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Transcending Personality: How to Become a ‘Nobody’

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November 26, 2014

Transcending Personality: How to Become a ‘Nobody’

“Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth” ~ Alan Watts

Personality is defined as, “The set of emotional qualities, ways of behaving, etc., that makes a person different from other people; attractive qualities that make something unusual or interesting,” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary).

In theory this sounds great… right up our ego’s alley. To have qualities or behaviors that make us UNIQUE, DISTINGUISHABLE, and DIFFERENT from other people sounds like the perfect recipe to reinforce our separateness from others.

But is our personality who we really are? And who or what decides what our “personality” is? Since our perspective of ourselves may be vastly different than another person’s perspective of us, who would be the correct one if we were trying to define our specific “personality”?

One of the main properties of our ego is a craving for significance and a desire to be different than another. This craving can be manifested in any number of ways.

It can be in the adjectives we use to describe ourselves, “I am a deep-thinker, they are shallow” “I am kind and warm-hearted person, they are callous and cold” or “I am assertive, and aggressive, they are passive and weak” are all concepts we have in our minds about who we are. It can also manifest in the way we behave.

For instance, in any given situation or circumstance instead of responding with our natural instinct, we may find ourselves visiting our inner rolodex of “ways that are acceptable to respond based on who I ‘am’ (or who I think I am).”

In these instances we may find ourselves reacting in the same ways over and over to the same types of situations in our outer reality because we have limited ourselves to available options that coincide with our individual “personality.”

However, when we start to exist solely in these concepts of who we are and are attached to defining ourselves and others we may be limiting who we can become and consequently limit ourselves from being able to see other people for what they truly are… nobody.

In order to resonate in our own nobody-ness and start to see the nobody-ness in others we must first rise above our thought of who we were and what we thought has made us so different than others. But is that possible? Is it possible to transcend personality?

“We are alive in the present moment, the only moment there is for us to be alive.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Personality can only really come from an attachment to an idea. We may have an idealized version of who we would like to be, or who would like the world to see us as in our heads that we begin to reinforce to ourselves over and over that this is who we are. Also, we may have picked up bits and pieces from what other people have said about us and attached ourselves to those labels as well.

For example, if enough people have told us that we are funny, we most likely will start to believe we are funny. Or if enough people have told us we are not funny, we may attach ourselves to that notion as well. However, all of these concepts depend on memory in order to survive.

We remember how we acted in a certain situation, we remember who we decided we wanted to be and are now acting in accordance with those beliefs, or we remember what someone said we were and are now behaving in accordance with the way a particular person chose to define us.

By choosing to be and act how we’ve always acted we remain a prisoner of the past. But in the present moment personality cannot exist, only being can.

Because personality is based in concepts and attachment to ideas, the minute we begin to explain our personality or ponder how we should react to something, based on how we were in the past, or how we want others to see us, we are immediately transported out of the present moment and into our own minds’ perspective of the present moment.

Yes, things like anger or sadness or rage can exist in the present moment. They can be experienced and felt and just as soon as they come they can also go. And we may have felt the emotion of anger 20 times in one day, but it doesn’t necessarily mean we ARE an angry person, all it means is we felt anger.

We felt it, and then it left us, but it has nothing to do with who we actually ARE. The less we try to define our personality we will then allow ourselves to be whatever pops up in that moment. We may experience sadness, or joy, or pure rage, but we will not attach ourselves to any of it, nor will we let it define who we are.

When we do this, we realize that other people we deal with are also not their personality, but just mere presence. They may experience outbursts of depression or anger but just like our own emotions are not who we are, but merely a sentiment that we felt in a particular moment, neither are theirs.

“Only those who are ready to become nobodies are able to love.” ~ Osho

Become a “nobody.” Recognize that everyone you meet is a “nobody.” Let the spontaneous combustion of human emotions and feelings come naturally and experience them fully without attaching yourself to the qualities so much that you start to believe that you ARE them.

Sometimes you may feel generous and kind, and sometimes you will feel jealous and envious, but it is not your job to judge the emotions themselves, only to completely surrender to them.

In this “experiencing” of the energy of emotions rather than the judging of the emotions we will find that we are not our qualities, characteristics and attributes.

