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Surrender: When Free Will Converges with Universal Will

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“In total surrender of the ego, the transformation of our vibration unfolds by itself to levels far beyond our imagination” ~ Annette Duveroth

It is often discussed whether or not destiny and fate are real, or if we come here with complete free will to create our life however we choose. Technically we can see the evidence of both. We hear stories of how people were in the right place at the right time to discover someone or something that completely changed their life.

surrender to the flow of the universePeople have dreams or premonitions of instances before they happen, which can only lead us to believe that some circumstances are fated to occur. On the other side of the coin, we see people who waste their entire lives on an addiction or in a dysfunctional relationship only to just grow older, get sicker and eventually just die, which leads to the question, “Was that really their destiny?”

Couldn’t a few better choices in their life have led them down a path that would have eventually led them to a happier and more fulfilling life? In these instances, we have to assume that the individual person’s exercise of their free will led them to make a series of unconscious choices which ultimately led to their demise.
So on one hand we can see that there is a will of the Universe which is more commonly known as fate or destiny. The will of the Universe is the best possible case scenario of our lives that will lead exactly to the life we have always wanted and probably better than we can ever have imagined, but there is also free will.

Through free will we can make choices that are motivated more by fear and less by love which will lead us farther and farther away from the plan that the Universe has for us. So how do we marry the two? How can we make our free will match up with the will of the Universe and straight into our “best case scenario” life?

surrender“Transformation happens on the other side of surrender” ~ Unknown

The concept of surrender is often hard for the human ego to grasp. It can’t possibly comprehend how it will go about creating the life it wants while at the same time surrendering to the unknown (fate of the Universe).

The fear or attachment to outcomes makes it constantly think it needs to control and manipulate circumstances so that it can always be “involved” and “in control” of all decision making and that maintains its relevance or illusion of relevance in our psyche.

However, it is this constant attachment to how we want things to happen that actually prevents the will of the Universe from being able to manifest. Attachment stems from fear. In terms of energy, attachment causes us to contract, to be closed off and also causes blockages in our energy field which prevent the flow of universe from being able to move to and through us.

Surrender is based in love. Outside of the ego in our true selves, we are just love. It is only our ego that causes us to believe that we need to seek outside of us for what we already are.

The more conscious we become we start to resonate in this loving space more and recognize it as the real “us” instead of all the fearful thought forms and beliefs that are floating through our minds on any given day.

When we completely surrender to whatever the Universe presents us in terms of our external reality, we start not only making conscious choices (choices motivated by love instead of fear) but we allow the will of the Universe to take over our lives which means we don’t have to worry and stress about having absolute and complete control of every situation which becomes a huge relief.

Doesn’t it sound nice to be able to relinquish a little bit of the constant worrying our minds throw at us and instead surrender our burdens to an intelligence that is much higher and greater than our own?

When we are able to surrender and trust this higher intelligence we allow destiny and fate to be more prevalent in our lives which usually pops up in the form of “synchronicities” or more commonly known as “coincidence”. When we see lots of synchronicity in our lives we can be assured that our will is starting to match up with the will of the Universe.

“The goal of life is to match your heartbeat to the beat of the Universe” ~ Joseph Campbell

In our complete and utter trust, faith and surrender of our “plan” to the plan of a higher intelligence we will most assuredly see that there is a life that is waiting for us that is above and beyond anything we could have planned for ourselves. Patience is also the key.
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Along the way we can always look for the signs. The signs and synchronicities are everywhere. They come in forms of other people, books you read, something someone says on tv or through music, and they remind us that we are on track.

Also, if we focus on each decision that is presented to us throughout our day and simplify it down to whether our choice is motivated by love or by fear it makes it a little easier when deciding what to do.

Love will always bring us closer to our best selves and ultimately to our best case scenario life. The more rooted in love we become, the more conscious our choices, which means the more we can let go, stop controlling and start giving over to the higher intelligence.

At this higher level of consciousness beyond any preconceived notions and plans of how we want things to go, we converge our “free will” with the will of the universe which ultimately leads us to a good life.

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Abdominal Breathing : Tapping into the Real Power of Breath

While we are in the womb, we receive oxygen from the placenta & umbilical cord. But the moment we are born, we are on our own. Our body is in a panic state, we gasp for air, and we cry. The lungs fill up with oxygen for the first time & we embark on a new journey.

