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Is Your Nurturing Doing More Harm than Good?

Life

Pia

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February 14, 2016

Is Your Nurturing Doing More Harm than Good?

Every relationship, be it with your partner or children or any loved one, needs to be nurtured to create a strong connection or a bond between individuals. But when this nurturing comes without set boundaries, it acts as an obstacle on the path of development or experiencing life’s different situations.

Parenting

“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.” ~ Khalil Gibran

In regard to parenting, it’s essential to not do for them what they can do for themselves. If you think about it, as children we all have a very strong sense of independence. We want to walk without holding hands, we want to tie our own shoes, we want to fall and get back up on our own terms. The best kind of help puts the tools in the person’s hand so they can do the work for themselves instead of anyone else doing it for them.

When as a parent you over-function or over-nurture your child, he will invariably become lazy and take it for granted that things will always be done for him. This in the long run will result in helplessness.

He may assume people will always know what he wants the way his parents did, and therefore not develop the skill of communicating his needs. It may also result in manipulative tendencies where the child feigns helplessness, incapability or immaturity and avoid taking responsibilities.

In the event when your child has begun showing these tendencies you can:

Be loving but firm and confident
Explain patiently and rationally why the child needs to comply to certain responsibilities. An informed mind, is a growing mind.
Give only positive reinforcement and encourage good behavior
When an instruction has been given that is helpful for building independence, leave the room so that you aren’t at the risk of being talked into doing it for them.

“The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.” ~ Denis Waitley

By being afraid of stopping our child’s disruptive or manipulative behavior, we are failing to teach them about how some of their actions can be hurtful, non-compassionate or irresponsible. This will cause dissonance in perceiving how some behavior push people away and others help build connection.

Why we Over-nurture as Parents

It’s important to understand the source of our nurturing tendencies. For some it’s about correcting the wrongs of their childhood via their children. For example, a woman who grew up with a neglectful mother and father, could grow to start coddling her children and doing everything for them. In some ways this rescuer tendency is the effect of trying to heal her own childhood wounds externally through others. So in actuality, she is in need of attention and care.

In order to empathize with our child we may start doing things for them to lighten the struggle of growing up. In this case, we are unclear of where to draw the line: be too caring and hamper your child’s growth or become too strict and your child suffers.

Sometimes it can be because we’re playing the ‘martyr’, always needing to keep the ever-smiling, ever-caring, self-sacrificing image of ourselves alive both for others and for our own egos.

When a child is born to a person lacking healthy boundaries or who has abandonment trauma, it may result in stifling attachment to the child. In this case, the fear of displeasing the child translates to the parent as ‘I am not worthy’, ‘I am wrong for not giving into other people’s needs’. Here, the parent will compulsively try to please the child and since children are extremely perceptive, they start pushing their luck with how much they can get away with.

Among more reasons; parents simply may not be fully clear on what to expect out of children at different ages and what jobs to do and not to do for them. Perhaps, they do not want to come in conflict with their more lax partner or co-care giver or have a fear of being judged by other’s for being bad parents.

Whatever the reason, it’s of utmost importance to learn how we can love and nurture our child without taking away their opportunity for self-development, confidence and independence.

According to Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D., a family therapist and author of three books on family therapy, “After leaving home, these youngsters find themselves floundering in a world that bears little resemblance to the safe and nurturing environment of their family hearth. They have trouble having good relationships, deciding on career paths, and navigating the inevitable rough spots on the journey from the nest to adulthood. The sense of entitlement with which they grew up becomes more of a hindrance than a help.”

Over-Nurturing in Relationships

Over-nurturing can also lead to codependency in relationships with our spouse or loved ones, where we depend on our partner to feel a sense of wholeness. Our own insecurities are constantly at play, so we constantly do things for them, and if we don’t take a breather and really look at our mirrors we will always be projecting that sense of neediness onto our partners.

“Whenever you feel compelled to put others first at the expense of yourself, you are denying your own reality, your own identity.” ~ David Stafford

Before we decide to do things for others, we need to consider a few things:

Does the person we want to help, need it or are we pushing our own agenda?
Will the person we are helping be receptive to help in the first place?
Is the energy lending itself to a solution or feeding a problem?
What are the positive and negative effects of our nurturing?
Are we expecting something in return as a result of it?
Are we projecting our needy aspects onto them and trying to heal ourselves through them?
Are we empowering or disempowering them? Will it make them dependent or lazy?
We can also turn it around and look at it from a different perspective like: ‘I need their nurturing’, ‘I need my nurturing,’ and understand what it is about ourselves that needs attention and care and permit ourselves to meet our needs.