We are only the presence that exists in the present moment… which is really nothing and nobody, and so is everyone else we meet. In our complete un-attachment to personality and complete anchoring in the presence, only one thing can emerge… love.

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Transcending the Dependency Paradigm

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Gary Z McGee

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November 26, 2014

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“Empty your mind. Be formless, shapeless –like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” ~ Bruce Lee

I’ve written articles about kicking open the third eye, about becoming a better god, and about who we really are. But maybe that was inadvertently putting the cart before the horse. Maybe the horse of our nirvana just keeps slamming into the back of the cart of our disillusionment over and over.

Maybe by getting down to the basic nature of our relationships –with ourselves, with others, and with the system– we can help ourselves get the horse back in front of the cart so we can continue down the twisting, unpredictable, ever-changing and uncertain path toward enlightenment. Or maybe not.

Either way, in this article we’re going to break down the dependency paradigm in order to see if we can get the horse/cart equation to balance out.

Codependency

“Cease being ignorant of what you are most assured, your glassy essence, and you will cease to be an angry ape playing such fantastic tricks before high heaven as make the angels weep” ~ Shakespeare

Most of us grew up in a codependent culture. Most of us were born into a dysfunctional relationship with an unhealthy system, a relationship where the system supports and enables our addictions, our poor mental health, our immaturity, our irresponsibility, our under-achievement, and our inability to form healthy relationships.

We have a predisposition, due to cultural conditioning, to become codependent enablers who are crippled into a state of denial, low self-esteem and excessive compliance.

We’ve been locked into control patterns set up by an unhealthy system of human governance that keeps the powerful in power and the powerless out of power. It works wonderfully well for a select few, but horribly for the greater majority.

When an individual is locked into a codependent relationship, regardless of which side of the codependent relationship they’re on, there is no true sense of self, except in a dysfunctional, narcissistic way.

The “individual” is concerned only with the almighty image. There is an artificial and surface sense of self, but there is no authentic sense of self. We’re like a billion Narcissists spellbound by our own image, unaware that it’s all an illusion. Everything is hurried. Everything is fleeting. Everything is haphazard and aimless.

In a codependent state we are set adrift upon unsustainable and poisonous waters, but we’re all too distracted by the flashy goings-on and the false-fire flamboyance of our preconditioned state to realize that anything is wrong, or how precarious our position really is.

It’s a catch-22 of monumental proportions. We’re like small-picture thinking horses with blinders on; only the blinders are mirrors mirroring “it’s just the way things are” back at us. And before we know it, we’re stuck.

There seems to be no way out. We’re damned if we do and we’re damned if we don’t, spinning through spoon-fed lives based on an abstraction of an abstraction. We’re caught in the double-bind of survival (paying bills and putting food on our children’s plates) and peer pressure (just getting through the day without being harassed).

We come to realize that in order to get healthy, in order to get to a place where we can just breathe and take account of our lives and become present with our reality, we’re going to have to become an individual who has the courage to flip the world on its head.

Independence

“This ceaseless change does not mean discontinuity as a person; rather change is itself the very basis of our continuity as a person. It is because I cannot see what you see that I can see at all.” ~ James P. Carse

Between unity and multiplicity there is the individual, dangerously jutting out from the herd, black fur prominent like the black dot on the yang side of a yin-yang. These people are independent, self-empowered, and courageously alone against the grandiosity of the greater universe.

They stick out like sore thumbs, but they are only “sore” because they get things done. They alone have the courage it takes to break the cycle, to be the link that separates itself from the dysfunctional chain of codependency.

They alone have the courage to recondition the precondition, and take personal responsibility for the course (healthy or unhealthy) their lives have taken. They dare to stare peer pressure in the face by not agreeing with the common cliché, “it’s just the way things are.”

And they have the audacity to turn the tables on authority and disobey, because they have become their own authority, the rest of the world be damned.

Independence, simply put, is freedom from dependence. When we are independent we are exempt from reliance on, or control by others, and we are finally able to be honest with ourselves. We become exempt from the chain of codependency and we become personally responsible for our power. We become tiny Davids in a Goliath world.

In an unhealthy, unsustainable system, only independent individuals have the capacity to understand if their way of living is healthy and sustainable or not. Codependent people cannot properly assess their living situation as healthy or sustainable because they are too caught up in the throes of being dependent to see straight.