The significance of the very first breath is beyond comprehension. The ideal situation demands us to replicate the first breath for the rest of our lifetime but unfortunately, we create constrictions with emotions like anxiety & stress thereby distorting the perfect picture.

When we are born, we are not taught how to breathe, but as we grow, we unlearn this perfect ‘How’ to ‘how not’. Yes! The way we are breathing right now is not how we were created to do it. So what is the right way? Yoga has all the answers to these perplexing mysteries of life.

For centuries, the yogic gurus have been focusing on the correct form of breathing. However, there are many ways of breathing in yoga, the one we would be discussing here is a simple way, the one we should practice everyday.

Have you ever noticed a child or an animal breathing? Without any stress or anxiety, s/he raises the stomach on inhalation and flattens the belly with exhalation.

The simple yet effective way to breathe is called abdominal breathing or diaphragmatic breathing.

Adults often lose touch with their natural flow of breath, thereby engaging only in shallow or chest breathing. Reawakening it allows you to tap one of your body’s strongest self-healing mechanisms. Let us first understand the mechanism of abdominal breathing.

How does Abdominal Breathing work?

Our lungs and the intercostal muscles are attached at the end with the diaphragm. These thin, dome shaped muscles works in coordination with the lungs under the influence of breath.

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As we breathe, the rib cage expands out and the diaphragm contracts & is pressed down. It massages the internal organs of the abdomen, lifting the abdominal wall out. This leads to a rise in the abdomen when we breathe.

When we breathe out, the lungs also flatten out, chest contracts and come back to the normal position. The diaphragm position is restored and the abdominal wall that was lifted earlier also comes back to its resting position. This leads to a fall in the abdomen when we breathe out.

This is considered to be the most effective and refined way of breathing. Often suggested during meditation, abdominal breathing is invaluable and reaps long-term benefits.

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How do you practice abdominal breathing?

Now, that we know the mechanism of abdominal or belly breathing, this simple technique can be carried out anytime, anywhere. The first and foremost step in the whole process is to keep the attention fixed on the breath, at least initially.

Feel the movement of breathing, as you inhale and exhale. Next lie down on your back if possible. Gently close your eyes and focus on the breathing pattern. Let all your thoughts drift away.

Once you are aware of the breath, gently place your hand on your stomach above the navel. Simply breathe in and out. Feel the movement of the abdomen. The expansions and the contractions hold the secret of healthy living.

Now, place the other hand on your chest. An important thing to observe is that the hand on the chest should not really move up with the movement created by breathing. It can lightly rise up with expansions of the chest but not towards the shoulders.

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Also, while you breathe in, inhale through the nose and when you breathe out, exhale like you are blowing a candle through the mouth (you can also gently breathe in and out through the nose). Carry this simple procedure every day for some weeks until it’s ingrained in your mind enough to become your normal breathing style.

Abdominal breathing practice can be done anytime, preferably an hour before or after eating meals. This is the way one can step into the world of perfect breathing filled with peace, tranquility, and happiness.

What are the Benefits of abdominal breathing?

I would ask the question other way round. Which diseases are not covered under this style?Everything falls under the peripheries of this great style. Only if we follow, would we know the real art of living and breathing. When the breath is refined, no diseases can harm you. Here are some of the benefits:

  • Reduces anxiety, stress, and mental disorders.importance-of-breathing
  • Reduces the chances of cancer by 400%
  • Lowers the risk of heart ailments
  • Strengthens the digestive fire and stimulates internal organs to perform better
  • Increases the flow of the blood and thins the blood due to added oxygen by proper breathing
  • Reduces the signs of aging and wrinkles
  • Reduces the risk of diabetes by strengthening the insulin levels
  • Busts insomnia and induces refined sleep patterns
  • Strengthens the immune system, thereby fighting everyday diseases
  • Improves concentration, focus, allowing one to meditate properly

This is not all, there are many other benefits of conducting abdominal breathing. The only thing required is the first step. Once you start walking in the right direction, you would not want to look back.

Often in the race of time, in the battle of the best we forget to realize our true purpose of life. What we were born to do. Finding & fulfilling the purpose of life is the most significant revelation that can ever happen to a human being.

With abdominal breathing, one can slip into relaxed living, thereby allowing the practitioner to drift into meditative pauses and to further find & fulfill their purpose of life.

Let’s begin.

