“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~ Lao Tzu
If you know for sure whether you are in or are attracting a twin flame connection, you may be beginning to notice the profound and highly intense cycles you have now been cast head over feet into.
It’s as if you’ve been stuffed in some sort of transcendental washing machine where you can never be sure if it’s stargazer soap or karmic water that’s going to be thrown in your face next and churned into a frothy soup.
Rather than reach for your A-Z of how to survive the matrix or pelt yourself with bullets of rationality until you feel numb again, accept that you are ready for this awe-inspiring challenge they call relationships and that you have the glimmer of success already soaring like a meteorite across your eyes.
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ~ Dr. Seuss
Here are the 8 stages of the twin flame connection:
In the opening act you feel a burning desire to actually have a soul connection with another person in the first place. For the very independent and entrepreneurial among us, we may have never put this down on the list of lifetime goals before, and it is neither fear of loneliness or our own demise that is instigating that desire.
Instead it’s like we’ve finally arrived at the next obvious chapter that we wish to add to our book of successes, plus the realization that we may excel even better at the work we wish to achieve in this lifetime with another soul signed up… And apart from anything else, it’ll be more fun.
For those more romantic among us, we have been on a sharp course of self-love and are beginning to accept ourselves so much so that we feel ready for a deep connection with someone else.
We now have enough awareness of our identity, we no longer need to fall back in to those patterns of abuse we kept attracting in the past. We are ready for maturity and the death of the ego.
The first sighting
Having made the intention to find this person on a conscious or subconscious level, we are now treated to either a physical glimpse of them, or a meeting with them in a dream or vision.
This second stage can appear to come before the first stage when we don’t realize we’ve already made the decision to find someone because it was on a subconscious level.
The first sighting, as described in spotting the twin flame connection, will be unforgettable. You may be slow to admit anything out of the ordinary, especially when life has taught you to be cautious, but the best way to view it is that this meeting has instigated or reignited your spiritual path and given it focus and direction.
You may sense that this person is ‘home’ to you and have a strong sensation that you are coming home, and that they will lead you there.
Rising in love
Rising in love (OK, falling in love) either apart or together as you explore each other both verbally and energetically, you run a series of intuitive ‘tests’ that determine whether this person will bring you closer to your true self and the work you came here to do.
This may be inescapable and, even though every thought stored in your mind is going – don’t do it! It doesn’t make sense! It happens anyway. You will feel doubt, you will have trouble keeping your feet on the ground, but you trust it and thoroughly enjoy the ride. You are ascending.
The ecstasy of the relationship has arrived, and it was worth the wait. If you had forgotten how to be in the moment and embrace love to the fullest, then this is the relationship that deposits you firmly back into presence and bliss. All your desires are completely fulfilled and return to the true expression of yourself – the one that was You before any fears of rejection obscured that truth.
Your twin flame partner IS you and so you melt into one another. You turn heads when you’re together and become frequency transmuters by your sheer presence. You show the way like the pair of exemplary lightworkers you are.
Here arrives the first really testing stage of the relationship. As you may have already experienced on a solitary scale, the relationship begins to allow you to transmute your denser energies and, if you are mature enough to handle it, transform them into pure light.
You may feel inner turmoil and a sense of being purged; an intense swing of emotions that is highlighted by any relationship, especially when faced with the need to continue to focus on the positive aspects of the other when their negative ones keep rising up right in front of your nose.
With the twin flame connection these core wounds will feel even more intense and trying, yet you will feel a compassion for them where you hadn’t for all the soul mates who came before.
However, the smallest threads of karma still alive within you will be wrenched out and twirled around the finger of the other, and it will take only the most compassionate and willing to continue the love regardless.
Cat and mouse
If you reach boiling point and cannot stand the heat, it may do you both good to have a cooling-off period. This may happen within the relationship or result in the end of the relationship, but you will find your way back to each other before too long.
As the video at the end of the article points out, you may repeat this and the previous stage many times before reaching the ability to give up your own egos for the sake of the relationship and the work you can achieve together.
There may be a lot of running and chasing, but you will find yourselves inextricably drawn back together time and time again.
You surrender all fears and resistance of love and any wounds you had in the past and decide not to apply them to this relationship.
You give up all ego and vanity that has you chasing other people or hankering to the fixed image you had of your future self. You dissolve self and become one, yet individually bouncing off one another and feeding each other’s connection to the Source.
Shared meaning and purpose
Your shared purpose has been refocused on and gained new strength. You both grow rapidly and embrace your highly mature and spiritually advanced selves. You are equally ready to become one with your inner beings and the truth and authenticity this surrender brings.
You have reached bliss and harmony with one another, and now you can soar. So there it is, the miracle of the twin flame relationship in all its glorious stages. Do you see yourself in one, or all of these? This is the work you came here to do, and it’s magnificent.