But, and here’s the rub, there is no such thing as being independent. It too was all an illusion. It was a great way to get some clarity in an unclear world. It was a necessary step to take in order to get to a place where we could honestly assess our situation and finally breathe.

It was a courageous leap, an audacious climb out of the brambles of codependency. But the truth of the matter is that everything is connected. In order to truly achieve an authentic sense of self, we must be able to let go of our independence just as courageously as we let go of our codependency.

Like before, we’re going to have to become an individual who has the courage to flip the world on its head.

Interdependence

“If the individual realizes his self by spontaneous activity and thus relates himself to the world, he ceases to be an isolated atom; he and the world become part of one structuralized whole; he has his rightful place, and thereby his doubt concerning himself and the meaning of life disappears.” ~ Erich Fromm

All around us, branching out in all directions through the fabric of the cosmos, there is a glorious web that stretches out infinitely in all directions known as Indra’s Net.

Suspended from this web of eternal gossamer, are infinite glittering dewdrops, each with an “eye” that sees and mirrors all the other dewdrops ad infinitum. They glitter like stars in a galaxy. They glimmer like neurons in a brain.

If we were to arbitrarily select one of these dewdrops for inspection and look closely at it, we would discover that in its polished surface there are reflected all the other dewdrops on the web.

Within each “single” dewdrop, there is an infinite reflecting process occurring. Indeed, there is an interpenetration occurring (and reoccurring) that connects the matrix of reality into an interdependent, coalescent whole.

We are like these dewdrops. Alone, we are just a dewdrop. But everything implies everything else, so within us is reflected the web and every other dewdrop. There’s no such thing as a single event, or a single atom, or a single electron. Everything is connected. There cannot be a “you” without a universe to contrast “you” against.

Just like there cannot be In without Out, or wave without trough. Just like there cannot be a dewdrop on Indra’s Net without the net. We are all king and commoner. We are all both Individual and World.

Perceptually, everything has a beginning and an end, but actually, everything is both beginning and ending all at the same “time.” Or there is no beginning and end; there is only the Eternal Now. Like Richard Feynman powerfully said, “I: a universe of atoms, an atom in the universe.”

Interdependence is freedom from the tyranny of freedom, an eco-psychosocial melting of sorts. Where everything is allowed to be perfectly imperfect, and the permanence of impermanence is the only constant, and change is the only rule.

Our independence becomes merely a shadow of our individuation. Our codependent past becomes merely an abstraction of an abstraction, a shadow on Plato’s Cave. By reconnecting with the cosmos, by embracing our interdependence, we have not only freed ourselves from the burden of slavery, we have also freed ourselves from the burden of freedom.

The world suddenly goes from being a thing that needs to be conquered to a thing that needs to be surrendered to. Indeed, it is when we embrace our interdependence for the first time that we discover, as Alan Watts did, that we’re no longer victims of the world, we are the world.

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6 Common Dreams and their Interpretation

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Sonali Bansal

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November 24, 2014

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6 Common Dreams and their Interpretation

Carl Jung was convinced about dreams being symbolical representation of one’s unconscious mind & future indications. In his books on Dream analogy he stated dreams to be, “a spontaneous self-portrayal, in symbolic form, of actual situations in the unconscious”.

To the untrained mind, they may appear to be mere illusions or impressions from mundane life, but to a trained mind, dreams are a mental state with an arrangement of pattern.

Dreams, the language our mind adopts to communicate with us. But based on our intuition and the ego, we can actually decipher & understand this hidden language of symbols, images and sensations. The average person has three to five dreams per night, but some may have up to seven dreams in one night.

According to Jung, dreams serve two purposes – the first is the ‘compensatory’ purpose, which “add to the conscious psychological situation of the moment all those aspects which are essential for a totally different point of view.”

Here the dreamer has dreams that balance his psyche & conscious self, as in waking life the conscious mind suppresses or overlook certain superfluous contents like feelings, thoughts, emotions, etc. In order to create a harmony, the dreamer will release these suppressed emotions by way of dreams. These dreams are highly symbolic and if understood, one can look into the avoided topics and solve them consciously.

