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The Four Vital Transformations of the Modern Sage

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“My idea of the modern Stoic Sage is someone who transforms fear into prudence, pain into information, mistakes into initiation, and desire into undertaking.” ~ Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragility

In this article we break down Nassim Nicholas Taleb’s idea of the modern stoic sage. If you survived the dark night of the soul, escaped the master’s shadow, mastered the soulcraftsman’s toolkit, and discovered the poise of sacred activism, then this article is just for you.

If not, then the following four transformations are just as good a launching point as any toward a more self-actualized disposition.

Transforming Fear into Prudence

“Healers are Spiritual Warriors who have found the courage to defeat the darkness of their souls. Awakening and rising from the depths of their deepest fears, like a Phoenix rising from the ashes. Reborn with a wisdom and strength that creates a light that shines bright enough to help, encourage, and inspire others out of their own darkness.” ~ Malanie Koulouris

You’ve awakened and risen from the depths of your deepest fear like a phoenix with a new heart, but that does not mean the end of fear, not at all. It means you must now take on the difficult task of transforming fear into prudence. You’re always going to be afraid of something, and that’s okay.

Fear is a natural reaction to seemingly dangerous (whether psychological, spiritual, or physical) stimuli. And the more you’re stretching your comfort zone, breaking mental paradigms, and thinking outside of boxes, the more you’re going to experience states of existential anxiety and spiritual distress.

In order to transform fear into prudence we must be able to adapt to fear by means of flexible courage in order to achieve the end of sagacious self-actualization; likewise with transforming anxiety into circumspection and despair into providence.

Flexible courage is a robust state of calculative foresight, and the ability to adapt and overcome to the vast amount of things that are out of our control, coupled with the ability to transform the few things that we have control over, all while remaining calm in the face of unforeseeable events.

It’s a tall order, sure, but nobody ever said self-actualization was easy. In order to become the type of person who is able to “shine bright enough to help, encourage, and inspire others out of their own darkness” we must be able to transform fear into prudence.

Transforming Pain into Information

“The only failure is quitting. Everything else is just gathering information.” ~ Jen Sincero

So you’ve woken up to the fact that life is pain, that to exist means to suffer, whether that’s the tiny suffering of hunger or the painful suffering of starvation, whether it’s the tiny suffering of a broken heart or the painful suffering of a loved one’s death, you have come to terms with it.

So what now? What do we do with this pain and suffering?

We transform it into information. In the game of life, and it is a game (read James P. Carse’s Finite and Infinite Games), the only failure is to quit. The ultimate failure is the downward spiral of suicide.

The ultimate goal, which is inherently unreachable but we must strive for it nonetheless, is enlightenment. A sage is able to ride the rollercoaster of emotions between downward-spiral and enlightenment by collecting information along the way and transforming wounds into wisdom.

She is fluid and flexible between setbacks and achievements alike. She is able to break apart and put herself back together again, by collecting wisdom from the information gained from experiencing pain.

And other than Mother Nature herself, there is no greater teacher than pain. All wisdom begins first with nature, the greatest of guides and second with pain, the most difficult of guides.

The scars will be great, but the providence will be even greater, and those scars look like gold to the self-actualized sage.

Like Kahlil Gibran said, “Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”

Transforming mistakes into initiation

“To live is to suffer and to survive is to find meaning in this suffering.” ~ Nietzsche

I’ve always said that rock bottom is a solid foundation upon which to build a new life. And so it also goes with mistakes. When we make a mistake it is the perfect opportunity to learn something new. Indeed, we learn more from our mistakes than we ever do from our successes.

Humphry Davy said it best, “The most important of my discoveries have been suggested to me by my failures.”

Similar to pain being transformed into information, mistakes must be transformed into initiation, into a fresh start, into a new beginning. This way we are not crushed by the weight of failure.

if you stumble, make it part of the danceInstead we are aroused and motivated with a sense of adventure, a new beginning to begin a new quest. “If you stumble make it part of the dance.” If you misstep make it part of the stutter step. If you err make it part of the errand.