“We need to help people to discover the true meaning of love. Love is generally confused with dependence. Those of us who have grown in true love know that we can love only in proportion to our capacity for independence.” ~ Fred Rogers

When we can firmly say we have the right reasons for nurturing (not manipulative, projection, guilt, fear-based) and have healthy boundaries, we can set out to give it lovingly and in such a way that the person we are caring for feels free and more empowered because of it.

We’re all born with incredible reserves of strength and a grounding sense of self that is constantly blooming through the course of our lives. We owe it to ourselves to recognize and honor this strength within each of us.

To Help or Not to Help? (Helping Others) - Teal Swan

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How to Become Your Own Safe Place

Nikki Sapp

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February 13, 2016

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Nothing in life ever stays the same; jobs change, family dynamics change, relationships change, friendships change. We are constantly being thrown into new circumstances where we are forced to adjust to new surroundings.

Whether it be moving to a different part of the country where we know no one, or meeting our new boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s families for the first time, or starting a new job, we will find ourselves in situations where we will be out of our comfort zone, at least at first.

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Some people wake up out of their comfort zone and they are scared of life. They may be completely unsure of where their life is going or how they are going to pay their bills or even how to interact with people socially. We often hear people say, “find your safe place.”

And often we assume this is referring to finding a place we can call home or finding a network of friends and family that we feel comfortable enough to be around. But what if we could become our own safe place? What if nothing and no one could ever again trigger anxiety or stress because we have become so comfortable in our own skin that we are our own biggest protector and supporter?

In order to find this place within our own being that allows to feel safe and secure in almost every circumstance, we must adopt two basic beliefs about life and the universe that will help us raise our vibration which will draw out of us an inner confidence in our own being.

The universe is benevolent

“My heart is at ease knowing that what is meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me.” ~ Imam ash Shafi’i

The part of us that already knows everything, why we are here, who we really are beyond this life, therefore it always is leading us to situations and circumstances that are the very catalysts for our conscious evolution. Since it is always leading us into circumstances that are for our benefit, we can be rest assured that we are never in the “wrong place at the wrong time.”

Every decision we make is “right”, every friendship and relationship we attract is the right one, every job we lose or gain is all perfectly orchestrated by a higher intelligence that has our best interest at heart.

This does not mean we will never feel pain, or loss or heartbreak, but what it does mean is that all situations that draw out of us these exact emotions are only helping us to unravel belief systems or unhealed emotions that we were still holding on to.

In essence, every time we are brought to another tough situation or adversity, we can be assured that we have only been brought to it because we are safe enough and ready to confront these emotions and belief systems head on.

When we think of the universe in terms of a reward and punishment system we believe that there are things happening to us that either shouldn’t be there or that we could have prevented if we could have just “done better”.

However, when we think of the universe as an unconditionally loving guidance system that only leads us into the next phases of internal growth by bringing us to situations that challenge us to believe in our own self regardless of what the external reality looks like, we see that we are never without a safety net.

You are the most powerful being in the universe (even if it feels like you aren’t)

When we’ve handed our power over to something, we will always feel unsafe when that thing pops up. And coincidentally enough, whatever or whoever we have handed our power over to will seem to constantly come into our lives and threaten our happiness until we finally realize that fear, darkness, negativity, (whatever you want to call it) actually has no power over you unless you have assigned it power.

Reality is being created through us, meaning there is no one set in stone reality that we are all living in, but rather we are all our own tiny universe attracting all of the things that we have given power to, only to keep showing us that we in fact are the ones that hold the power.

For example, let’s say someone has given insecurity power in their life. They will continuously find themselves in situations in which they feel insecure, until they finally realize that the big bad wolf of insecurity is only showing up so that we may be the awareness that reveals how powerless it really is.

There is a reason people say, “If it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger.” Think of the last time your insecurity killed someone, or fear of abandonment or fear of being vulnerable.

The very fact that we are able to face these things and come out on the other side only reveals to us how powerful we really are. They are only showing up in our reality to beg for the unconditional love that only our higher wisdom and hearts can give it.

When emotions such as these are faced head on, felt, and offered love they no longer are a threat, meaning they have nothing more to teach us. And when something has nothing to teach us, we can be assured that it will have no reason to show up in our lives.