The second function of dreams is to bring forth future messages or indications, what Jung calls a “prospective function.”

Although this function is not easy to tap, dreams do indicate the future possibilities or warnings from the intuitive self of what might unfold. Highly attuned souls can have regular insights to future in their dreams, often referred to as premonitions.

Here’s an article on two ways to interpret your dreams Jung style!

Dreams can be of multiple types, but these visions can be recurrent in nature too. With every dream having a meaning & something to say, some common dreams and their interpretations are as follows:

Falling/Drowning Dreams

Dreaming of falling is one of the most common form of dream themes. This suggests a lack of control in life, insecurity, low confidence, fear of failing or instability, either in one’s personal life or work space.

According to Sigmund Freud, dreams of falling indicate that the dreamer is contemplating giving in to a sexual urge or impulse, and lacks indiscretion. Falling dreams typically occur during the first stage of sleep. Examine your waking life and look for parallels in your dream, this can help you bring your unconscious perceptions into your conscious awareness.

Naked Dreams

Another common dream experienced by many is naked dreams. You might find yourself either partially or completely naked in a public situation where you would normally be clothed. Dreaming of being naked symbolizes your feelings of vulnerability and exposure. Metaphorically, clothes are a way of concealing or taking up a different identity to mask who we are inside, but without them, you are completely defenceless.

It may be telling you that you are trying to be something you are not, or you are fearful of being ridiculed and disgraced. Maybe it is a new job you are applying for, or a new relationship, your anxieties are magnified in such dreams. Shed off the mask and embrace the real you!

Missing or losing a tooth

Typically, this kind of dream includes crumbling teeth, losing teeth one by one, missing one tooth, rotting of teeth and growing crooked. While this kind can have multiple meanings, teeth dreams are most common during transition phases in one’s life, like women going through menopause.

Teeth symbolize power, beauty & overall confidence. Falling of teeth may indicate you are feeling powerless or anxious in a situation & you want to take control but are unable to do so.

Also, if during the dream one is unable to communicate, it may indicate an issue in expressing oneself. In Chinese lore, if someone loses their teeth in a dream, its believed to be a punishment for lying, and in Greek culture it indicates that a family member or close friend is sick or even near death.

Chasing Dreams

Originating from the feeling of anxiety & stress, one of the most relatable meanings of chasing dreams is when the dreamer is putting at bay a vital issue that needs attention in waking life. When one refuses to acknowledge other’s point or have a habit of running away from their own situations, they face such dreams. It could be so, that you might be chasing yourself in the dream, which suggests a habit of self negation or self contempt.

A natural fear which is suppressed in waking life is brought forth by the mind in the dream state. But if you are the chaser, it might mean an ardent desire to achieve something or sort out a situation in life. An important thing to ask yourself is what are you running from? Confront your innermost fears and anxieties in life and connect with your true self.

Death Dreams

These dreams can cause a feeling of panic & shock, but as every other dream, they too hold a symbolic representation and should not be taken at face value.

Death dreams can mean that you are entering or exiting an uncertain phase in your life. Such dreams are about change, and for change to happen, we need to end old behaviour/attitudes, old ways of being or old beliefs and make way for new things to enter your life.

If you are dreaming of your own death or a death of a loved one, it just means that there is some part of you or that relationship that needs immediate attention or you are harbouring feelings of anger, resentment, jealousy against that person in your waking life.

If you are dreaming of a person who has died long back, it means your subconscious mind can relate to a specific characteristic of that person with someone in the current life or there is some unfinished business. Death dreams represent different parts or aspects of your life that you want to change or have difficulty looking at. Use it to change your perspective about things and focus on your inner growth.

Driving Dreams

Dreaming that one is driving a vehicle, and it is out of control signifies that you don’t have the control you are looking for or want in your life, or you need to steer your life in another direction. It can also mean you are trying too hard to control things, and need to relax a little.

Dreams of delays, crashing or being lost can indicate you need to understand your current situation and see what needs changing. Crashing can also be related to your emotional or physical state, and its a clear sign to take some rest or slow down.

If you are a passenger in the car, it signifies passivity and you might be following someone else’s decisions, but you are not confident about their decisions and that is why the car is not in control.