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Four Ways to Turn the Tables on Tyranny

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“Our strategy should be not only to confront empire, but to lay siege to it. To deprive it of oxygen. To shame it. To mock it. With our art, our music, our literature, our stubbornness, our joy, our brilliance, our sheer relentlessness – and our ability to tell our own stories. Stories that are different from the ones we’re being brainwashed to believe.” ~ Arundhati Roy

In the wake of yet another tragic example of how the voting system simply does not work, many of us are left scratching our heads asking, “What kind of democracy is this?”

Well, simply put, it isn’t a democracy at all. It’s a tyrannical oligarchy of the worst kind: one that’s disguised as a democracy and hidden behind the smoke and mirrors of political propaganda. Just because governmental decrees are no longer issued by royal fiat but are instead issued by lobbying and propaganda, doesn’t make it any less tyrannical. It is nothing more than inverted totalitarianism.

And it is our responsibility, if we would be proactive citizens, to revert this totalitarianism. The 99% must turn the tables on the 1% or we will not survive as a species on this planet. It’s as simple as that.

Here are four ways we can turn the tables on tyrannical oligarchy.

1.) Mock Plutocracy

“There’s class warfare, all right, but it’s my class, the rich class, that’s making war, and we’re winning.” ~ Warren Buffett

Wake up to the fact that the plutocrats have created their own economic apartheid. Money is the illusory carrot being dangled between you and the truth.

The way the current oligarchy maintains its vice-grip on power is by making the people believe that it’s all okay because greed is good, and making money is important, and with enough money comes the freedom to do what you want like buying the rules made by government and funding lobbyists who significantly contribute to the laws that Congress writes and passes.

While the world goes through the motions of getting poorer and poorer the moneyed elite are getting richer and richer, to the extent that it is costing people their lives. We must be able to muster the courage to put our foot down and draw a line in the sand. A declaration of emergence is needed.

One way to put our foot down is to mock the plutocratic entities that have a monopoly on power and to ridicule the cult of personality.

Shame is a very powerful psychological motivator. The sooner we make them realize that they have to be morally responsible with their power, the sooner we will be able to bring balance to the world.

And the way we make them realize it is through the stultifying effect of shame.

Like Confucius said, “In a country well governed, poverty is something to be ashamed of. In a country badly governed, wealth is something to be ashamed of.”

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And have no illusions, countries the world over are badly governed. Through a healthy mockery of their power we inadvertently get power over power and turn the tables on the power dynamic.

2.) Defy the Police State

“A primary purpose of the police is to enforce the delusions of those with lots of pieces of green paper. Those without the green papers generally buy into these delusions almost as quickly and completely as those with. These delusions carry with them extreme consequences in the real world.” ~ Derrick Jensen

No longer do police act in the capacity of peace officers. Now they are simply hired thugs of a government that no longer has the best interest of the people at heart. Like George Orwell said, “The capitalist society is a police society where the number one goal is the protection of upper class property.”
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While the governments of the world have been taken over by corporate interests, bankers and special interest groups, our countries have been turned into police states.

Systems of control vainly attempt to keep everything the way it is, inefficient with a controlled obsolescence, so that We the People keep buying things we don’t need so that the rich can keep auctioning elections and buying laws to keep the poor suppressed.

Like Stefan Molyneux said, “To efficiently control the human farm, you need a majority of broken, self-attacking, insecure, shallow, vain and ambitious sheep, forever consumed by inconsequentialities like weight, abs and celebrities –and a minority of volatile, angry and dominant sheepdogs, which you can dress up in either a green (military) or a blue (police) costume and use to threaten and manage the herd.”

Black-booted police state beware, your fascist violence is no match for our creative freedom. The so called “herd” is methodically being populated with wolves in sheep clothing, and we will bite if we’re cornered. We can turn the tables on the police state by mocking it like Pussy Riot mocked Putin, and like Anonymous mocks power.

“History does not repeat itself,” wrote Mark Twain, “but it rhymes.” And we’re here to bring an updated healthy rhyme to your outdated dissonant rhythms. Your watchdog heart and brainwashed brains don’t stand a chance against our compassionate hearts and open minds. Your days are numbered.

Civil disobedience has always been a game-changer and the game is about to change. You might as well just toss those badges in the trash for all they’ll be worth. Better yet, join us. The thin blue line is an illusion at best.

