hunger of the human soul for divine beauty. It has deeper emotional affiliations. One is enlightened to create and be in love. To grow and help others grow. And then of course, we had Aristotle inscribing, “Two bodies with one soul.” This was the idea of love by three great philosophers of the western world.

Coming to the 21st century, we all in some fathomable ways must be aware of the existing reality. I am not going to talk about the divorce rates and the confusion amongst people to reach to a conclusion about their emotions. I solely believe we are living in a time and age where people are not self-aware about their emotions and it is disheartening. A life is to be loved and lived, lived and loved.

It is a clear reflection of the fact that when one is not in love with oneself, it leads to a pool of doubts. To love someone else, one has to be in love with oneself first. One needs to unlock the channels of thoughts and constantly discover. Love helps you travel through the difficulties and find a new world. That’s the beauty of love.

And somehow, I don’t know how, seeking true love has become an old-school theory. I distinctly blame the pop culture for imposing such a negative mindset that leads to mental collapse, psychosomatic diseases, drug abuse and everything that destroys the soul.

The idea of polygamy and infidelity is on the rise turning love into a cheap commodity. Alain Badiou (21st century writer) in his book, In Praise of Love (2012) wrote that love needs constant reinventing. We need to maintain it in a state of tension, unpredictability, and risk. One cannot choose to be fragile. Strength and loyalty is the dignity of love, and one cannot separate love from overall human dignity and hope.

Love is life-changing and soul-warming. It is an event and celebration. It is the basic food for the human kind to evolve and grow. Learn and understand.

This particular Rumi quote concludes my stream of thoughts on love, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

Unravel and introspect. And, most definitely, love whole-heartedly.

One of my favorite “The Beatles” song

Love Is All You Need - Beatles

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Yin-yang Dynamics: Explaining Jung’s Anima Animus

“The Hindus say that without Shakti, the personified feminine life force, Shiva, who encompasses the masculine ability to act, becomes a corpse. She is the life energy that animates the male principle, and the male principle in turn animates action in the world.” ~ Clarissa Pinkola Este.

According to Carl Jung the psyche was composed of three components: the ego, the personal unconscious and the collective unconscious. The ego, in its multiplicity, represents our consciousness. The shadow, in its multiplicity, represents our personal unconscious. And the archetypes represent our collective unconscious.

The archetypes animus and anima emerged as Jung observed the mingling of his male and female clients, in the hopes of understanding the human condition in a deeper more self-actualized way.

The best way to imagine the anima animus is to picture a yin-yang in your mind. The anima is the black dot on the white side, and the animus is the white dot on the black side. Men are like walking white-sides with black dots. Women are walking black-sides with white dots.

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Yin Yang

An individuated man will have a more prominent and magnanimous black dot, just as an individuated woman will have a more prominent and magnanimous white dot. In less psychologically healthy people their dots are mere pinpricks.

Basically, the anima is the unformed feminine that’s forming within a man. The animus is the unformed masculine that’s forming within a woman.

The psychological unity which enables us to think of ourselves as individuals is in some ways vulnerable (Feminine/Shakti) and in other ways robust (Masculine/Shiva), but never either/or (or neither/nor).

The Eternal Feminine is all that is vulnerable and pregnable within us, all that is wild and fertile: our inner-garden. The Eternal Masculine is all that is invulnerable and impregnable within us, all that is structured and firm: our inner-strength. Our full potential as individuals, whether male or female, is an amalgam of these forces, and a balancing of these sacred energies.

Jung’s goal with developing the archetypes anima and animus was the unburying of the wild and innate aspects of the self. It gave us something to leverage soul against ego, an existential tactic that cracks open the ego so that soul can emerge in an authentic way. It gives us a door to open into the deeper self.

This deeper self is the health of all humans, the balance between nature & the human soul, yin & yang, man & anima, woman & animus. When Man does not meet anima and Woman does not meet animus, only one-dimensionality reigns. But when anima meets Man and animus meets Woman, the tacit, prescient, visceral self becomes multidimensional, and a kind of existential double-jointedness occurs.

Animus/Anima archetypes in Jungian psychology

Animus-Anima in Jungian psychology

Even more amazing is the alchemy that occurs when a woman’s animus engages authentically with a man’s anima. Paraphrasing Jung, No man can converse with a woman’s animus for five minutes without becoming vulnerable to his own anima.