“Dreams are today’s answers to tomorrow’s questions.” ~ Edgar Cayce

Good or bad, dreams are a glorious way set by the universe to help us create a perfect harmony in conscious and unconscious mind. Dreaming serves as an outlet for those thoughts and feelings we repress during the day, find new paths and gives an insight into your inner self.

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The Honeymoon Effect and Realizing Your True Potential: Interview with Bruce Lipton ~ Part 3

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Bhavika

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November 24, 2014

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The Honeymoon Effect and Realizing Your True Potential: Interview with Bruce Lipton ~ Part 3

In this last part of the interview with Bruce Lipton he talks about the Honeymoon Effect, and how relationships can remain healthy if each couple understands the true power of the conscious and subconscious mind.

He also highlights the power of thoughts in changing the genetic activity of cells – either positive or negative – and both are equally powerful in changing the behavior in the genes.

6) How do you convey the idea of perfect health or ‘everything will be ok’ to your subconscious?

You have to see the world as being okay and healthy, because when you view the world that way, the subconscious programs will also complement those behaviors. The cells will see ‘oh life is beautiful’ and if we believe that, the idea of ‘oh I see perfect health’ gets translated by the brain into chemistry.

Just as I said, love as an idea translate into one chemistry and fear as an idea translates into different chemistry, therefore when you are visualizing or thinking that everything will be ok, you are sending signals of harmony, happiness via the brain to the cells. This is how you can convey the idea to the subconscious.

Now if you repeat this behavior consistently, remember repetition is creating new habits, then without even thinking about it you will end up seeing the world as everything is okay, and seeing yourself in perfect health and that will make the brain continually release the chemistry of that vision.

7) Based on your book ‘The Honeymoon Effect’, what are the few most important aspects for a couple to sustain the ‘honeymoon effect’? (If you can highlight a few)

In the movie, Matrix, everyone is programmed. If they take the blue pill, everyone stays the same and if they take the red pill they get out of the program. The interesting thing about it is, as I said in the beginning, most of our life 95% of the day is controlled by the subconscious programs which are other people’s behavior.

A important note – these behaviors are predominantly dis-empowering and self destructive. But then you would say, if I saw these behavior I wouldn’t do them. This is the problem that people have to understand, when you are thinking you are not paying attention, so you default to the programs in the subconscious.

The problem is because your conscious mind is not paying attention during that moment, you are also not seeing the behavior.

In fact the ones that do see the behavior are other people who are watching us. Every now and then does a behavior get observed and we are like, “Oh my gosh, I was just behaving like my father, or I was behaving like my mother.” This is where we got the programs from, and this is what’s going on 95% of the day, whether you see it or not.

So the Honeymoon effect is just like the movie The Matrix, its when we unconsciously took the red pill and got out of the programs of the subconscious, and how did that happen? The answer is this – when you fall in love, what were your life’s wishes, your ambitions and desires.

When you fall in love, you find that wish being answered and the person in your life being what you desire. It also means you don’t let your conscious mind wander, for a simple reason, what you wanted to have is now in front of you.

The important part of that is on a regular day we only run our lives 5% with our conscious mind’s wishes and desires and we run it 95% from the programs we got from other people.

When you fall in love we stay in what’s called ‘mindful,’ its a way of life where you keep your conscious mind in the present moment and don’t let it wander. So if you keep your conscious mind in the present moment then it is running your behavior (that’s the mind that has the wishes and desires). When you stay conscious, you create behavior that gives you your wishes and desires, that’s the honeymoon effect.

The honeymoon is this period where people’s life is like heaven on earth and they are so excited and healthy. I say that because they are experiencing what they want in their lives through the conscious mind.

Unfortunately, the honeymoon ends because at some point life gets very busy and the conscious mind has to start thinking and the moment the conscious mind starts thinking we are no longer behaving from the behaviors of wishes, but its controlled by the subconscious.

Honeymoon ends when your consciousness goes off into thoughts and as a result you start playing the programs in the subconscious. Now the relationship is based on 4 minds – the two conscious minds of wishes and desires and the two subconscious minds with programs.

As the subconscious mind program starts to take more power, the more thinking we are doing and running the subconscious and those programs are negative programs. When this bad behavior shows up in a relationship, it shows up without even the two people being aware that they are doing it.