Mistakes can make us wise, but only if we have the capacity to transform them into initiation. Deep meaning is created when we find the survival component inherent within our suffering.

And, have no illusions, it is our responsibility alone to bring meaning to an otherwise meaningless universe. The more mistakes we’re making, the more we’re living on the edge of our comfort zone, the more we’re growing.

As Eric Voegelin put it, “Our role in existence must be played in uncertainty of its meaning… as an adventure of decision on the edge of freedom and necessity.”

Transforming desire into undertaking

“A man is a method, a progressive arrangement, a selecting principle, gathering his like to him, wherever he goes. He takes only his own, out of multiplicity that sweeps and circles round him.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

So now you have free autonomy, you have clout, you have the sacred self-expression of your art, and you have collected wisdom along the way, what are you going to do with this power?

First and foremost, you must be responsible with it, and that means transforming all your aspirations into a sincere undertaking. All our desires, all our yearnings, must be transformed into a mission, a sacred calling, and a responsible duty toward the health and prosperity of the human condition.
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Championing our passion for life is a perfect opportunity to reawakening the sacred within us, to touch the cornerstone of our capacity as a meaning-bringing creature in an otherwise meaningless universe, and then bring that meaning to others like Prometheus brought fire from the gods.

It’s on us to bestow upon the world the gifts that only we are capable of bestowing. Let’s discover our own philosophies. Let’s add our own unique contribution to the human leitmotif. Let’s inject the universe with our own particular genius.

Christ said it best, “If you bring forth the genius within you, it will free you. If you do not bring forth the genius within you, it will destroy you.”

The more ideas we test, the more clearly we define our reality. The more clearly we define our reality, the clearer we become. The clearer we become, the more we are capable of transforming our desires into a sagacious undertaking of the first order.

Like A.C. Grayling said, “Let us curiously test new ideas and court new impressions, never acquiescing to facile orthodoxy. Philosophy may help us gather up what might otherwise pass unregarded, for philosophy is the microscope of thought.”

And the microscope of thought for the modern sage is the ability to transform fear into prudence, pain into information, mistakes into initiation, and desire into undertaking.

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Embracing Your Shadow Self

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“A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner: Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time. When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment and replied, the one I feed the most.”

Two WolvesGood and evil exists within us. Carl Jung looked at the subject of good vs evil in a very different light. According to him, one cannot deny the existence of the dark side in oneself.

We all are susceptible to negative emotions, consciously or unconsciously, that is why chemistry recognizes so many negative hormones within a human body. Jung named this particular existing “dark side” in humans – Shadow.

A shadow is “sum of all personal and collective psychic elements which, because of their incompatibility with the chosen conscious attitude, are denied expression in life.”

Jung wrote, “Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.”

jung-quotesOur ego likes to think that we are inherently good human beings and we don’t dwell in any negativity. But then one day when somebody hurts us, we go overboard with anger and resentment.

In another situation, if we experience failure or someone unexpectedly points a finger at us, we are suddenly filled with fear, confusion and guilt. Our first instinct in such situations usually is to defend ourselves and protect our identity.

We can feel the vulnerability in our stomach but we manage to put up a face and justify as much as we can. Once the situation is over, our conscious mind forgets about it because there are plenty of other things to deal with.

Neuroscientists recently proved that human thoughts have rhythms and frequency which has a major influence on our behavior, and good and evil are facets of human behavior.

The vulnerability and anger, which you truly felt, never got a chance to display itself and it got stored in your shadow, which is resurfacing time and again in the form of insecurity and negativity, acting as a catalyst to negative actions.

This storehouse of emotions in your shadow has an immense role to play in your relationship with yourself, particularly in setting yourself free. The world is simply a mirror, reflecting back to us our own inner state.

If you are overflowing with love for yourself and others, you’ll experience people who are feeling this love and their love is reflected back towards you. On the other hand, if all you see in your outer world is disharmony, anger and fights, then there must be an inner battle happening deeper inside.