And so, no woman can converse with a man’s anima for five minutes without becoming vulnerable to her own animus. And suddenly our romantic relationships are deeper than we could have imagined before.

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Dynamic balance

We are suddenly able to tap the philosopher-stone of Her animus with the cornerstone of His anima, and we gain the almost alchemical ability to turn the tables on the polarity of the universe.

This kind of multidimensional power opens up everything, cracking our old, stagnant world view right down the middle and revealing that everything is connected just as everything is moving. Shiva moves in and out of Shakti.

The sacred masculine moves in and out of the sacred feminine. Darkness moves in and out of light. Inner moves in and out of outer. Everything moves in and out of nothing. It’s all one big beautiful bouncing dance between the God-that-forgot-it-was-God within Him and the God-that-forgot-it- was-God within Her. And oh, what an amazing dance it is.

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4 Ways to Turn Wounds into Wisdom: The Power of Transforming Pain into Strength

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” ~ Kahlil Gibran

As our inner work unfolds, we often discover many setbacks and may even experience traumatic events that fundamentally change us. Even in the healthiest families, there can be significant emotional wounds left over from our youth. But these don’t have to be unfortunate occurrences. And maybe they weren’t even accidental.

Perhaps “fate/destiny” had something else in mind for us, to catalyze a particular type of personal development that requires trauma for its genesis. What hurts us can cripple us, but it can also shape us into something more powerful.

Here are 4 ways to turn wounds into wisdom

Adopt a Different Perspective

It requires having a different perspective about what it means to hurt and what it means to experience emotional trauma. One way to change our perspective is to look at our wounds as sacred things.

Our sacred wounds can be a great source of personal development.

Like John Keats wrote, “Do you not see how necessary a world of pains and troubles is to school an intelligence and make it a soul?”

Indeed, allowing our wounds to become sacred is allowing Ego to become Soul.

Authentic Engagement

If we really allow ourselves to live greatly, we must open ourselves up to being present to our sacred wounds. The ability to have an authentic engagement with life takes the courage to face prior heartache and pain, and the ability to cultivate it and turn our wounds into wisdom. Either way, the pain and heartache will be there. The question is whether or not we have the courage to transform it into something that can refine our soul.

Pema Chödrön said it best: “We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”

Letting there be room is allowing for a space, a sacred space, where we can be fully present with our pain.

Never Not Broken

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Never Not Broken Goddess

There’s a lesser known Hindu deity named Akhilandeshvari, or The Goddess of Never Not Broken. This Goddess embodies the ability to come together and fall apart, over and over again. She is the personification of healthy annihilation, the archetype of vicissitude.

She breaks apart in order to come back together as a more powerful entity. Indeed, it is exactly because she is able to break apart that she is so powerful. What a shift in perspective!

True strength isn’t wholeness but the ability to adapt to the change that comes from falling apart and coming back together again, from wholeness to brokenness and back. This is the epitome of transforming pain into strength. Falling apart is what happens when we experience trauma. Coming back together again is the scar left behind.

Adapting to the new way in which we are put back together again is honoring the sacred wound, and turning our wounds into wisdom.

Like Joseph Campbell wrote, “Suddenly you’re ripped into being alive. And life is pain, and life is suffering, and life is horror, but my god you’re alive and it’s spectacular.”

It may take an entire lifetime to complete the healing of our sacred wounds, but the point is to begin the healing – and there are diamonds in the rough. Those who become wise always experience the most pain. Falling apart and adapting to coming back together again in novel ways is the epitome of wisdom.

The Multifaceted Self
The Multifaceted Self

Experience Pain well

Facing the pain is like looking into the abyss. It’s like having a staring contest with our inner-most demons. But with enough practice, with enough polish, we can transform those demons into diamonds.

We can transform that abyss into a mirror that reflects infinite growth. “Think of the birth of the pearl,” writes Bill Plotkin, “the tiny grit of sand within the oyster creates an irritation the oyster seeks to eliminate by coating the grain with successive layers of lustrous deposits, ultimately producing the jewel.”

Just as the grain within the oyster can be transformed into a pearl, the pain within the human can be transformed into strength.