Communication problems causes the breakdown of the harmony of the honeymoon and that ends. One of the most important aspect for a couple to sustain it – both should recognize that honeymoon was created from their wishes and desires; their personal source, their spirit, their identity because its the conscious mind. But when bad behavior shows up it doesn’t really represent them, but the programs they got from other people.

Its not the person in a relationship that is bad but the program that’s bad. If they are both aware that the bad behavior is not coming from their wishes and desires, it comes from the subconscious mind, so rather getting into arguments and fights, lets change these behaviors.

If they change the negative ones and replace them with positive behaviors every time they default to the subconscious, they start playing the positive programs and this way you will keep the honeymoon alive.

8) How can one sabotage beliefs of the conditioned mind, to be able to realize its true power?

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Beliefs or the conditions of the subconscious mind are programs and if you want to experience its powers then basically, you have to be aware of them and rewrite the programs. People wonder what are my programs, especially because if I was being programmed even before I was born in the last trimester and the first 7 years, (pregnancy is when programming starts).

Do you remember the program when you were one year old, obviously I don’t, then there is an issue. How will I know what the programs are, because I wasn’t conscious when the programs were being created.

The answer is simple, 95% of our lives comes from the subconscious mind, because the conscious mind is thinking that means your life is like a print out of your subconscious programs. You have to look at your life and see the things that work and things that have come into your life easily, they are there because of the programs in the subconscious that encourage them.

But the things you want or create are difficult, and you have to work hard to make them happen. The reason you have to put so much effort is because you have programs that do not support your wish, and therefore you are trying to overcome a program that is operating 95% of the day that doesn’t support you.

You don’t have to go through psychoanalysis, all you have to do is look at your life – what ever comes easy is because you have programs, and whatever you have to work hard at and put a lot of effort into, those issues aren’t supported by the program.

Through the processes of the subconscious reprogramming mentioned before, once you know what the negative programs are, you can work specifically to rewrite them and make them positive programs, and your life will be empowered.

9) Most people ask for scientific evidence to back theories such as the power of your thoughts. What would you like to say to them?

Its a 100 years of research on something called the placebo effect. It is simply the fact that a positive thought can reverse the illness or genetic problem just because of the belief of that positive thought.

Placebo by definition is the expression of the positive thought and in fact research reveals that from one third to two-thirds of all medical healing is actually the result of the placebo and not due to drugs or surgery.

The placebo effect is a very powerful, scientifically understood process that reveals how the power of thought affects your biology and health. But now through Epigenetic research, we can see that how people change their thoughts, change their genes.

For example, just being in meditation for 8 hours can change the genes that control the immune system and help create better health.

Even taking placebo pills has been shown to be the result of a thought and those thoughts in turn change the behavior and genetic activity of the cells involved. Thoughts are very very powerful and one more study just to tell you about this.

Dean Ornish, a scientist in San Francisco, has revealed that taking prostate cancer patients and helping them change their stresses by teaching them meditation techniques and stress reduction techniques led to the patients change 500 genes in 90 days and most of them were associated with prostrate cancer.

Basically again we can see through the actual placebos that thoughts are very powerful because they heal, we can see through the actions of epigenetics studies how behavioral changes of an individual lead to genetic changes in their genome.

I wanted to add one last conclusion that all of these are talking about the consequences of positive thoughts affecting genes. People also need to know that negative thoughts are equally powerful to changing the behavior in the genes, but in the opposite direction. When positive thoughts can lead to healing, negative thoughts actually lead to disease and death.

Thoughts are powerful whether they are positive or negative, we’ve only been focusing on the nature of positive thinking but we must emphasize that negative thinking will cause illness and disease and it becomes important in our world because the predominant thoughts that people have are negative thoughts.

So people should know that both – positive and negative – are powerful.

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Love: How to Return Back to What We Already are

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Nikki Sapp

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November 22, 2014

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Love: How to Return Back to What We Already are

“Love isn’t all we need, love is all there is” ~ Morgan Matson

So it probably sounds too good to be true, way oversimplified or like some cliche inspirational quote you see that doesn’t really mean anything nor does it make sense, but love is all there is. In fact, it would be safe to say that all “problems” or perceived problems in the world stem from the belief that we are not already perfect, that we are not love.