Unless we come to terms with our own dark side, we’re condemned to be its victim. The effect of non-confronted shadow is immense – need to control, need to exert power, need to show supremacy out of INSECURITY.

It’s the shadow that is ruling the consciousness and becoming the root cause of turbulence in oneself which is continually projecting itself on others.

Confronting the Shadow

According to medical psychology, our consciousness must confront the shadow for a sound mind and body. The shadow needs to be sublimated in order to break free from its chains.

Consciousness is never bounded; it’s inherently free. Jung noted that to achieve wholeness largely depends on the ability to own their own shadow. What does owning our shadow mean?

Your ego doesn’t like your shadow. So, it subsides all the possible chances you take to figure out things that weigh you down. Nonetheless, you can begin the journey by self-observation and introspection.

You can start by making mental notes of negative feelings, which leads to contraction of energy in your body. Once you reach to the root of the feeling, what you want to do with it will be at your command. You might want to convert it into something positive to be at peace and rise to a higher self.

Once you have acknowledged the existence of anger and vulnerability to yourself, you will figure out a conscious solution to deal with it.

It will no longer have the power to unconsciously rule over you. Your shadow will become your friend which will help in overcoming the thoughts that bring you down.

A thought that feeds your energy is good for expansion of your consciousness and a thought that lowers your energy is contracting your consciousness (false consciousness). Good vs evil is better understood in terms of expansion and contraction of collective feeling of humanity!

“The higher the sun rises, the less shadow it casts.” ~ Lao Tzu

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The Phenomenon known as ‘The Oneness Blessing’

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A lotus symbolises purity and oneness
A Zen verse says, “May we exist in muddy water with purity, like a lotus.”

“The Oneness Blessing has deepened the connection with the eternal that thrives within. It has opened doors and bulldozed through obstacles that create the illusion of separation. Awakening and God Realization are not states to be “gained” or “reached”, they exist within each being, and the Oneness Blessing organically lifts the veil of separation for each individual in its own unique way. It’s more than a benediction, it’s a gift straight from the divine which patiently waits for each humans self-realization.” – Ursula Tizon, Oneness Blessing Giver

It can be described as nothing short of a phenomenon for those who have experienced it, so it’s no wonder that this movement has reached all over the globe. People from all different cultures, religious backgrounds, ethnicities and personal backgrounds are forming oneness groups and communities across the world. The Oneness Blessing (also known as “deeksha”) and the whole oneness movement transcends all labels, however, the founders of Oneness, Sri Bhagavan and his wife Sri Amma, are very adamant about it not becoming a “religion” of any sort.

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There is no one to be “worshiped” and a blessing giver is not allowed to charge money to give the blessing. The blessing itself involves a transfer of energy. The person giving the blessing (blessing giver) is acting as a conduit for the transfer of divine energy either in the recipients crown chakra, through the eyes, or it can even be sent with intent, which means the recipient does not have to be physically there in order to receive the blessing and it can be given to large groups of people at the same time.

If 100 people in the room are receiving the blessing, it will be felt in 100 different ways. Some people don’t have a noticeable reaction at first, only to feel a sudden rush of energy later. Others may experience crying, uncontrollable laughing or experience old feelings that had been buried. There is no “wrong” way or “right” way to experience it. Since the blessing is coming from the divine it has a mind of its own, knowing exactly what part of a person’s programming it needs to be tended to.

The blessing causes a neurobiological shift in the brain which allows for major shifts in perception about the world. There are many ways the blessing has been known to change a person’s life, which include but are not limited to: curing illness, healing relationships, aiding in a spiritual awakening, quieting of mind chatter, higher states of consciousness that exist beyond judgments, inner peace, and dissolving of the false “self” (ego). Because of the wonderful results many have experienced, it is no wonder that many holistic doctors and psychologists alike have started to use the blessing in their practices.