3.) Ridicule the NDAA

“The NDAA is not about protecting us. It is about protecting the state from us. That is why no one in the executive or legislative branch is going to restore our rights. The new version of the NDAA, like the old ones, provides our masters with the legal shackles to make our resistance impossible. And that is their intention.” ~ Chris Hedges

When Adolf Hitler was in power in Germany he was quoted as saying, “What good fortune for governments that the people do not think.” Don’t be an unthinking citizen easily influenced by the likes of Hitler. Become a self-aware proactive citizen instead. Like Frederick Douglas wrote, “Knowledge makes a man unfit to be a slave.” Indeed, the more we know, the more capable we are of remaining free men and women.

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As it stands, The National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) is the most diabolically authoritarian law to ever come down the governmental chute. It’s anti-freedom in the name of security, the most deceptive kind of law.

The NDAA is a greater threat to our national liberty than the terrorism from which it claims to protect us from. It impermissibly impinges on guaranteed First Amendment rights and lacks sufficient protections to meet the requirements of due process.

Simply put, it is an instrument for the government to restrain the people. The constitution used to be an instrument for the people to constrain the government, but with legislation like the NDAA and the Patriot Act, the instrument of the constitution is useless and no longer holds a tune.

It’s past time that we get out there and petitioned against the NDAA. We must ridicule it. We must scorn it to the nth degree. Blaspheme it in the face of the president if need be. Inform people about how corrupt it really is. People will remain ignorant as long as we allow them to be.

Let’s not allow them to be; not only for the sake of their freedom but for our own, as well as for the freedom of our children and our children’s children. People are born to be free. Ridiculing acts like the NDAA, and attempting to abolish them, are ways of safeguarding such freedoms.

4.) Challenge the Mass Surveillance State

“It’s better to die on your feet than live on your knees.” ~ Emiliano Zapata

1984-poster-big-brother In 1970 Operation Shamrock was an NSA program that used warrantless surveillance to spy on private telegrams leaving the US. In 1978 The Foreign Intelligence Surveillance Act (FISA) was written in by congress to prevent this violation.

But beginning with the adoption of the Patriot Act in 2001 (The government’s backbone-less, scared-stupid response to 9-11.) “the floodgates opened for covert government surveillance not only for the NSA, FBI, CIA and Homeland Security but for hundreds of municipal and state governments, a green light to infiltrate and spy on millions of American citizens” (Renee Parsons).

Now FISA is a dead horse that’s been beaten into non-recognition, because it has been morphed into a vehicle of covert means shielded from effective oversight through countless amendments by the Bush and Obama administrations. And now congress itself is hung-up on the fear-mongering tactics of the War on Terror.

It is now up to us, We the People, to challenge this surveillance state, lest we inadvertently become what George Orwell warned us against in his novel 1984. Leaking information has become the civil disobedience of our age.

The late historian and activist Howard Zinn described the act of civil disobedience as “the deliberate, discriminate violation of law for a vital social purpose… Such acts become not only justifiable but necessary when a fundamental human right is at stake and when legal channels are inadequate for securing that right.”

Even Thomas Jefferson realized it, writing, “If a law is unjust, a man is not only correct to disobey it, he is obligated to do so.” Snowden, Manning, Assange, Jeremy Hammond, and the late Aaron Swartz have all continued the tradition of civil disobedience by revealing the details of global mass surveillance programs.

However, we must remember that it is not so much these government agencies that are calling the policy shots, but the transnational mega-corporations, with their private armies of lawyers and lobbyists, who are pulling the strings of presidents, and getting entire governments to dance to their greedy tune. It’s time to change the tune.

It’s time to interrupt their corrupt dance. It’s time to challenge the powers that be. Nothing short of the survival of the human race is at stake.

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Redefining the Sacred Masculine

“When the Sacred Masculine is combined with the sacred feminine inside each of us, we create the ‘sacred marriage’ of compassion and passion in ourselves.” ~ Matthew Fox

The age of armored masculinity is dead and dying at our feet. It’s a bloody tangle of weaponry and bloated egos glued together by myopic one-upmanship and congealed rage.

But buried in the rot and decay are the seeds of a new way of being a man in this world, a reawakening of our awareness of the sacred brought on by the reemergence of the divine feminine. No amount of armor can suppress it. No amount of weaponry can keep it at bay.

The New Shiva is growing robust and powerful alongside the New Shakti. The world may not be ready for this New Man to emerge, but emerge he must, if we are to continue living on a planet which is demanding that a healthier more sustainable man appear.