There is a saying in Tibet, “Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.” At the end of the day, life is pain. We must learn to experience pain well. Indeed, there is an art to cultivating sacred wounds that only the happiest people know.

Like the Buddha said, “Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.”

When we resist pain we create more pain, which is called suffering. When we can embrace pain with a warm, peaceful curiosity, we gain the ability to transform wounds into sacred wounds, and we limit our suffering.

Like Leslie Fieger ingeniously opined, “Any fool can run toward the light. It takes a master with courage to turn and face the darkness and shine his own light there.”

Let us have the courage to turn and face our pain, to shine our own light there and see how many demons we can mold into diamonds, how many wounds we can transform into wisdom, and how much pain we can wrestle into strength, in order to become multifaceted beings with the power to heal the deeper wounds of the world.

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Vladimir Kush
Never Not Broken Goddess
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Exploring Oneself Through Travel

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“Our battered suitcases were piled on the sidewalk again; we had longer ways to go. But no matter, the road is life.” ~ Jack Kerouac, On the Road

History witnessed that whenever a traveler pursued exploring, a new world emerged. Such is the power of traveling. Marco Polo voyages played a key role in introducing Central Asia and China to Europeans.

Journeys of Christopher Columbus resulted in a connection between Europe and America in a way that it influenced the development of the modern western world. Ibn Battuta became a traveler to be a storyteller. These travelers gave the world gemstones, newfound countries and stories.

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To travel is to live

Humans have to travel. Having said that, humans evolved because of their nomadic nature. People traveled in Dark Age. People traveled to Modern age. And it is not the final destination. Traveling is transcendental and its repercussions are boundless.

Travel in joy. Travel in remorse. Travel in oblivion. Travel when nothing and everything makes sense.

Mark Twain said, “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts.” He further added, “Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.”

We unravel the mysterious parts of our soul to ourselves when we are on a journey. Traveling never goes to waste/uncultivated as we never return unlearned. It changes you inside out each time you go to a place unknown.

On many of my traveling journeys, I realized, in the larger scheme of universe everything makes sense, which we tend to forget during the monotonous routine of our lives. We worry. We scream and make ourselves crazy. Traveling acquaints you with the fact that nothing is worth going berserk and bonkers.

Interesting video that shows the story of man who started living out of his suitcase, qnd how travel broadened his perspective and enriched his life –

Ibn Battuta, Moroccan explorer and one of the greatest travelers of all the times, became a storyteller after traveling to Africa, Asia and Europe. Battuta covered 44 countries and startlingly 73,000 miles. For a 14th century traveler, it must be a phenomenal journey.

We miss on exciting stories because of the convenience given to us by modern day transport. Anyway gadgets have replaced human interaction. When was the last time you made a friend on a flight or spoke to a stranger for hours while on a train to your destination? Isn’t the journey more important than the destination?

Psychologists claim that traveling, usually, involves deeper emotional goals. Everyone has a desire to achieve a sense of freedom and a sense of unlimited probabilities. Every time I was in trouble on a journey, I have managed to deal with it single-handedly.

I learned to have faith in myself and every time I was stuck in a situation, I could calm down and trust my ability to figure it out. Traveling leads to discovering new horizons internally and externally.

When we travel from one country to another or even within our country, the gradual shifts in multiple aspects of our life makes us uncomfortable, teaching us to be more compassionate towards our fellow human beings. It helps one in delayering their skin of ego and pride. We understand the value of the words “Please”, “Sorry” and “Thank you” in a foreign country.

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Here and everywhere.

We appreciate the fact that we are all made of the same energy and matter. We feel similar emotions.

And as Rumi said, “ The soul is here for its own joy.”

There is a difference between a luxurious vacation and traveling. Vacation is the pleasurable component of traveling. It is an attempt to escape from the monotonous routine of the life. Traveling on the other hand is exhausting. It is soul probing and mind storming in nature. On the road, you are constantly in conversation with yourself.

George Santayana on the Philosophy of Traveling, “We need sometime to escape into open solitudes, into aimlessness, into the moral holiday of running some pure hazard, in order to sharpen the edge of life, to taste hardship, and to be compelled to work desperately for a moment at no matter what.”

So, embrace you wanderlust and seek that part of yourself that you don’t know exists. Look at the sky, dance with the moon and smile at the sun

Image Source and for further reading:

The lost traveler
Travel globes