I think most people can agree upon the fact that we come into the world completely perfect. Babies are without any stains or imperfections on their being. I was a baby. You were a baby. So what happened? When did we transform from this perfect little being, a pure manifestation of love into less than perfect?

“Love is the only reality and not a mere sentiment. It is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation” ~ Rabindranath Tagore

At some point we all started to buy into a belief system. This belief system most likely was based on things your parents believed, what your culture taught you, what religion you were a part of or combination of these plus many other things. Any belief system is based in comparisons… “It is good to be this way, and bad to be that way”, “this is a sin, this is not a sin”, or “this is acceptable and this is unacceptable.”

We are forced to judge ourselves against the belief system. There are parts of us that fit into the belief system perfectly, and then there are parts that don’t fit. Maybe we think we’re too tall, too short, too big, too small, too smart, too stupid, too rich, or too poor.

It doesn’t really matter what it is but at a certain point something that we see in ourselves doesn’t measure up to the standards put forth by the belief system. The belief system or systems become our “rule book” by what we measure ourselves by.

We think, “Society says that this look is the right one, so that’s what I must strive to be,” or we may say “My religion says this behavior is acceptable, and this behavior is not. So since I don’t always act in an ‘acceptable’ way, I must be bad.”

Over time the belief systems become ingrained in our psyche. We measure how good, worthy, or bad and unworthy we are against it. We become so attached to the belief system that we think that is who we are. In actuality nothing has happened. We were still perfect, we were still love, but we started to believe we weren’t.

The belief of who we thought we were or were not became our sense of self, and the illusion was rampant. Everyone we met was suffering from it… everyone we met was operating from the standpoint that they weren’t good enough, or they were too good, they weren’t rich enough, or they were too rich, they weren’t smart enough, and so on and so forth.

No one was realizing that perfection had never really left us, that we only believed it had based on a fraudulent “rule book” that didn’t actually exist. Since our fragile little sense of self was resonating in the fear of not being good enough, instead of the love that we actually are, we started perceiving the world in the only way we could… which was the same way we perceived ourselves, not good enough.

Since we didn’t believe we were perfect, the world we saw mirrored back to us the belief. However, our egos found it way more comfortable to point at everyone else’s “flaws” and “problems” instead of looking at our own. So we judged, and we criticized. And we were sure we were right and they were wrong.

As more time passed we went farther and farther away from the love and perfection that we actually were and became more and more attached to the belief systems based in illusion. We started to believe money, power and more material possessions would make us happy.

Our political leaders convinced us we needed more power, more weapons and more defense. So there were wars, people were killed on both sides and with each ending war another one soon started.

Year after year, decade after decade, the belief that we weren’t already love and already perfect manifested at us not recognizing the love in everyone around us based on the belief system we felt was the “right” one, which soon turned in turn manifested at us judging each other, and fighting with each other on small and larger scales.

So where does it all end? How do we escape from the tangled web we’ve woven over the years and come back to our own perfection and love?

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

The only thing left to do is come back to what we’ve been this whole time, love and perfection. It starts with awareness and complete questioning of our own thoughts and behavior. When we become aware of the parts of ourselves that believe that we are not enough we can question them.

What we will find is that every belief that we have that we are not good enough or measuring up is based on a belief system that is not even real nor is it set in stone anywhere. It’s all an illusion. Even the thought that you have that says that you aren’t good should be loved.

Unraveling the illusion of imperfection will take time. You most likely won’t be able to just say, “Ok, now I believe I’m perfect” and that’s it, everything changes. These are beliefs that have been forced in your conscious and subconscious mind over and over and over. Just like we can’t fight for peace, we can’t hate ourselves into loving ourselves.

We can’t resonate with the perfection inside of us until we accept and love every single aspect of ourselves, if we are judging people, ok, love the thought of judgment. If we hate a group of people, love that thought so much that eventually it just goes away. Love is a form of surrender, when we surrender to the ego illusions they can’t keep fighting with us.

One by one, we will start to see that we are love, and since we only will recognize the love in ourselves, we will start to only see the love in others, EVEN if they are different than us. If each one of us starts resonating in our own perfection, we will subconsciously give other people we meet the permission to resonate in their own love. This is how the world will change.

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