In the same way that both men and women have a feminine aspect, so too do both genders have a masculine aspect. According to analytical psychologist Carl Jung, the feminine aspect of a man is called the anima and the masculine aspect of a woman is called the animus. The New Man, this Shiva incarnate, has the ability to tap into his anima, thereby awakening the divine energy of Shakti from its unconscious state into a state of conscious awareness.

He uses this energy to create rather than destroy, to catalyze rather than militarize, to heal instead of injure. He understands, as Andrea Gibson wrote, “We have to create. It is the only thing louder than destruction.” And so he continually creates ever-changing arenas for further creation.

For thousands of years mankind has been afraid of the light. Even Plato recognized it in his day, saying, “We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” No more.

The redefining of the sacred male principle is the dawn of a new vibrant light, a mature masculinity that is not abusive, domineering or grandiose, but generative, creative, and empowering.

-creative-surreal-and-dark-art-piecesHe is vulnerable without shame, revealing that his now discarded armor of invulnerability was nothing more than an illusion that hid his true power. He is now free and open to rediscover and reconnect with the power of nature and the cosmos. Tanks be damned. Warmongers be damned.

He is ready to establish true relationships with authenticity and integrity. The Great Mystery moves through him, reminding him constantly that he is it and it is him. He is a force of nature first, a man second, the spear of Gaia herself. And no amount of perceived invulnerability can guard against it.

Without the parochial armor of old weighing him down, he frees himself to honor the path of descent, where he engages with the unconscious underworld and is initiated by the Great Mystery itself.

Through this initiation he discovers his anima. He discovers his shadow. He discovers a plethora of sub-selves all in contention for his subconscious.

He learns how to make them all conscious. He learns how to wrestle with them, engage with them, play with them, ushering in the beginning of his individuation.

After his initiation he takes the first steps toward self-actualization, leaving behind the codependence of his youth and the independence of his courage, and engaging soulfully with the interdependence of his divine masculinity.

He has gone from New Man to New God in a mighty feat of self-overcoming that he realizes will require many more feats of the same.

Together with the Sacred feminine, this New God is prepared to engage with the world in a way never before seen. He is Whitman’s multitudes, Goethe’s Faust, Shelly’s Prometheus, Camus’ Sisyphus, and Nietzsche’s Übermensch.

reclaiming-sacred-masculineHe is Robert Moore’s King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover all wrapped up into one overtly evolving creature. Animal happy, he is Iron John, Wild Man, Father Sky, and Green Man. He is eco-systemic, soul-centric, the prolific planter of the seeds of healthy sustainable change.

He rides alongside the fifth horseman of the apocalypse, protecting her when need be, but mostly empowering her and helping her to see that she is the most powerful thing to ever have existed on the planet.

He is the tip of the spear, self-overcoming and constantly adapting to the constantly changing “air” he flies through. He understands, as Jennifer Ratner-Rosenhagen said, “The real struggle of the heroic individual is not solely to liberate himself from conflict with society, but rather to use the conflict within himself as a source for self-regeneration.”

He is a lover par excellence. But he understands – balls to bones – that love does not imply pacifism. His love is his honor, his honesty, and his sincerity in an otherwise dishonorable, dishonest, and insincere world. He has learned how to swallow his pride. He has learned how to forgive.

Indeed, he has learned to forgive all things, not because all things are worthy of forgiveness, but because he is worthy of peace. And through such vulnerable forgiveness, his love shines like a mighty beacon of hope for others.

He understands that love is a double-edged sword, with which he chooses to stab himself, over and over again, in order to discover the harsh pain of Truth. He accepts that true love is a beautiful annihilation. Like Ken Wilber said, “Real love will take you far beyond yourself; and therefore real love will devastate you.”
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In the end, the sacred masculine exists precisely because of such devastation, rising up from the ashes like his sister the Phoenix. The outdated modes of power that came before him, militaristic and uncouth, are the ashes from which he gathers himself into a force to be reckoned with, a new power that will turn the tables on mankind’s notions of power hitherto.

A power that will co-create a new breed of Hero who has the capacity to expiate his power in order to become a prestigious game changer as opposed to merely a powerful game controller; a truly robust infinite player with the ability to play multiple finite games while respecting the overall infinite game of life.

Militaristic men beware; the time for congratulating yourselves on being conquerors of the world will soon be at an end. Your unsustainable ideals and parochial idols are fast disintegrating all around you.

Soon there will be nothing left of your so-called invulnerable constructs of power. It’s time to make way for the healthy New Man, the vulnerable New God, and the truer power of the sacred masculine.