In the book Awakening Into Oneness, naturopathic doctor, Dr. Craig Wagstaff gives a first-hand account of giving the blessing to his patients, “When I give the Oneness Blessing, patients respond better to whatever else I am doing. If I am giving them supplements or a cleanse, doing acupuncture or whatever, if I give the blessing at the same time, the results are much better. The Blessing accelerates the body’s ability to heal itself. Many patients have an imbalance between the hormones that are responsible for the ‘get up and go’ and those that are responsible for shutting down and relaxing, digesting their food, having a good rest.
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Most of these people are wound a few notches too tight; their adrenal system is affecting their blood pressure, causing anxiety and insomnia. As to switch from alarm mode to a more balanced relaxed function. An unhealthy person is like an ill-tuned piano. The Oneness Blessing is working on a very high level to get the whole system in tune. The more in tune the body gets, the healthier it becomes.”

I myself experienced the blessing about 2-3 years ago. Like most people who have discovered it I will say that I didn’t find the blessing, it found me. I can only describe it as divine intervention that I came across a book about the Oneness movement at a friend’s house. At the time I was using drugs, smoking cigarettes, in and out of legal problems, and searching for answers in my life. After reading the book, I decided to check if there were any blessing givers in my area.

Much to my surprise I found several groups (meetup.com) where I could get the blessing. I attended 3-4 groups and didn’t really feel much at first, but intuitively just kept going back. Then one day, I was sitting at home, reading, when I felt a rush of energy surge through my body. My mind was suddenly silent, like the little voice that is constantly commentating on everything in my head just shut off. I experienced true silence and stillness for the first time. After that day my addiction to drugs just left me. It was like surgery had been done on my brain or the programming that was installed in my brains computer had fixed itself. I never had the overwhelming urge to go and use drugs ever again.

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Within about a year & half to two years of getting the Blessing my addiction to cigarettes went away as well. One day I was smoking, and the next day I had just quit, no cravings, no patches, or nicotine gums etc…The only way I can explain it is that my level of consciousness rose to such a level that things like drugs and cigarettes no longer resonated with my new vibration, therefore no willpower was involved. They just didn’t sound good to me anymore, and just like that, the urge to do either was completely gone.

Besides the outward physical effects, I will say I am a much calmer, peaceful person. I didn’t realize how much fear had a grip on me until it started to go away. I now find it easier to stay present, and not get “worked up” or stressed about life. It’s not that I am “healed” and life is perfect, but more that I see life in a different way. I am not as caught up in every single thought that passes through my brain, and am more able to go with the flow of events instead of trying to force things.

The most refreshing thing about the Oneness Blessing and the whole movement is they don’t claim to be “the” way, but rather “a” way that a person can experience the divine in their life. They don’t propose that one “should” do this and “shouldn’t” do that, but rather that when a person is rooted in their awareness they will only observe their thoughts and feelings without judging them, which will consequently make the feelings dissipate on their own. My personal experience with the blessing is that it has completely changed my life, and brought me to a state of being that I never knew existed previously, and for that I am forever grateful.

The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and What They Can Teach Us

Bonnie Walters is a palliative care nurse who spent many years caring for and counseling the dying in Australia. She took copious notes on what they had to say, and the following five regrets were the ones she heard mentioned the most.

Let’s analyze these five regrets of the dying, in descending order, and see how they might help us to live a more fulfilling life.

#5. I wish that I had let myself be happier

“It is very simple to be happy, but it is very difficult to be simple.” ~ Rabindranath TagorE

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Do you want to be happier? Appreciation is the key to the simplicity that Tagore discusses in the above quote. Compliment rather than complain (especially about yourself). Express gratitude rather than pity (especially self-pity). Human beings are habitual creatures. Habit offers us many benefits.

But it can just as easily make us prone to not fully register things that warrant careful engagement, like simplicity. One way to keep ourselves focused is through the artistic process.

Living a creative lifestyle has a way of peeling back our too-hard shells, thus saving us from our habitual disregard. It forces us to recover our compassion and our thoughtfulness exactly because it compels us to be more aware of the interconnectedness of all things.