“The best gift you are ever going to give someone-permission to feel safe in their own skin, to feel worthy- to feel like they are enough.” ~ Hannah Brencher

We are all meant to be warriors in one way or another. We are here to face adversity and challenges and pain and to come out on the other side victorious. Every victory against our own perceived “enemy”, actually begins to make us more forgiving, more loving and more compassionate for all others who have still yet to find safety in their own being. The safety we carry around with us in our own hearts becomes the very gift that we give to the world.

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Tapping Away Distress with Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

Life

Ester Eckhaus

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February 13, 2016

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Tapping Away Distress with Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

Our emotions and our physical body seem to be paradoxical partners. Though we know they live alongside each other, we are not always aware of their intrinsic connection.

But, while watching our emotions we will notice bodily behaviours, such as change in breath, tensing of muscles, rushing of blood, etc, that prove the interconnectedness of the body and emotional world. So what would happen if they worked together? What if we could heal one by healing the other?

The body and emotions are sometimes connected to their own detriment; when a person holds anger, guilt, or sadness inside for too long it causes many health problems. So what if, instead of going to a doctor or taking pills, we worked from the inside out and healed our emotions?

The Chinese discovered long ago that the body contains complex circuits of energy that move through the body. These energy circuits, called the meridians, are the founding blocks of acupuncture, acupressure, and many other healing techniques used today.

What the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping technique does is focuses and stimulates certain meridian points on the body by tapping on them with our fingertips. The result is a miraculous shift in emotions, and consequently in body and spirit.

EFT works on both the emotional and physical plane, being a highly constructive technique for both physical ailments such as soreness, chronic pains, high blood pressure, etc; or emotional state such as depression, guilt, or anxiety.

A study examining the effects of EFT therapy in veterans with PTSD symptoms as compared to a group receiving standard mental health care, showed improvement in veterans receiving the EFT treatment after 6 sessions, resulting in 90% of the group no longer meeting PTSD clinical criteria; compared to the 4% in the standardized group.

These results are consistent with other studies that tested the effectiveness (along with the long-term effectiveness) of EFT treatment.

Other studies demonstrate how EFT can improve the health of people with a history of trauma in a very short amount of time –

How to do EFT?

This technique can be done by anyone, anywhere, and has therapeutic results for many. The technique is specific but can be done at any time, and for however long you want or need.

While traditional therapy can cost a lot, and works over a longer amount of time, EFT tapping can lead to peace of mind and improved health, in a shorter span of time. And as opposed to traditional therapy, what EFT does is empowers the patient to heal themselves.

A patient once lamented to her EFT coach that she regrets not being able to be there for herself at an earlier time, as she was learning to do at that present time. She wished she had these healing tools back when she was in a fragile or anxious state.

The coach responded that there is no time and space; as you heal in the present, you are healing your past, present, and future.

EFT step one:

Focus on the emotion or issue that you wish to work with; this can also be a goal you wish to achieve. Set one goal at a time as not to combine issues. Set your aim such as: the shame my mother made me feel, reaching my full potential in a (specific) activity, the fear I have of snakes, the anger I feel toward…etc.

You can also specify a physical ache or pain you wish to diminish, such as a sore body part or a chronic pain.

EFT step two:

Test the emotion. Set a number from 1-10 on how intense the issue stands before working on it. This allows you to compare the before and after effects. If a problem is marked with an 8 before hand and goes down to a 4 later on, then you know you have improved by 50%, and still have 50% left to work on.

For emotional work, bring up the emotion or memory in order to assess its intensity and discomfort.
For physical pains, merely focus on the discomfort in the body.
For goals in performance, set a specific goal which you’d like to achieve. For example: Hitting a difficult note.

EFT step three:

Acknowledge and accept. This step consists of a phrase that both acknowledges your issue, and accepts yourself in spite of it. This phrase is to be said as you are tapping, to keep the aim in continuous motion and attention.

The phrase is as such:
“Even though I have this _______, I deeply and completely (love and) accept myself.”

For example:
“Even though I have this fear of spiders, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I have this shame, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Etc.

Feel free to change the structure to fit your experience, such as instead of saying, “Even though I have this humiliation from my mother…” you can just as well say, “Even though I was/felt humiliated by my mother…” etc.

EFT step four:

Tapping is generally done with tips of your fingers (index and middle finger). For wider areas, like the top of the head, the collarbone and under the arm, four fingers are used. On sensitive areas, like around the eyes, you can use just two.

Tapping starts at the top of the body and works its way down, balancing and stimulating the body’s energy pathways. Below see the diagram of the energy points. Now tap away, using a firm but gentle pressure.