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How to be Confident while Remaining Humble

 “There’s a thin line between confidence and arrogance…it’s called humility. Confidence smiles, arrogance smirks” ~ Unknown

Somewhere along the line, what we recognized as confidence may have been misconstrued a little. We started associating traits like aggressive, loud, opinionated and arrogant with being a confident person. You’ve probably seen the type, or maybe you are the type.

They know FOR SURE that what they believe is the unequivocal truth. Therefore, they need to tell everyone about it…constantly.

When they aren’t able to convince someone to believe exactly as they believe, they may be caught calling others, “asleep” or a “sheep” or any other plethora of derogatory names that I probably can’t mention here. We also may have misconstrued what it means to be humble a little bit, too. Being Humble is associated with weak, shy, meek, and someone who cowers to others.

Someone who is so unsure of themselves or their beliefs that they keep them to themselves and are too insecure to tell everyone they meet their opinion on everything. Is there a way to be both?

Can a confident person also be a humble person? In order to answer that question, we must dissect what it means to be truly confident, and how does “artificial confidence” come about.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself the whole world accepts him or her” ~ Lao Tzu

There are many reasons a person may develop artificial/arrogant confidence. One may be cognitive dissonance, which means they may be holding on to a belief so tightly that when evidence is presented that contradicts this belief, they may be completely unwilling to look at the new evidence. They may have become so attached to this belief that it has become a part of their sense of self.

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Since they are completely attached to who they think they are, it may be a painful experience for them to open their mind up and see things from a different perspective. The actual energy behind holding on to a belief so tightly that you are unwilling to let it go is fear.

The human ego is always afraid to be found out, so to speak, therefore, any threat of someone or something coming along and debunking one of its belief attachments may bring about a negative emotional reaction such as anger. Anytime anger is involved, we can be assured that fear is the culprit behind it.

Genuine confidence doesn’t need to get angry because there is no part that fears being wrong or that others aren’t believing them. Another reason a person may develop artificial confidence is because they are insecure.

An insecure person may not truly believe in their theory or themselves, so they feel if they can convince others that they are absolutely the right one, they can at the same time convince themselves.

This is often done in an aggressive manner, because they are attached to the outcome of people believing them. Again, the fear behind not achieving the outcome they desire is causing them to act in a rude or aggressive manner. Genuine confidence can remain quiet, kind and humble because there is no underlying fear that needs other people to believe exactly what they are saying.

Genuine confidence is humble. It kind of realizes that most people are operating from their own level of understanding, and trying to convince them that they are “stupid” or “wrong” usually won’t work anyway. The humble part of them realizes that LIVING and BEING their truth is always more effective than incessant talking or convincing ever will be.

Also, humble confidence isn’t attached to being right. In fact, it happily welcomes new ideas and beliefs because it knows that only when it opens itself up to seeing things from all perspectives is it able to perhaps learn something new.

“The time which people spend in convincing others, even half of this time if they spend on themselves, then they can achieve a lot in life.” ~ Arvind Katoch

In order to maintain humble confidence about our beliefs, we must do two things. One is to question ourselves….constantly. You may ask yourself, “Do I know absolutely without a doubt that this belief is true?” Meaning, “Did I see it with my own eyes”- normally the answer to this will be no.

So not to say that you won’t have some beliefs about things that involve situations that you weren’t physically there, but it just means that you always maintain a healthy sense of doubt about your beliefs.

This doesn’t mean that you’re unsure of yourself, it means you are wise, because it means you are open to hearing new evidence. Or you can ask yourself, “Is it possible that I am so attached to this belief that it has become a part of who I think I am?” Or even, “Does it matter if the person I am telling about my belief believes me or not? In this present moment, does the fact that they are convinced or not convinced change anything in this exact moment in time?”

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You may find that most of the time, the answer to that is “no.” The other thing a person can do in order to remain humbly confident in their beliefs is to realize that every person they come in contact with can only understand things from their own level of understanding. Which means they are only operating from their own personal programming, which may or may not be completely different from yours.

So yes, there may be times when you tell someone something, and you enlighten them to something that they hadn’t thought of before, but there will also be times when any effort to convince will fall on deaf ears.

When you are unattached to the outcome, you will be fine with either without getting frustrated or angered. Once we realize that our “truth” may not be someone else’s “truth” we can completely relax into interpersonal relationships and take every interaction with a human being as a potential learning experience, which will allow us to always be learning and growing as a person.

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