Creative pursuits can help us to appreciate the little things, which can help us with the difficulty of being simple. Happiness is indeed a choice, but most of us forget how simple it is to choose it. This is usually because we’re caught up in the difficult rat-race of modern living.

#4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

“The truth is everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” ~ Bob Marley

At the end of the day, real wealth is not money but friendship. The poverty of western civilization is both psychological and spiritual. We are confused between codependence, independence, and interdependence.

We falsely believe that the money created from competitive, one-upmanship is real wealth. But placing too much emphasis on such things tends to destroy the wealth of friendships, either through weak codependence or aggressive independence.

Interdependent friendship, however, is true wealth. Understanding that we are social creatures who need each other is important. And finding someone else who understands this is a spiritual boon. Everything is connected. Interdependent friendships help us to see that, and suddenly, even when we’re alone we realize that we’re never really alone.

Like Albert Einstein said about his close friend, Besso, “My old friend, Besso, has departed from this strange world a little ahead of me. That means nothing. People like us…know that the distinction between past, present and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.”

#3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings

“The usefulness of the cup is its emptiness.” ~ Bruce Lee

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Suppression of feelings is a too common tragedy in our world today. Most people suppress their feelings out of fear. It’s usually a fear of upsetting someone, but too often it’s out of fear of some so-called authority or of being alienated from the status quo.

Screw the status quo. Question authority. The only way we evolve as a progressive healthy species is through people having the courage to express themselves.

Whether it’s through artistic expression, or whatever; if it needs to be said, say it. Suppressing your feelings may not just be personally regrettable but culturally regrettable as well.

Imagine if Martin Luther King Jr. didn’t have the courage to express his feelings, or Gandhi, or Thoreau, or Malcom X. In order to be useful you’ve got to get that stuff out. You have to empty the cup in order to fill it back up. Life happens, sure.

But in order to be something that happens to life, in order to discover meaning in this life, you’ve got to express yourself.

Like Nietzsche said, “To live is to suffer, and to survive is to find meaning in this suffering.” Meditate on the Throat Chakra.

#2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.” ~ Pablo Picasso

Don’t make the mistake of being unexceptionally ordinary. Life is too short to waste it grinding away at a job you don’t love, or going through the motions at a job you like but aren’t appreciated at. Don’t be an inglorious cog in the unsustainable clockwork of our times. Instead, find work that fulfills you and makes your heart sing.

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Find like-minded people, true interdependent friendship. Become an artist. The world is too grand a place not to be expressed artistically.

And nobody else can express themselves like you can. Travel more. The world is too big of a place not to be experienced first-hand. A life of drudgery is ridiculously overrated.

A life of leisure is vastly underrated. Don’t become a victim of cultural clichés. Instead, stay ahead of the culture by creating the culture. Work hard; just remember to play harder.

Somewhere between curious child and responsible adult we abandoned our sense of creative playfulness. It’s time we got it back. Having a sense of play transforms life into a sacred event, an immanent experience that alters the way in which the human soul interacts with the world.

Like Nietzsche wrote, “The struggle of maturity is to recover the seriousness of a child at play.”

#1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” ~ Rumi

Ask yourself: What do I really want to get out of life? What can I offer the world that no one else can? These questions have the potential to save your life. We’re all born into a cultural paradigm not of our choosing. That paradigm has an enormous amount of power and influence over the course our lives will take.

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But sometimes, in order to discover our authentic self and our true vocation, we have to break away from the cultural paradigm. We have to have the courage to put our foot down, to draw a line in the sand of cultural expectation, and simply say “no!”

A sacred no to the status quo is a sacred yes to our authentic self. Don’t wait until your deathbed to wish you had the courage to live a life true to yourself.

Act on it now, to hell with cultural expectation and the pithy platitudes of the status quo.  You’re your own person. Only you know what you want out of life. You have something to contribute to the world that no one else can contribute. It’s up to you to figure out what that contribution is.

So what if your family expected you to become a lawyer or a doctor. Become a painter or a photographer anyway. So what if your church wanted you to become a pastor. Become a poet or a novelist anyway. This is your life, not theirs.