Order of tapping points, from top to bottom:

Karate Chop (KC)
Top of the Head (TOH)
Beginning of the Eyebrow (EB)
Side of the Eye (SE)
Under the Eye (UE)
Under the Nose (UN)
Chin Point (CH)
Beginning of the Collarbone (CB)
Under the Arm (UA)

When through with the tapping cycle, sit within yourself and assess your symptom again. The tapping does not have to completely eradicate the problem, but lessen it bit by bit until resolved within yourself.

EFT tapping has an amazing effect on many people, both emotionally and physically, and works to move the stuck energy throughout us. A few minutes can diminish the effects of emotional trauma and add replenished movement to a person’s journey.

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This is Your Brain in Love – Understanding the Neurochemistry of Love & Attraction

Life

Pia

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February 11, 2016

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This is Your Brain in Love – Understanding the Neurochemistry of Love & Attraction

We have endlessly searched the nooks and crannies of our hearts and minds to conjure up some semblance of understanding to define love and longing. Shrouded in enigma yet simpler than breathing, we have spent lifetimes living and dying for this feeling.

What happens to our brains, to our bodies when we’re in love and lust? When we understand this, we can start to make the connection to its effect on our emotional selves and vice versa.

Helen Fisher, a researcher on love, lust and attachment, put people who were madly in love into an MRI scanner and studied their brains.

She found that when showed a picture of their loved one, their brains reacted as if they had just taken cocaine. Their heart rates increased, breath quickened and body perspired. What that also means is, there was an instant spike in dopamine and oxytocin levels. She further talks about three specific brain systems and their evolutionary purposes:

The sex drive, responsible for sexual attraction, that occurs for more than one person is basically, spreading the seed if you will to as many partners as possible to ensure survival of the species.

The second is romantic love. This is the elation we feel with early love, blossoming romance. This enables focus on just one person, the best possible option to mate with.

The last is attachment. This means long term intimacy and nurturing. Biologically, to raise a family together. These can all go together and sometimes they don’t, and in matters of romance they most definitely do get confused! We can feel wholly attached to one person while feeling romantic toward another while fantasizing about even more. This is why:

The Chemistry of Love and Attraction

“Anyone who is in love is making love the whole time, even when they’re not. When two bodies meet, it is just the cup overflowing. They can stay together for hours, even days. They begin the dance one day and finish it the next, or–such is the pleasure they experience–they may never finish it. No eleven minutes for them.” ~ Paulo Coelho, Eleven Minutes

Dopamine, our internal thrill receptor goes up every time we encounter a new and interesting person, situation, drug or sexual experience.

We experience rising heart rate, shortness of breath and our bodies begin to flush. Usually it is quickly followed by adrenaline rush. The novelty of the situation sends our inner reward system ringing and we are absolutely addicted to the object of our desire.

Dopamine is also sent rushing out during the time of orgasm. This is why ‘casual’ sex can leave people longing to be physically united with each other again.

A phenomenon that has been studied and noted by many poets through time, is that the craving for dopamine rush becomes stronger the further away you are from getting it. So the less you have the more you want, the more you get the less you want.

Just like a drug, you can suffer withdrawals and it can be very hard to extricate yourself from the rush associated with the individual. You may feel dejected, unmotivated, pained and unsatisfied.

Dopamine in a sense, is disguised as love and can make you very well believe you’ve truly connected or belong to someone, even when you don’t know much about them and possibly have very little in common with.

When the feeling isn’t reciprocated or very short-lived, we end up feeling absolutely destroyed, like the ground beneath our feet has been ripped out. It’s the feeling so many artists through the ages have illustrated endlessly.

Oxytocin, as opposed to dopamine is a feeling of attachment. It comes with a more sustained and calm longing. Literally, it is the intimacy we feel (or think we feel) after connecting on several levels.

It’s in the knowing that you share the same favorite books and movies with somebody, have the same humor and receive familiar hugs from them.

Oxytocin helps us feel truly understood, cared for and loved. It’s released not only after the dopamine from an orgasm, but from simple hugs and gestures of comfort and compassion.

Its level increases when a couple has a baby together. They feel more loving toward each other as they begin to get into raising a family.

It is based on trust, eases us into relationships as opposed to the violent mood-swings of a dopamine induced rush. This would naturally indicate that for long term well-being, oxytocin is a necessity.

However, since it usually comes after dopamine (during orgasm), just like dopamine it can also create a sort of fake connection feeling. Naturally, this would wear out much sooner than a genuine oxytocin build.

Serotonin is a mood-stabilizing neurotransmitter. When you’re feel like everything is under control and well balanced and calm, that’s serotonin at work. It’s secreted when you feel or think you are significant, confident and capable.

The lack of it is prominently found in people with depression, social anxiety and feelings of loneliness. What is interesting is, when levels are high, a lower libido is witnessed.

The sex-drive is sort of calmed by this fascinating biochemical. One key facet of serotonin is that it gets re-activated with just the memory of a happy event. This is why practicing gratitude gives us such a great sense of well-being.

On the other hand, similarly to Oxytocin, it’s been associated with feelings of love. It’s recorded to be higher in females than males; dopamine being higher in males than females.

This could possibly explain why on an average, women are more focused on bonding aspects of sex as opposed to men. Since time immemorial, women have been nurturers, providing the emotional stability that’s so important for their infants and partners.

Men have been dedicated to providing the practical, physical nourishment needed for survival and physical well-being. Therein lies balance and although we perceive men and women to be so achingly dissimilar, each spoke in the wheel keeps it turning, each is interconnected.

MRI scan shows those who were currently in love have the most activity in certain regions of the brain when compared to the other two groups.

Sex is possibly the greatest expression of love and union in existence. When we make that union, we invite someone to combine our energy fields with. Every exchange no matter how small or big, changes us and all our intentions towards others are noted down energetically and eventually manifest physically.

Often, we let in energies that don’t suit us, we bond with them through this most sacred exchange as if it were as mundane as passing the salt.

We race to orgasm to let the familiar feel of neuro chemicals flood us. The next day we wake up with a sexual hangover. We are tired, unsatisfied, feel unloved, alone and still incomplete.

Choosing the right person to be honored by and to honor through this cosmic union is imperative. We need to know them, connect with them on several other levels and let our instincts tell us what where to take it.

Usually we know before making love whether we have made a connection with someone or not. Trust is built and so when we do get together with them, we feel the safe, secure and loved.

The Cosmic Climax

Barbara Marciniak in her book Bringers of the Dawn writes, “The orgasm has been distorted from its original purpose. Your body has forgotten the cosmic orgasm of which it is capable because society has taught you for thousands and thousands of years that sexuality is bad.

You have been taught this in order for you to be controlled and to keep you from seeking the freedom available through sexuality. Sexuality connects you with a frequency of ecstasy, which connects you back to your divine source and to information.”

According to Marciniak, orgasm is a doorway to our multidimensional selves. Making love to someone is literally like saying you accept them as you. It does not matter how conscious you are of this, it is still the ultimate oneness.

If you have not been kind, loving and gentle with yourself, chances are you will attract a partner that is reflective of that. We are constantly being mirrored the unhealed aspects of ourselves. It is only a call for us to love ourselves better.

So if and when we have that sexual hangover, it’s important to confront the question “did that make me feel loved” and if not, “what can I do to love myself better?”

We may find ourselves in a period of static sexuality where we spend a greater time alone while we try to wrap our heads around the whats and whys of these unhealed aspects.

This occurs so we can start to make sense of all the information we’ve begun to receive and re-align with our newly realized wants, needs and decisions.

Finding Love Within Yourself

When we start to feel whole within ourselves, when we stop looking outwards for love, approval and empathy, the process of self-completion and fulfillment begins. Once this is set into practice, the partner or partners we will attract will be a match to that same love.

We will feel the same rise of neurochemicals, but this time they will be founded on better terms, ones that serve our expansion and propel us into even deeper states of love and unity.

It does not matter the gender, creed, or even the type of relationship (monogamy, polyamory etc.) or it’s duration, for we will be resonating what’s only in our best interest. The intimacy and love we have for ourselves will set the standard for all we let into our lives!

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Oleg Korolev – Eternal Love
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Scientists study the effect of love on the brain
Android Jones – Electric Love

Drunken Monkey, Laughing Dragon: Behold, the Year of the Fire Monkey

Life

Gary Z McGee

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February 11, 2016

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Drunken Monkey, Laughing Dragon: Behold, the Year of the Fire Monkey

“Life is a repeated cycle of getting lost and then finding yourself again. There are many smaller cycles within that cycle where you get lost to a smaller degree and then remember yourself again. Sometimes you do it to yourself on purpose, consciously or unconsciously. Every time you get lost it is so that you can learn something or experience something from a different perspective.” ~ Jay Woodman

“Love your circus; love your monkeys.” ~ Trickster proverb

The sheep of 2015 has been sheared; its white fur replaced with black. The monkey of 2016 is rising up with a dragon’s heart, a heart of fire. How do you think the sheep’s fur turned black in the first place? It was promptly burnt by the roiling fire-laughter of the mighty monkey.