Take their advice into consideration, but then do what you must do in order to discover your most authentic self. The future you will thank you.

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Ascension – A Caravan of Celebration!

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Our collective journey in stages … from darkness to light

These times are confusing. But our collective mission is a thunderous force that expands the comfort bubble we breathed in; a stretch more each day until it finally bursts with a gentle pop, when least expecting it.

“WE ARE HERE!”

Like the microscopic Whos from Who-ville, in the film ‘Horton Hears a Who!’ unite to scream out their existence – we too own our participation in the divine plan and claim our eagerness to grow into the higher realms.

While humanity has always known ascension; imprinting their wisdom throughout time and leaving so much of themselves for us to find – there is strength in numbers now, and it is time for a mass awakening.

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While ascension sounds heavy a word, inaccessible a portal, difficult a journey and a deal too good to be true, it is imperative to view it as a process; gradual, breakable into simple steps and demanding consistency of practice.

Every day, every moment, every step matters in the long run. Especially, since we are in this master shift together.

1) Overview of the Current Situation

We struggle to get rid of the veil, which we agreed to wear unquestioningly; perhaps mistaking it to be an adornment. We flaunted our rigidity; sometimes smugly, sometimes reluctantly and most times out of fear, each time behind a different mask; tradition, inheritance, culture, religion, genes, etc.

And only now have we begun to agree – we can vaguely see through the veil, and barely recognize each other in these masks.

2) Accepting the Situation

As we succeed in gradually unearthing the truth; buried deep under in a deathless grave of time, waiting to be reclaimed from the very place we are rooted in. It dawns upon us – we have been blinded, weighed down and suffocated for far too long. We have been sleeping for far too long.

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3) Recognizing the Gap

The haste of many ignored years piles up; as we get frantic in our unfolding, it keeps up with our step with no trouble. We begin to notice the disparity in what we were made to believe, and what resonates with who we are.

What we saw as favorable differs from what is designed to be fruitful; the chasm seems wide to cross.

4) Accepting Failure Gracefully

Like an overfed python that grew too fast; overjoyed at the eager and untrained owner’s failing efforts to domesticate it, the veil has extended to many folds; crashing heavily at our very own feet.

The wicked watchfulness of this crumpled coil threatens to weigh us down in a thud, while our very own Kundalini serpent – majestic but unruffled, can’t protect us – we didn’t allow it to.

5) Setting an Intent

Even when we are such stuff as dreams are made of, and “our little life is rounded with a sleep” like Shakespeare said in The Tempest – we still ought to wake up. There may be agony of being cheated, and irritation of wanting to separate our shadow before yesterday.

Our agitation openly lets out the amount of inner work needed, to being light enough to glide in the golden land – we are ready to do it anyway.

6) Giving ‘Faith’ due Credit

Suddenly, to match our determination, we hear the call – louder this time. The gates have been flung open and the battle has already been won. We wonder about crossing over gracefully; being greeted and embraced by light and love.

And we know, this time when the alarm refuses to go on snooze – it is time to wake up.

7) Strengthening the Intent

Whether we like it or not, find it comforting or not, we are going to notice these changes. It is important to decide if we want to be the change, be swept by it or be left by it. And if latter appeals, it makes sense to apply now.

8) Choosing NOW

We are the ones we have been waiting for

The morning sun shines promise upon us – We don’t have to be this way; afraid, sorry and in the dark – We have an alternative. (And having to regard, ‘The way of life’ as an alternative, tells us the intensity of the situation.)

Deciding to carry no old weight, wounds or worry, cutting all strings that tug us away from opening our present – We must now choose NOW! We are our Now.

As we continue this exciting journey, we recognize our collective mission is a celebratory caravan that keeps us moving towards an oasis of goodness. We pause to rejoice this knowing. We thank them for allowing us to be a part of this magical time.

No matter our down time or our detours – we have navigated to ‘here and now’ and will continue to do so.

And before we begin again, we ponder – “We are the ones we have been waiting for.”

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