What is the fire monkey’s revelation? Purification by fire. He is a symbolic, if not archetypal, reminder to stay flexible, agile, and to expect the unexpected. Best not to look down at the flames of change. That’s too daunting. Best to leap from moment to moment using your intuition while maintaining a flexible disposition and a playful sense of humor.

It’s time to get down with some epic horseplay. Fire monkey energy is like carrying a hot coal through a harsh blizzard. You’re going to have to get creative to juggle it. Your imagination will be tested if you attempt to tap into it. But I suggest you do. For this energy is sacred in its cleansing. It’s a trial by fire and humor, and it’s worth it, because it reconciles as it reconditions, it topples thrones as it builds stepping stones. The fire monkey is a walking, talking, laughing crucible cooking Truth like it was an egg on a hot tarmac.

He is sojourn & pseudo, inverse & contrarian. His pockets are full of Coyote’s trickster tactics (yes, he wears pants: red corduroy, to be exact). He has gone through so many rabbit holes, his cognitive dissonance has cognitive dissonance. He’s gone through so many wormholes, his déjà vu has déjà vu. He’s cartwheeling on a crow’s wing, usurping summits and flattening mountaintops. He’s gutter & howl, cutter & caw.

His red tail is whiplash. Your spilled milk, he already licked up. He will cause you to trip over your past and fall face-first into the present, laughing the entire time. He stands foxtrot true to fever, blood, fire-berry, and blush.

He’s drunk on the blood of Christ you mistook for wine. He skips through all fast-track claptrap, because everything is red. Everything is on fire. Even the black sheep are blood-black, bleating indifferently through the static.

His jaw is hinged like a dragon’s, like his heart pumping fire and fury into laughter and high humor. He’s pillory & acid, dissolving the past into compost for the future. He reeks of blood & Zen. He doesn’t care about your delicate sensibilities. He will use them in his puppet mastery, his all-the-world-is-a-stage song and dance.

He’s there, in the Theater of the Absurd, dancing a jig. He wants you to join him, if you dare. But beware, such dancing is not for the faint of heart. There will be fury. There will be passion and pain. There will be hunger and fever. There will be doubt and fear. Old beginnings will end. New endings will begin. All will be recycled through this feverish dancing through the flames.

He rides on the fiery back of the Phoenix. He flies over Pandora’s Box, dropping love bombs like seeds. He’s a target for your arrow to miss. He’s bludgeon & blitzkrieg, a stone thrown in a glass house. He’s swinging through the blue guts of God. He’s already plucked out God’s left femur, polished it, poked holes in it, and played it like a flute.

Now he’s playing the ulna-radius of God’s arm like a violin, while using God’s skull as a drum. Through cacophonous thunderclaps, he’s tempting the world to the quick. The world is trying to catch up, but he’s too damn quick. The best we can do is skip through his wake, relishing the sacred residue of renewal and rebirth.

Fire monkey is Armageddon-happy as he cartwheels through the Trickster Apocalypse. The Middle Way is near and he’s owning up to it. He’s the laughter in the whirlwind, a beautiful annihilation. He’s the fire in the Tao, the third side of the yin-yang. He is psychosocial, societal-gangrene –a terrible juxtaposition. But the world is his. It’s in his lion-red hands. He’s eclipsing outdated memes. The blood moon in the sky is the punched eye of the old God. He is arrogance in decadence. He is staccato & dissonance, conceit & forfeit. He is Moot, shooting himself in the daredevil foot, in order to show you that “the way” that can be named is never The Way.

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12 Monkeys
Triple yin-yang

Fractal Enlightenment

Is Your Nurturing Doing More Harm than Good?

Parenting

Why we Over-nurture as Parents

Over-Nurturing in Relationships

How to Become Your Own Safe Place

The universe is benevolent

You are the most powerful being in the universe (even if it feels like you aren’t)

Tapping Away Distress with Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

Other studies demonstrate how EFT can improve the health of people with a history of trauma in a very short amount of time –

How to do EFT?

EFT step one:

EFT step two:

EFT step three:

EFT step four:

Order of tapping points, from top to bottom:

This is Your Brain in Love – Understanding the Neurochemistry of Love & Attraction

The Chemistry of Love and Attraction

The Cosmic Climax

Finding Love Within Yourself

Drunken Monkey, Laughing Dragon: Behold, the Year of the Fire Monkey

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